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I quit..

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dontgetscarednow · 23/02/2024 12:17

I quit my toxic job, after months of deliberating and it negatively affecting my mental health.. today was my last day and I'm officially a free woman.

I feel slightly anxious about having left but it feels like a weight off my shoulders knowing I don't ever have to go back.

Why is part of me still doubting my decision though?

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dontgetscarednow · 23/02/2024 12:34

@Sparklesocks thank you. I think you're right.. even though I can feel deep down it's the right thing a part of me is like oh.. I've left myself without a job. Should I have stuck it longer, or just the voice in my head telling me I'm a bit pathetic not being able to stick it.

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dontgetscarednow · 23/02/2024 12:33

Thank you all, I've been thinking about it for a good 6 months.

Once I started to get migraines and panic attacks I realised it was not only just affecting me, but my children too.

I quite literally feel like I can feel a physical weight lifted from my shoulders. I've had so many sleepless nights. I feel a bit lost though as doing this has been all that has occupied my mind for months so now it's like.. what now.

Luckily I have savings and very few financial commitments

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Sparklesocks · 23/02/2024 12:31

With any major decision I think there will always be an element of ‘well what if I had done X instead?’ but it sounds like this was the right move based on what you’ve said. No job should be at the expense of your health, enjoy your freedom and may you move on to bigger and better things.

For what it’s worth my DP quit a toxic job a few years ago. He had nothing to go to but we had savings and my wage (luckily he got something new quickly anyway). He was absolutely miserable, on medication for his depression and not sleeping. The change in him after leaving was genuinely miraculous. Like a new man. He even came off his meds eventually because what he’d assumed was general depression was entirely down to the job. Best of luck to you.

toomuchfaff · 23/02/2024 12:27

because you've been conditioned, much like an abuse victim that your worth is somehow linked to the toxic environment. This is why you're apprehensive. You Know you've made the right decision, now go out there and heal. Get back to being you. Give yourself time to decompress.

Babyroobs · 23/02/2024 12:24

Well done. I did this a couple of years ago, no job to go to but a huge relief.

nauticant · 23/02/2024 12:24

Write down your reasons for leaving. Have a look at it whenever you second guess your decision. If you're anything like me, you'll instantly see that your decision was sensible.

TheSandHurtsMyFeelings · 23/02/2024 12:22

Congratulations! A brave but smart decision. Very best of luck for your future, I'm sure it'll be bright 🌞

Xyz1234567 · 23/02/2024 12:20

Well it depends if you are able to meet your financial commitments mostly. If you can, then you'll be ok!
I know what it feels like and your health is worth more than any job.
Good luck with finding something better.