To think he shouldn't have gone

This is difficult. I personally think your DH should have stayed at home with your DC being so young and you being sick. It’s not possible to look after a 1yo with your head in the toilet.

We actually had to call my DM in the middle of the night after DD2 gave us all norovirus. DD1 started throwing up but neither DH or I could comfort her as we were both throwing up ourselves. DM had to come over because DD2 was crying and only a toddler at the time. DD1 was luckily old enough for us to call to her with comfort and reassurance.

I would be upset as well

He put them to bed. He had tickets for something to celebrate with a friend

I think asking him to stay was unreasonable tbh

They'd be in bed and wouldn't need too much and he'd be back for the early hours

Wouldn’t they be tucked up in bed anyway for the majority of the time he was out?

Yeah this is my thoughts too, sorry.
You had the squits, he had gig tickets and it was for a friends birthday -I wouldn't expect him to miss it.

It depends...

Who was your DH going to see?

We're the kids in bed before he went?

I know you felt shit but did you really need him home?

However...

If it wasn't a band I was massively into I would stay home.

If you needed help putting the kids to bed I would stay home.

If you were really upset and not well I would stay home.

But we're all different and he obviously felt that you were well enough for him to go out.

Maybe he'll get a dose of the shits as karma for leaving you 😂

I would of gone but we’re both on the same page when it comes to things like this
wife would of and has gone out without a backward glance

I think it’d depend on how bad the d&v was. I’d say any normal d&v bug then I would t expect him to stay in and I’d just manage as best I could

however I had what I think was food poisoning once and was home alone and had to get my mum to come over as I couldn’t get off the bathroom floor to get the children to school/nursery. I’ve never had sickness like it and every time I stood I was almost fainting. It was horrendous!

I think yabu but then I’m a lone parent so use to just getting on with it, it’s really not impossible

I agree with this. I'm sorry you were left with 2 little ones when you were feeling so awful x

What time did he go. Wouldnt the kids be in bed of an evening so need limited looking after

If he got the DC etc. ready for bed like you say then yes, I think you're being a bit unreasonable. It's horrible when you're unwell but there's not really any benefit in him cancelling his plans just to sit by himself while you're on the toilet all night, lol.

Wow, have to admit I'm surprised at the amount of people saying yabu OP considering the age of your DC. 1 year olds need constant eyes on them (and some 4 year olds too) as they're crawling/learning to walk and get into everything. Older children (or even younger who aren't crawling/walking) is manageable but no 1 year old would accept being stuck in a bathroom with you all evening! Hope you're feeling better

I wouldn't want or expect my dh to stay in if I had D&V. I would, however, expect him to get the dc ready for bed and fed, etc, before he went. Then, I would bribe the kids with snacks and TV until bedtime.

How do you think single parents and mothers whose husbands/partners work away cope? It might be difficult, but to say it's almost impossible is ridiculous.

You do what you have to do. There's no point in being precious about it if you don't have a choice.

I don't think it was unreasonable of him to go. If you were a single parent, or if your husband was at work you would cope, because you have to. In fact, it sounds like you did.

I hope you are feeling better now, having a bad tummy is never nice. Nausea and vomiting is horrible.

I wouldn't expect to cancel for this too. Sorry hope you feel better today

I wouldn't expect my DP to cancel for that and neither would I feel obliged to cancel if it was him that was poorly.

When you have DC you just have to accept days/evenings like this.

I don’t think he should have gone if you were so unwell and looking after 2 young kids

Personally I think YANBU, it's almost impossible to look after a 1 and 4 year old when you're on the toilet with a sickness bug. That's if you mean you were genuinely barely able to get off the loo -- sickness bugs like that are horrendous and you need another adult there for the children's safety. Sickness bugs do vary so if it was mild then it's different.

But it depends doesn’t it. In this case I don’t think the OP’s husband should have gone. If she’s throwing up or having diarrhoea, how is she going to keep a toddler safe if they decide to do something toddlerish? One of mine was able to circumvent every child lock and baby gate known to mankind, and I even had to take them to the toilet with me as they’d have found a creative way to harm themselves and blow up the house otherwise. Plus - stomach bugs make you feel AWFUL. What if OP actually COULDN’T keep awake/upright enough to look after the kids?

This. Sorry OP.