Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

What irritates you about other people?

369 replies

CruCru · 15/02/2024 17:35

I get really irritated when someone won’t accept “I don’t know” as my answer. Something along the lines of:

”Sarah is having a baby! Do you know when it’s due?”
”No, I didn’t know she was pregnant”
”Her oldest is four and she didn’t want a big age gap so it’s probably soon” <Looks at me expectantly>
”I didn’t know she was pregnant so no idea I’m afraid”
”But when do you think it would be?” <Looks at me expectantly>
”Still no idea. Between now and six months?!?”

Or

”I need to hire a nanny. How do you recruit a nanny?”
”I don’t have a nanny so couldn’t say. Have you talked to Sarah, she will probably know?”
”I should probably talk to a nanny agency, which one should I call?”
”I’ve never hired a nanny through an agency so no idea I’m afraid”
”But you must have some idea!”

It has to be okay to sometimes just say “I dunno”.

OP posts:
Containerhome · 16/02/2024 10:49

When someone tells you to do something when you are already doing it.... why!? Looking at you, DH and MIl!

KimberleyClark · 16/02/2024 10:43

People who spout bs about cruises when they’ve never been on one
People who call misogyny at any criticism of someone who happens to be a woman

DrunkenKoala · 16/02/2024 10:43

When I am quietly getting on with something in a way that I know works for me and even though what I am doing has no affect on irritating person they have to suggest I do it differently and keep pushing at it - just leave me alone!

Projectme · 16/02/2024 10:36

FancyJapflack · 15/02/2024 21:56

DH and me watching a tv programme/film:

DH: Who’s that? Is that her husband?
Me: I’ve been watching it for exactly the same amount
of time you have. Your guess is as good as mine.

Repeat and repeat with similar questions until I start shouting.

oh god, this is me I'm afraid. Constantly pausing a film to ask DH things like 'Was she the one in the earlier scene who said XYZ or is she someone new?' He will always, without fail, answer my questions without getting cross; he is so patient with me but I do (clearly!)have concentration issues that I'm trying to work on. 😑But I know it's irritating.

Some of the replies on here have had me proper laughing. there are so many of us out there, angry about fucking everything and everyone!!!!! 😂

Herecomethedaffodils · 16/02/2024 10:25

Aagghh, now who's dumb at spelling....the dumbf*ckery list.

Herecomethedaffodils · 16/02/2024 10:24

43ontherocksporfavor · 16/02/2024 07:08

Well that’s because they say and spell it ectcetera.

Well if they say it like that too, then they have just confirmed their place on the dumf*ckery list!!! 😂

Combattingthemoaners · 16/02/2024 10:05

Alchemistress · 16/02/2024 09:38

Hold my drink.

rolls up sleeves
*
Right.* *
*
Rude people

Stupid people

Thoughtless people ( Venn diagram of the above is just 3 circles on top of each other)

Litter droppers

Dog shit non picker uppers

Slow walkers

Slow talkers

Escalator misuse

People who refuse to even entertain a semblance of queuing at things like bus stops ( you keep the order in your head if there's not a physical line, surely we all know that?)

Cycling on pavements

Grown adults on electric scooters

Drivers not indicating

Drivers unable to navigate roundabouts

Drivers who have ridiculously dazzling headlights

Teenagers on public transport

People on trains or buses who start a random chat about some old shit. I wouldn't mind if they were in any way thoughtful or interesting but it's always just thinly veiled hateful crap about immigration or similar

Precious parents

People with poor personal hygiene

Cab drivers who think they're some kind of stand up and you're trapped in the back listening to their shitty racist thought foam for 20 minutes while secretly wanting to stab them in the back of the head.

People who get to the top of escalators and just stop moving.

People who come to a standstill at the bottom of escalators and appear to be having a motor freeze because they can't get in sync with the motion and everyone barrels into them

On which note, people who don't walk on travelators at airports but just stand there, being tootled along at what is, let's face it, barely above normal walking speed anyway.

Women whose lip fillers mean they can't talk properly

"Cheer up love!"

People who get to the checkout and only then decide to look for their purse.

Said people then decide to pay in coppers and Euros. "Is that a pfennig? My word, that's probably been in there since I went to Munich in 1962!" And on and on...

People who are always late

People in cafes who take up tables for 4 when there's only 1 or 2 of them.

People who smoke weed because it fucking stinks

There is a special place in hell for the people who take a last drag on a cigarette before throwing it away and getting on the packed bus, treating everyone packed in next to them to the contents of their lungs for the next ten minutes

Gordon Ramsey

Barmen and women who see you've been waiting for a awhile but continue to serve other people

Arrogance

Selfishness

Tightwaddery

🤣 brilliant

phoenixrosehere · 16/02/2024 09:56

People who say “no offence” to me when talking about someone who happens to be from the same country or assumed ethnic background as me when I’ve never met the person in my life.

Bet they would give me a look if I did the same to them.

People fumbling to tell me how they’re not racist when I didn’t say they were, didn’t think it, didn’t bring it up and was only answering the question on the form about ethnic background. Also, when they fumble about it being a question and explaining they don’t know why that is being asked.

Happens when I have gone to different hospitals. Does make me wonder afterwards that they may have had some type of pre-conceived notion about me though.

Alchemistress · 16/02/2024 09:38

Hold my drink.

rolls up sleeves
*
Right.* *
*
Rude people

Stupid people

Thoughtless people ( Venn diagram of the above is just 3 circles on top of each other)

Litter droppers

Dog shit non picker uppers

Slow walkers

Slow talkers

Escalator misuse

People who refuse to even entertain a semblance of queuing at things like bus stops ( you keep the order in your head if there's not a physical line, surely we all know that?)

Cycling on pavements

Grown adults on electric scooters

Drivers not indicating

Drivers unable to navigate roundabouts

Drivers who have ridiculously dazzling headlights

Teenagers on public transport

People on trains or buses who start a random chat about some old shit. I wouldn't mind if they were in any way thoughtful or interesting but it's always just thinly veiled hateful crap about immigration or similar

Precious parents

People with poor personal hygiene

Cab drivers who think they're some kind of stand up and you're trapped in the back listening to their shitty racist thought foam for 20 minutes while secretly wanting to stab them in the back of the head.

People who get to the top of escalators and just stop moving.

People who come to a standstill at the bottom of escalators and appear to be having a motor freeze because they can't get in sync with the motion and everyone barrels into them

On which note, people who don't walk on travelators at airports but just stand there, being tootled along at what is, let's face it, barely above normal walking speed anyway.

Women whose lip fillers mean they can't talk properly

"Cheer up love!"

People who get to the checkout and only then decide to look for their purse.

Said people then decide to pay in coppers and Euros. "Is that a pfennig? My word, that's probably been in there since I went to Munich in 1962!" And on and on...

People who are always late

People in cafes who take up tables for 4 when there's only 1 or 2 of them.

People who smoke weed because it fucking stinks

There is a special place in hell for the people who take a last drag on a cigarette before throwing it away and getting on the packed bus, treating everyone packed in next to them to the contents of their lungs for the next ten minutes

Gordon Ramsey

Barmen and women who see you've been waiting for a awhile but continue to serve other people

Arrogance

Selfishness

Tightwaddery

spagbolrules · 16/02/2024 09:37

When an oncoming driver flashes their lights to 'let you out', but makes no attempt to slow down. They aren't giving you the right of way at all, they are merely looking at the situation from another angle and have concluded that if you pull out at that point there's a good chance they won't hit you, and so try to urge you to do so by madly flashing their lights on and off.
Sorry, but if you hit me then we both know there's no way you are going to accept responsibility. You are just going to point out that I turned out in front of you and it's my fault, so please just let me make my own decisions.

Raspberryjamsandwich · 16/02/2024 09:31

bringincrazyback · 15/02/2024 18:35

People who write off everything they can't personally relate to as 'weird'. 😬

Yes, this. The closed mindedness is very irritating

cerisepanther73 · 16/02/2024 09:19

@Cel77

Totally agree with you,

Have you noticed how 🤔 people who "tell it as it " who are brutally honest ect,

are very Senistive and thin skinned about allmost anything..

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 16/02/2024 09:16

People who sit in your reserved seat on the train and then pretend you are not there when you rock up to sit down.

People who seem surprised they need to pack and pay for their goods when at the till in the supermarket. They stand there staring about then get flustered when the cashier tells them how much they owe. They starts faffing about packing their shopping and looking for their credit card holding everyone else up.

People who talk loudly on their mobile phones in public especially at the gym.

People who have no sense of personal space and will park right next to you in an almost empty car park or use the machine right next to you at the gym when the whole row of the same machine is free.

cerisepanther73 · 16/02/2024 09:08

@CruCru

What irritates 😒 me about other people ?

it depends,

let me think,

That they are alive .
😂

Minniliscious · 16/02/2024 09:03

Practically everything!

• People that take ages at ATM’s
• People that just don’t stop bloody talking
• People that interrogate you about your life and ask way too many questions
• When you’re quite clearly trying to send a text but someone won’t stop talking to you - grrrr

thirdistheonewiththehairychest · 16/02/2024 08:52

People who ask me what I think about something and then immediately start arguing with me about it, lecturing me about why I'm wrong and they're right.

Combattingthemoaners · 16/02/2024 08:42

*Mouth breathers
*People who smack their lips when they are eating or talk with their mouth full (fully grown adults!)
*Not saying please or thank you
*When people stand too close to you in shops- invading personal space will get them served quicker

I could go on and on haha.

inabubble3 · 16/02/2024 07:28

Hepzibar · 16/02/2024 06:23

This is so true and irritating. Meetings where people don't know when to shut up. You've made your point but continue for next 19 minutes saying exactly the same thing. Local Authority meetings seem particularly bad for this. Possibly people trying to justify their random jobs

O my gosh yes.

LA worker here. The monthly meeting with the man manager (team of women) who reads out the emails we have all already received and read. 4 months of ‘news’ and ‘ updates’ about a stationery supply - which is turns out is a box of envelopes and a stapler. The boss was very proud of achieving this. Says it all. No value added at all.

TigerRag · 16/02/2024 07:17

People who clearly haven't read something and still try to answer posts

People who don't look where they're going

Adults with no concept of queueing

People who don't introduce themselves

CruCru · 16/02/2024 07:17

People who don’t obey the social contract when you meet them one on one (I.e. both should speak for a third the time and the remaining third is up for grabs). They know something important has happened to you but they just talk AT you about a load of nonsense until you run away. Or, when you try to speak, they talk LOUDER and FASTER so you can’t.

OP posts:
Parfortheparsnip · 16/02/2024 07:12

Ooh I have a list too, some things already said but worth repeating...

People who say 'can I get' instead 'can I have'.
Drivers who don't indicate.
Drivers who cut the corner when turning right into a side road so that if you are waiting to pull out they almost hit you every time.
People speaking to your children when they want to comment on your parenting. For example my MIL to my 1 year old DS 'oh gosh where's your vest?'
People at work who, seeing a long line for a coffee, see someone they know ahead of you in the queue and go and join them.
People not stopping at zebra crossings when you're waiting to cross.
The fact that it's becoming almost impossible to buy a top that isn't a crop top.
Flesh coloured leggings.

43ontherocksporfavor · 16/02/2024 07:09

Oh the giant water bottle thing in offices where there are taps! 🤨

43ontherocksporfavor · 16/02/2024 07:08

Well that’s because they say and spell it ectcetera.

Herecomethedaffodils · 16/02/2024 06:56

People (and there's a lot of them) who abbreviate, in writing, the word etcetera to ect. I mean FFS, you only need the first 3 letters, in order. It's etc.......please!!!! Makes me irrationally (menopausal) angry!!

LunaNorth · 16/02/2024 06:41

Lately?

People who won’t. Stop. Fucking. Talking. Usually about themselves.

And people who seemingly have no concept that anyone is around them, so they’ll sit on a plane watching videos on their phone without earbuds, or sit texting in the theatre, or talk through a film.

And people who lug giant bottles of water everywhere. It’s getting ridiculous. They’re going to start having humps grafted on, like camels, next.

People, basically.