Wish mumsnet would stop Deleting threads

Haydenn · 2024-02-19T14:13:23+00:00

Anyone else get really cheesed off when they are reading a thread and it just disappears for no apparent reason or for “investigation behind the scenes”. As far as I know there is no investigation because these threads never reappear, I lose count of the number of times I am half way through a reply or just reading a thread and it vanishes. I know people get annoyed when others don’t read the full thread, but it doesn’t really encourage this!!! I was really interested in the lady and her daughter with the gusto boxes this morning- it struck quite close to home for me as a childless daughter in a similar boat…

Itscatsallthewaydown · 26/02/2024 10:32

Yerroblemom1923 · 26/02/2024 09:55

Doesn't look like MN can even be arsed commenting on this thread....🙄

Why would they? It’s not in Site Stuff.

Yerroblemom1923 · 26/02/2024 09:55

Doesn't look like MN can even be arsed commenting on this thread....🙄

Itscatsallthewaydown · 22/02/2024 12:59

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 22/02/2024 11:50

Because they are attention-seekers and (some) MNetters fall for it every time.

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Christ, don’t they just!

EmmaGrundyForPM · 22/02/2024 12:58

Reverses do my head in. I think posters should be suspended for them, but not banned.

Gotbanned · 22/02/2024 12:35

Haydenn · 19/02/2024 14:19

Drives me up the wall, I don’t really care if it might be a reverse or a few details changed. The delete the post but then dozens of quite well thought out responses vanish too. 😡

I was flamed for doing a reverse AIBU this morning. I didn’t realise it was bad mumsnet etiquette. My account has been suspended and the post deleted. But I haven’t even had so much of a note to say why or to prove I’m honest, I’d had that account for a couple of years. I Didn’t get to show my family the replies which is why I did it!!!

BadLad · 22/02/2024 11:57

I see Bryony, Sarah and Hannah have bern deleted.

KimberleyClark · 22/02/2024 11:52

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 22/02/2024 11:50

Because they are attention-seekers and (some) MNetters fall for it every time.

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Absolutely this.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 22/02/2024 11:50

Crikeyalmighty · 22/02/2024 10:41

I still can't get over why people would 'want' to post troll posts- the only post they should be posting is 'I need psychiatric help'

Because they are attention-seekers and (some) MNetters fall for it every time.

Yerroblemom1923 · 22/02/2024 10:46

It's tiresome and frustrating when all the remotely interesting threads get deleted. I'm not convinced any "looking behind the scenes" goes on as these threads just disappear! It's just lazy. Even the "nightwatch" is a joke - a tool to ensure MN doesn't have to employ night staff and rely on readers!
Come on Mumsnet sort yourselves out.

Crikeyalmighty · 22/02/2024 10:41

I still can't get over why people would 'want' to post troll posts- the only post they should be posting is 'I need psychiatric help'

KimberleyClark · 22/02/2024 10:37

It is irritating it “we’re taking this down while we take a look behind the scenes” IS an explanation.

Moonlightdust · 22/02/2024 10:37

Of course there may be made up threads etc but I think sometimes people report some threads unnecessarily and unfairly which get taken down ‘to look behind the scenes’ and never reinstated.

Moonlightdust · 22/02/2024 10:27

Yes the best threads I follow just disappear 😫 No explanation and never to be resurfaced again.

UnderTheMidnightMoon · 21/02/2024 16:42

Hmmm I don't agree. Some of the threads by PBPs or trolls are just deliberately inflammatory and have real life consequences for some people who don't realise they're being goaded. We absolutely aren't allowed to troll hunt (tsk tsk) so can't say if it's a troll on the thread. So deleting is the best option

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 21/02/2024 16:39

It's a natural consequence of MN's very uptight approach to troll-hunting.

Open troll-hunting was never allowed but, in the past, MN allowed posters to express scepticism on threads, especially if it was done humorously, not nastily. They didn't need to keep taking threads down because posters would take the mick out of likely trolls and also warn other posters if more emotive threads were likely to be untrue.

None of that gentle policing by posters is allowed any more. We're not even allowed to refer to an OP's previous posts (ridiculous). So it's take the thread down or nothing.

Stupid policy, irritates everyone, but that's MN for you. They have never had much grasp of keeping the customer happy.

ellebelli · 20/02/2024 11:41

ButtermilkBeetroot · 19/02/2024 21:39

Sorry this is off topic tbh because it's just me being nosy but does anyone remember the thread about the music coming from the bottom of a garden? The deletion message was something like 'the true reason for this is far more tragic than first thought so we've taken it down'. Intrigues me to this day!

I remember that one! They had recorded the music, was all a bit creepy but very intriguing.
Was disappointed to see the deletion message.
Would like to know what it was all about

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 20/02/2024 09:18

Ruminate2much · 20/02/2024 08:30

Mental illness is real. Some threads are horrid and bullying towards the OP, including OPs who've clearly stated that they have mental health issues. I'm shocked sometimes, by the cruelty of posters.
It's not a lack of resilience in these cases, but very real vulnerability beyond the sufferer's control.
I don't understand the motivation of some posters tbh. Borderline psychological abuse in some cases. MN would be irresponsible in these extreme cases if they didn't take such awful threads down.

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yes, exactly
this is not the place someone really mentally struggling to keep posting and posting and only getting ridicule. If someone is that ill, they need their family to be close to them in real life, if they are single or lonely, there should be community groups providing that love and warmth

Ruminate2much · 20/02/2024 08:30

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Mental illness is real. Some threads are horrid and bullying towards the OP, including OPs who've clearly stated that they have mental health issues. I'm shocked sometimes, by the cruelty of posters.
It's not a lack of resilience in these cases, but very real vulnerability beyond the sufferer's control.
I don't understand the motivation of some posters tbh. Borderline psychological abuse in some cases. MN would be irresponsible in these extreme cases if they didn't take such awful threads down.

Itscatsallthewaydown · 20/02/2024 07:46

And, as ever, the answer to frustrations about writing long lists of advice only to see the thread deleted is ‘don’t get overinvested in threads’.
It really is the MN golden rule.

porridgeisbae · 19/02/2024 23:54

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/02/2024 23:03

Re the trolls - some are also clearly designed to either gather outrage for the rag papers or to give MRAs ammunition so them going is probably good

And let's face it, today's Mumsnet trolls aren't funny. I've heard some past trolls used to be funny but not many of the current ones are. They mostly just waste our time.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/02/2024 23:03

Re the trolls - some are also clearly designed to either gather outrage for the rag papers or to give MRAs ammunition so them going is probably good

BarbieDangerous · 19/02/2024 21:54

ButtermilkBeetroot · 19/02/2024 21:39

Sorry this is off topic tbh because it's just me being nosy but does anyone remember the thread about the music coming from the bottom of a garden? The deletion message was something like 'the true reason for this is far more tragic than first thought so we've taken it down'. Intrigues me to this day!

Yep. The deletion message was suspect as fuck. I wonder what really happened

Calicobritches · 19/02/2024 21:44

itsmyp4rty · 19/02/2024 21:23

I think it's partly because there are so many troll hunters now who think they are really clever and report everything and anything to try to prove their cleverness. I wish they'd just fuck off and leave threads alone. I appreciate that the odd thing needs reporting like someone trying to sell love potions, but threads are disappearing all the time with loads of replies for no good reason.

Surely it’s more to do with trolls themselves than so called troll hunters?

Very few genuine posters want to spend their time replying to an op in distress for example only to find the whole scenario was fake.

ButtermilkBeetroot · 19/02/2024 21:39

Sorry this is off topic tbh because it's just me being nosy but does anyone remember the thread about the music coming from the bottom of a garden? The deletion message was something like 'the true reason for this is far more tragic than first thought so we've taken it down'. Intrigues me to this day!

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 19/02/2024 21:30

well, the ones that I have seen taken down, were all bonkers, so may be it good