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First date AIBU?

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Thalia31 · 22/02/2024 21:58

So I haven't been dated since 2009, as I'm recently separated I'm in my 30’s.

I met a guy online and for our first date he gave me a choice of three activities.

  1. Axe throwing
  2. Archery
  3. Batting cage

I said I didn't find them first-date material, I said I would like to do something where we can talk and get to know each other a bit better he then suggested badminton. I do enjoy the outdoors but I found the choices strange, I ultimately declined AIBU is this a normal first date suggestion.

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TheNameIsDickDarlington · 22/02/2024 22:05

Oh, I think those sound like really fun ideas! I think an activity for a first date would be lovely, many people won't want to do dinner or coffee, might not drink (or want to get drunk with a strange man) so I think those are good suggestions.

But as PP said, if the suggestion of those things puts you off, then you're probably not well matched.

TheCadoganArms · 22/02/2024 22:05

He is not wrong for suggesting these first date activists and you are not wrong for declining them. Just sounds like he is up for a quirky ice breaker first meeting and you want a more relaxed approach.

WandaWonder · 22/02/2024 22:04

I think it's a great idea

Sufac · 22/02/2024 22:04

I think they sound fun. Would much prefer a date where the pressure is off, you can talk about the activity, have a laugh etc. just sounds like you’re not compatible so a win-win for both of you, you don’t have to waste time on a date!

JacquesHarlow · 22/02/2024 22:04

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Rosestulips · 22/02/2024 22:03

I don’t think they’re very first date kind of things either, and this would put me off.

He is obviously quite active but wouldn’t a nice countryside walk, nothing too strenuous be nicer?

StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 22/02/2024 22:01

They are a bit 'out there' but the woman for him will be the one who leaps at the chance to do something like that on a first meeting.

That's not you, so you weren't wrong to decline.

Nextbitoflife · 22/02/2024 22:00

I think they are fine ideas - but it might tell you that you don’t have much in common if they don’t float your boat. Good activities to bond over and 1-1 so time to chat with some distraction to make it less intense. But your choice to not fancy it too!