I hate hate hate being a mum today

A big problem about becoming a mum is you're not an adult anymore.

Adults need personal space, mental downtime and some control over your life. Mums are not allowed this.

It's shit.

Get your partner to bath baby every day, or every other day. I'm sure they can handle at least that and babies are happy in water.
You can then have that short time to not be touched and be free to do whatever without another human hanging on to you. Don't take No for an answer, it's not a big ask

Also if all else failed I'd have popped ds in his cot where he was safe, put miss Rachel on my phone where he could see and hear it and then just had a cuppa.

Ah op that sounds so hard. Ds used to do that when he was fighting a nap or when he had trapped wind. I've heard some babies get really frustrated because they want to be more mobile than they are yet and then they settle. Is your wee one crawling? When ds was like that the only two things that worked were getting him in his pram and out for a walk or sticking him in the bath for a splash, both can involve your wee one.

I have also given calpol in these situations to rule out pain and I've used skin to skin and just stuck them under my dressing gown in their nappy for a bit. The sling helped me too.

But it's not easy, you're doing something really difficult and intense that requires a huge amount of emotional energy and I see you. You're doing amazing.

Do you have a partner who can take over for a while when you get home so you can have a break? I found a hot shower or sometimes 30 mins in a dark silent room when dh got home was exactly what I needed to reset a bit.

Also kudos on recognising that every day and every stage is different and none of it lasts forever. That alone shows you've really good resilience because it can be so easy to feel like it's never ending!

She's 7 months old, totally fine to put her down with her toys and not pick her up when she starts whinging.
Just distract her with a different toy, or put some music on.

But first go hide in the kitchen for 2 minutes with a cuppa & some chocolate!

I agree it sounds like she's in pain.

I know not everyone agrees with this but I've been known to give a just-in-case dose of calpol when dd was behaving like this, even though I wasn't sure if pain was the cause.

Stick her in cot with toys and walk away for a bit. How often is it happening

Has she got a jumperoo or similar you can plonk her in for a bit?

Put her down in her cot and walk away. Or in her buggy and just outside the back door.

It does sound as though she might be in pain. Have you visited a doctor?

The phase where they are needy and can't communicate is the worst OP. I went back to work full time because I couldn't deal with it so I feel you. Is your DH doing his bit?

YANBU but I would nip that behaviour in the bud. Immediately. I would purposefully but gently grab their hand and move it away from your face, and explain why. At that age they will begin to understand.

YANBU. I tried to explain to DH the other night how hard it is to be constantly grabbed, have my hair pulled, neck, mouth and breasts scratched all day and night by 6 month old DD, but he doesn't get it. I know she isn't doing it on purpose - it's just a weird habit she's got into while BF - but I feel like I'm constantly pulling my hair out of her fists or stopping her from digging her hands into my mouth.

YANBU. It's shit. Have a coffee & a cake ☕🍰