To start a thread about abortion

Absolutely, just don't know why so many people are talking about why we need access to abortion, it being legal.

Op knows that, but can't grasp why people don't want to terminate.

I think it's probably down to personal choice and maybe also personal views on abortion?

We all know abortion is a right etc.

But that's not what op is saying? She's asking why people don't have more abortions and instead choose to carry on.

I fully support abortion, those that don’t, don’t need to have one.
I had an abortion about 20 years ago, felt nothing but relief and have never regretted it. (Not trying to minimise what others have been through, you have my full sympathy).

I think it's fantastic that it's legal in the UK. So many women in so many countries don't have that option.

I don't understand the phrase "As early as possible, as late as necessary." Does that mean to indicate support of abortion right up until the point of (but not including) waters breaking? I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I appreciate it's a bit arbitrary because there are a (VERY FEW) case studies of preemie babies surviving at 23 weeks but overall I think 23 weeks is a reasonable cut-off point. I don't think I'd support full and elective availability of abortion up until birth. But willing to be persuaded otherwise.

I have had four terminations.

One because I was being abused by my then "partner", he forced pregnancy on me, and then forced abortion.

One for a missed miscarriage that didn't end itself and was making me ill.

Two for medical reasons. Wanted pregnancies. Deeply loved babies. One was born live, the other already gone. Their lives would have been short, painful and traumatic. I couldn't inflict it upon them. It is my biggest source of pain and grief.

As early as possible, as late as necessary. And I mean it.

Women who endure (and I say endure because it isn't a "choice" in any real sense of the word) compassionate indications for late term babies aren't doing it for any other reason than they desperately want to save their precious babies from suffering.

Hypothetically, I don't know that I could personally have one and think I'd make it work (although it certainly wouldn't be ideal with a just 9 month old). However, I wouldn't have an opinion about what another woman would choose to do one way or the other. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Interestingly, I've seen 'pro choice' advocates on here going on and on to OP about how abortion would be best, when they've quite clearly made their view on this known.

Please please contact Women’s Aid

I feel very strongly that a woman's choice on whether on not to have an abortion is nobody's business but their own with advice from their medical provider. I don't feel that I have the right to comment on another person's reproductive choices, and I certainly do not feel I have any right to judge. I feel equally strongly that my choice is no business of anyone elses.

It is no one elses business except the woman who is pregnant. My body, my choice

I think it is very easy to pass comment on what you would or wouldn't do until you are on the position where you have to make that choice.

It is never easy and I do not envy anyone who has been faced with it. I do not support the removal of that choice though. No man or woman had a right to say what happens to someone else's body. The only people who should have a say is the woman in question and medical professionals if appropriate such as in the event continuing a pregnancy would put mother and baby at risk then I think its important the woman has all the options put before her

I am so sorry that you've been through this.

If you need MN support then maybe try starting a thread on one of the more supportive boards, and people can advise and point you in the direction of some help 💐

I believe in the right to choose and made my own choice when I needed to. There are all kinds of reasons to either terminate or not and what's right is what feels right to the woman at the time. It's not something anyone should be telling someone else to do or not.

It’s a shame women are offering up distressing stories to indulge this OP.
What opinions are you trying to pry into? Women can either choose to have a kid, or abort. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve just had an abortion and it’s broken me. I regret it and I haven’t stopped crying since I did it. Last night I considered getting myself sectioned. I’m not coping.

I hate myself. I didn’t want to do it but I had an abusive ex causing mayhem. I knew he’d make my life and potentially my children’s lives difficult. I considered blocking him but I knew he’d turn up at the house. I told him I wanted to keep it. He knew he was forcing me. He insisted on being there and he flushed it down the toilet. I hate him.

I am pro-choice and believe women should be able to access one safely for whatever reason. No judgement from me.

However, I am not sure if I could have one myself. I found out I was pregnant at 19 and DH and I were on the fence about keeping the pregnancy. I decided I couldn’t go through with it and DD1 is now 10. Have never regretted my decision even for a second. I’m currently pregnant with DC3 which was another unplanned pregnancy. Didn’t even occur to us to consider abortion because we hadn’t ruled out a third. After he’s born though, DH will be getting a vasectomy as we know we’re done. Would I keep another pregnancy if the vasectomy failed? I don’t know. Probably would.

Why do you want to understand the opinion of fellow Mumsnetters?

Opinions will vary widely, as in the general population.

What sort of thread is this and why TF is it in AIBU?

I don’t have a problem with ending a pregnancy as such. The only grey area for me is the methods and will the baby feel pain as studies have shown it is possible they can as early as 12 weeks although nobody knows for sure. That in itself would be a problem for me if I wanted an abortion. The termination itself as long as I could guarantee it was humane I would be fine with if I wasnt in a position for a baby.

If you don't want an abortion don't have one. I would have one If I needed one and I wouldn't really care what people thought of me/it.

My body, my choice.

If you are against abortion then don't have one.

I know quite a few women who have had abortions, all for completely different reasons. One was relatively late term and very very heart breaking for all concerned, but ultimately the best option ( the baby wouldn't have survived).

There are very rare cases of probably everything you can ever think of. That doesn't mean that it's the standard and everyone's going to start doing it for funsies.

I've read the first page and many have come back, "my body, my choice"

I agree with that but must add an important factor - As long as it is withing the law of the land,

Let's not start the usual narrative that goes on with these threads where people start suggesting women would have 39 week abortions because they have a holiday to go on or whatever.

It's very rare, but there are cases. I remember in the past year, someone linked an article where a married (?) woman aborted a 32-34w fetus due to the father not being her husbands

Regardless, this thread is ridiculous. I don't think it should even be entertained as a legitimate discussion when someone's already pointed out OP's motivation for posting

Have you ever been in a position where you had to decide whether to terminate a pregnancy @Shiv861 ?

I have and any preconceived ideas you might have about how you would feel about it can go straight out the window. I would never judge a woman for deciding to terminate even though in the end it was something I couldn't do.

No-one has a right to tell a woman what to do with her body and whether someone decides to terminate or continue with a pregnancy is absolutely no-one else's business except hers.