DH threw away my wedding ring!

I joined Brighton list and found group on Facebook and every single day there are at least a few rings, mobile phones and car keys, it’s bafflingly common apparently.

What a lovely thread.

So pleased to read your update, Op.

Married a week dh rang me hysterical.. He had lost his wedding ring at Asda....
During the call I heard a lady shouting of him. She had found it on the bg packing area. I thought something had happened to him or ds!

This is a lovely thread, the posters that reached out to you, and the fact you've found a solution that is special to the two of you. I also feel a bit sentimental reading about it.

My DH lost his wedding ring while cycling. He had recently lost weight and he just didn't notice it fall off. We walked a bit of the route he took to look for it but couldn't find it. I suggested buying another one but he said it wouldn't be the same.

One thing I've learned from this thread is - don't wrap jewellery up in tissue.😊

Lovely post from @Breeblebree

The ring company sounds worthy of commendation too!

I'm so sorry about your ring but I'm glad you've found a way to move forward.

My dad died a few years ago and I was given his wedding ring. Looked after it so carefully. When I went on holiday I cunningly hid it in an open packet of nappies in DC's room to foil any burglars.

Completely forgot I'd done that. DC stopped wearing nappies that holiday. A few months later I got around to clearing out all the old baby stuff - nappies went in the bin. With the ring.

I still feel sick about it and have sleepless nights thinking about it. There's nothing I can do but I hate myself for being so careless. Dad looked after it for 50 years and then he died and I lost it. I honestly don't know how to move past it.

I have been following this and I can't believe the amount of posters who (despite it being repeated at least 3 times) are blaming the OP for wrapping her ring in paper! Surely if you are going to comment on a post, you should read it properly first?

I may have something in my eye....

I think your solution is wonderful. I damaged my wedding ring beyond repair. I was sad. I then had it remade but mixed with gold from his mother’s ring, and other meaningful bits, so (just like yours does being from the same company with the same words) the new ring was connected to the old, but new.

I actually think it is perfect. You make this promise with this shiny new ring when you are young and starry eyed, and you don’t really know what will happen. Then, when time has proven your love, you sometimes have to get a new ring, because things happen. Which makes sense to me because relationships aren’t static, the people in them aren’t the same as they were that day they said I do, why would the ring have to be?

Relationships are built up of the moments you spend, the people who entwine you, the silly things that happen, the trouble you face together. And it gives you a chance to repromise, but now with age and experience behind you, and with your eyes wide open. And that is so much more real.

It’s not a ring that symbolises a promise anymore, it’s a ring that symbolises a life already shared, a promise kept. It’s not an “I do” ring anymore, but an “I already have” ring. And I think that’s kind of beautiful.

What a beautiful update. Love that the replacement ring already has its own tale to tell.

Do you have a ring dish you can keep it in? I never take mine off

Fantastic idea!

I apologise, I completely misread your post, & that you husband wrapped the ring in a piece of tissue & threw it away

Because you wrapped the ring in a piece of tissue/paper towel! It's entirely reasonable that your husband thought this was waste, & subsequently there it away when cleaning up. Had the ring been clearly on view, in a small jewellery tray for example & he threw it away, then yes, you'd be justified in your claim. YABU.

@Spencer0220 well done for being so mature about this and being so considerate of your DH, who I can imagine has been feeling awful about it. I think your resolution sounds fantastic for both of you.

Please do not feel the need to defend yourself against the very few posters who have misunderstood who wrapped the ring up - you have resolved the issue and it doesn't matter if every person responding understands it. Don't let it live longer in your head than it needs to just because people are misreading your post!

I agree with you. I think the OP needs to own this. This isn't something that happened because of her husband's brain injury, or suboptimal cleaning strategies. I think he is being unfairly blamed for the loss. I really am sorry you lost your ring, but perhaps you are shifting your annoyance with yourself, for this unintentional outcome, onto your husband, & he doesn't deserve this.

I have 3 rings, all similar, and lost one. Was very upset. Got it replaced.

3 people on this thread have thrown away tissues so it just goes to show how common it is.

It's a ring.

You have a husband and a marriage. The ring is a symbol of that but it doesn't make you any less married.

Your new ring is a symbol of your marriage continuing in good times and bad.