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Should I leave?

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Hubhubba26 · 16/02/2024 11:40

2 years ago my partner and DS relocated from a city to a village in the South, to be closer to my partners hobby and father. Its been a struggle to meet people and I have this constant feeling of not quite fitting in. My 5 year old son, usually social and outgoing, but quirky in his own way, also seems to be struggling to make friends. There is an air of differences being basically not welcome. Every day I ask myself why I agreed to this move and either I could turn back the clock. I do feel as I though we were basically bulldozed into this position.

I basically don't know what to do. Should I preserver or get out and move somewhere more open minded before this affects the 2 of us further? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

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Hubhubba26 · 16/02/2024 11:57

@Firstnews24 yes he does not enjoy discussing the matter. Pre move we discussed my concerns and he said if I was really unhappy we could move asap/ come up with a plan b. It seems that promise has been forgotten and he would like me to try harder to settle. I understand his point but my instincts tell me the place and the people are the wrong fit. Thats no offence to either...just a case of round peg, square hole.

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Firstnews24 · 16/02/2024 11:51

you don’t mention if you have ever discussed this with your partner??

Hubhubba26 · 16/02/2024 11:49

Thank you @DustyLee123 I guess I'm just concerned as my son has just started school. But then I'm guessing he'd be happier if I was too?

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DustyLee123 · 16/02/2024 11:44

I’d go. Life’s too short.

Hubhubba26 · 16/02/2024 11:42

@Firstnews24 yes

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Firstnews24 · 16/02/2024 11:41

be closer to my partners hobby and father

is he the father of your ds?