I quit..

@GameChangingNameChange That's great news!! I didn't realise this thread would help people. It felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders as soon as I knew I didn't have to go back. I've kept myself busy with toddler clubs, seen my friends more and my husbands side of the family has sadly had a couple of deaths this week and he's said as awful as it sounds I'm glad you're not working now as there is no worry about childcare while he has to go away for the funerals. It's nice being available for every school run and knowing I won't miss or have to ask for time off for anything that comes up! I've had a bit of regret I suppose or more so like wobbles thinking did I do the right thing but then when I think about it and how I felt, I don't know why I didn't leave earlier. I couldn't go back.

Handed in my notice today :)

Hi @dontgetscarednow hows it going? Have been thinking about you and this thread - I’m planning on handing in my notice today without another job to go on to. I’ve only been there 6 months but every morning I wake up I feel this knot of anxiety about going. I’ve just had 2 months off sick and felt so much better and happier not being there. I have realised that I don’t just have to put up with it - I have the power to change things and I can leave if that’s what I choose to do. I felt stuck in a job that was making me miserable - and for what?! (Yes, obviously the money but I’ve got some savings and life is too short to feel miserable and anxious)

So thank you for your post, and the ripple effect it’s had on people like me.

Well done

Give it a little time. Then you’ll think ‘why didn’t I leave earlier’

Not at all, I was in the same situation a few years ago. No looking back, it was the best decision!

Well done OP 👍 onwards and upwards.

Gosh I am so tempted to quit my job(s) on reading these posts!

I quit mine too! I’ve been very conditioned into thinking that you have to stick at things and it’s weak to quit but in the end I had to overcome all that and have the courage to put my mental health first. I have a lot of guilt about money when we are so in debt but the relief I will feel when I don’t have to go will be worth it.

My friend did this. She then got a small pet time job for 20 hours a week to give her some breathing space. I think you e done the right thing if it was toxic.

OP sounds like you have definitely done the right thing if you start to feel a little bored due to not working I am sure your local area has many volunteering opportunities it could be something completely different to what you’ve done previously but it could open the door to a new career good luck OP

Congratulations! Enjoy some time off to reset and recover. I think it’s entirely normal to have doubts around such a big decision but it sounds like you’ve 100% done the right thing.

I’m in the same situation but haven’t been brave enough to leave yet with nothing lined up to go on to (I’m the sole income for the family). I’ve set a deadline of end March and if things aren’t better I need to leave for my own health and the good of my kids.

I quit a toxic job oncs. I was seriously sexually assaulted by a close colleague at a work event on the premises. I reported it to HR, my manager and the police. Police had no evidence and the management team couldn’t care less.
what I should have done was walked away immediately. What i did was work there another year - partly in the same department and then eventually in a different department when my mental health got too bad to cope with it.
I eventually left when I had a new venture lined up - my own business.
I think the reason I stayed was because it’s so Ingrained in people not to quit and walk away. You can’t gasp walk out of your job! What will you do now?? You need to have a job!
actually it shows much more strength to be able to hold your head up high and say I’m worth more than this. And walk away.
put yourself first and don’t ever doubt that decision.
I loved my 5 years self employed and never regretted leaving. My only regret is I didn’t leave sooner.
I am now in a much better paid job with better hours, loads more holiday and employers who care. Good luck!

Well done OP. Jobs do not define us. Sounds like you made the right decision.

I did this last year and I had the same feelings. My notice period I kept worrying whether I’ve done the right thing and thoughts kept cropping up like am I the problem?! I’m in touch with some people at my previous job and the problems are still there!

I did this a few years ago without anything else lined up. It was the best thing I ever did! All the best OP

Leaving a toxic job is great. I did it without having another job to go to but I just couldn't cope staying anymore. Took me 5 weeks to start in my next job, I was slightly bored but it was good to have the time off too 🤣

Congratulations on being brave and putting your health first. You were stuck between a rock and a hard place.

This new adventure could be the making of you.

Remember the answer is within you!

I hate a great boss once who said it’s like once you’ve decided to break up with someone you remember the good bits and worry about the changes but once that’s normal and you’re only human. Onwards and upwards.

It’ll take a while to unhook from the pressure you put yourself under to stay. In a week or two it will just feel as clear as a bell and you will revel in the relief fully.

I’ve done this before. It was scary but the right choice. Take a breather then regroup.

Well, so what if you are a bit pathetic? You have every right to leave a job you don’t need to do , don’t want to do, and is making you feel awful. What do you need to prove, and to whom?

I have been in your shoes and was quite happy to admit that I couldn’t cut it in the toxic, political, workaholic blame culture that was my workplace. I didn’t like being shouted at and taken for granted. So I opted to leave.

I had moments feeling guilty (abandoning a few nice people to their fates) but the guilt wasn’t overwhelming. I felt an incredible relief and took some time to regroup and find a better job.

Change is hard, so you will always doubt yourself. But if the overwhelming feeing is freedom then you know you have made the right choice.

I'm in awe, actually. It's something that I am considering doing. I have savings but am also recently single so really don't have few outgoings - all costs are now down to me and I'm slightly drowning. So maybe not the best time to quit!

Have you got a partner who carries some of the financial burden?

Sorry, completely made that all about me, when what I want to say is WOOHOO go you!!