Decision time-final embryo

YANBU, we have a similar decision to make soon, we have 6 embryos so of course can’t keep them all but it feels like a loss deciding to just get rid of them all so I fully understand how hard this decision is for you.

Do you want another child, that really is the only question you need to ask. Also have the clinic said donation is an option? As mine for example won’t use left over embryos for donation if the lady was over 35 for example at collection time.

we are leaning to a managed implantation, which is when they’re implanted when you’re not at a point in your cycle to conceive, so become part of you but never stick if that makes sense

If they can see you're not completely sure about adoption they won't let you put it up for adoption. Do the transfer yourself, it's the age of the embryo that's important for abnormalities, not so much your age now, although the pregnancy would be harder. We've got one left on ice too and I just can't give it away, wish I was more selfless

Hi op, I’m in a similar (but different) situation. We have a 5yo DD from ivf and swore we wouldn’t try again despite having 2 more in the freezer. Plucked up the courage to do another cycle last year which ended in a devastating miscarriage. Again, swore we wouldn’t do it again, but am now prepping for one more cycle with our last one. We’re slightly younger than you though.

Is there a reason you’ve not ttc again with that embryo before now since having your DD? Are those reasons still in place now? Can you afford it?

I ultimately couldn’t face giving away or discarding our frozen embryos so it’s given me a bit of comfort and closure that even though we might not get another child, they’ve at least ‘gone back’ to the place they were made to go, iyswim?

It’s a very expensive type of closure though 😖. It might help to have some counselling to make your decision. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

If you didn’t have the embryo to think about, would you want another baby, now? If the answer is that you probably wouldn’t, then that’s some direction.

I’ve donated eggs in the past and know that two children were born to two couples. I don’t feel any connection to those children whatsoever - I don’t even think about them unless this sort of thread reminds me. Worrying about “your child” out there somewhere if you donate isn’t an inevitability.

Huge hugs either way OP.

Me personally I could not deal with my child out there without me. I would try myself and let it happen or not.

Oh wow, what a conundrum.

I think in your position I would try to use it myself. If you feel you are too old or don’t want the stress of this, then maybe donate it to a couple who are having difficulties. That would be a lovely thing to do, but of course you will always wonder if ‘your’ child is in existence.

Recently there was a program about people born from donor sperm, one young woman was born from a donor embryo and she met her bio mother, brother and half brother. It was an amazing and emotional encounter.