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What irritates you about other people?

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CruCru · 15/02/2024 17:35

I get really irritated when someone won’t accept “I don’t know” as my answer. Something along the lines of:

”Sarah is having a baby! Do you know when it’s due?”
”No, I didn’t know she was pregnant”
”Her oldest is four and she didn’t want a big age gap so it’s probably soon” <Looks at me expectantly>
”I didn’t know she was pregnant so no idea I’m afraid”
”But when do you think it would be?” <Looks at me expectantly>
”Still no idea. Between now and six months?!?”

Or

”I need to hire a nanny. How do you recruit a nanny?”
”I don’t have a nanny so couldn’t say. Have you talked to Sarah, she will probably know?”
”I should probably talk to a nanny agency, which one should I call?”
”I’ve never hired a nanny through an agency so no idea I’m afraid”
”But you must have some idea!”

It has to be okay to sometimes just say “I dunno”.

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Fionaville · 18/02/2024 20:31

People who put others down to make themselves feel better.
Snobs and people who love to brag.
People who have to tell you that they've done everything you've done and got what you've got, but 10 times better.
Know it alls in general.

ToWhitToWhoo · 18/02/2024 20:23

Building managers who never get things done that are obviously needed (e.g. the lift in my workplace that has been out of order for 8 months now).

Even worse, builders and their managers who start jobs and leave them unfinished for ages- e.g. the slabs they took out of the steps and slopes outside my block of flats; fortunately finally fixed, but still loads of rubbish from that job left lying around.

People who park on pavements, or leave bikes standing across the pavement.

People who stand in groups on the pavement, talking or taking photos (I live in a rather tourist-y area) and seem to expect you to get into the road to pass them.

Drivers and cyclists who ignore green lights at pedestrian crossings.

Anyone who tries to find out when my birthday is and won't accept my strong wish to have it ignored.

SinnerBoy · 18/02/2024 10:40

phoenixrosehere · Yesterday 08:43

People who use the word “woke” when they really mean they can’t continue to be rude, ignorant, self-absorbed, dismissive unnecessarily about other people anymore.

Mostly, they seem to mean that they are upset, as it's no longer acceptable to use derogatory names for brown people.

ChowChowuaua · 18/02/2024 10:09

Pumpkinini · 17/02/2024 20:46

"WeAreBorg · Today 16:56

People who own Range Rovers
People with personalised number plates
People who are unable to park without taking up three spaces
People who obliterate any wildlife in their garden, block pave everything and cut all their trees down"

Me too! Your n is higher now! Especially first and last point significant. All grass lawns and a hate for any bush, climbers etc. Why is that? My theory is it's a special class of wannabe thinking these are status symbols somehow when it's probably the opposite...

All of these for me too.

It's awful when people move into a house with a beautiful garden, and the first thing they do is rip out every natural thing they can. Usually accompanied by grey roof tiles and cheap looking cement render.

Don't get me started on range rovers and the like.

LadyBird1973 · 18/02/2024 10:02

People who get a new boyfriend/girlfriend and forget they are parents, so prioritise new DP over their children, letting them move in after 5 minutes and don't listen to their children's concerns.

Pumpkinini · 17/02/2024 20:46

"WeAreBorg · Today 16:56

People who own Range Rovers
People with personalised number plates
People who are unable to park without taking up three spaces
People who obliterate any wildlife in their garden, block pave everything and cut all their trees down"

Me too! Your n is higher now! Especially first and last point significant. All grass lawns and a hate for any bush, climbers etc. Why is that? My theory is it's a special class of wannabe thinking these are status symbols somehow when it's probably the opposite...

Meowandthen · 17/02/2024 20:46

phoenixrosehere · 17/02/2024 08:43

People who use the word “woke”
when they really mean they can’t continue to be rude, ignorant, self-absorbed, dismissive unnecessarily about other people anymore.

Edited

Exactly!

We can safely dismiss anyone who attempts to use “woke” as a pejorative. Better to be woke than a bigot.

WeAreBorg · 17/02/2024 16:56

People who own Range Rovers
People with personalised number plates
People who are unable to park without taking up three spaces
People who obliterate any wildlife in their garden, block pave everything and cut all their trees down

I have conducted an extensive statistical analysis and it turns out if you do one of these you have a 99.9% chance of doing all of these (p<0.05)

Pigglyplaystruant99 · 17/02/2024 16:55

Parents who are glued to their phones when out with young children.

People who get a dog and have no idea about canine psychology.

AnnBerlin24 · 17/02/2024 16:39

Drivers in stationery traffic hand gesturing at my children, whilst standing at the pelican crossing waiting for the green man, to indicate that they should cross the road. Like it's some fucking kind gesture. I've instructed my children to ignore these cretins, because what they fail to grasp is that whilst their direction of traffic may be at a standstill, traffic could still be thundering along from the other way. Wait for the green man & ignore the bossy twat in the car!

It used to make me so mad as I was trying to teach them to cross the road safely at the crossings.

TroysMammy · 17/02/2024 16:16

lieselotte · 17/02/2024 16:00

Pretty unfair when doctors won't let you order medication until 3 days before you run out, even though they take 5 days to issue a prescription and then the pharmacist takes another 5 to actually dispense it and text you (if they text you at all).

Not me, but my mum's surgery and associated dispensary. They are so useless.

However I bet you do get some really ditzy people.

These are people who haven't ordered at all and it's life prolonging medication and we do allow them to order in a timely manner and make exceptions for people ordering early for holidays. We are quite flexible and will even post date scripts so even if it's not due when they order they can still pick up when it's due.

My medication is in weekly strips so order in the middle of the third strip. If it was on a monthly strip then I'd set a reminder on my mobile phone. Goodness knows how they are going to manage when our scripts change to electronic.

lieselotte · 17/02/2024 16:02

ScierraDoll · 17/02/2024 11:10

Something that really does annoy me now and it seems to be happening more often. People who have conversations on the phone while being served in shops cafes etc
I watched someone yesterday standing by the till while talking on his phone the shop assistant waited patiently for him to finish while a lengthy queue built up behind him.
Being an old cow these days I will tell offenders to have their conversation elsewhere so I can get served.
Twats

A few years ago that happened in Sainsburys and Sainsburys supported the rude mobile using customer. They (rightly) got so much stick on social media.

lieselotte · 17/02/2024 16:00

FrangipaniBlue · 17/02/2024 13:07

and today specifically, car drivers who don't know their Highway Code and that when turning into or out of a junction cars are supposed to GIVE WAY TO PEDESTRIANS!!

One today was a learner with a driving instructor FFS!!

I often wonder what driving instructors are actually doing. Recently a learner didn't have their lights on and I wondered what the heck their supervising driver had been doing since they left home!

lieselotte · 17/02/2024 16:00

TroysMammy · 16/02/2024 20:54

Everyone. I'm fed up of thinking for other people because they are too dumb or are they clever in getting someone else to work it out, why have a dog and bark yourself springs to mind? It's like having to be the grown up and hold the hand and spoon feed them all the time.

People who don't order medication on time, people who don't know what tablets they take and what are they for. People who phone to ask if their prescription is ready, the one they ordered 3 days ago and who were told when it would be ready during the phone call they made when they ordered it.

People who have run out of meds and ring on a Friday afternoon expecting miracles or the ones who have run out and they are going on holiday the next day or that night even.

You can tell I've been in work today.

Pretty unfair when doctors won't let you order medication until 3 days before you run out, even though they take 5 days to issue a prescription and then the pharmacist takes another 5 to actually dispense it and text you (if they text you at all).

Not me, but my mum's surgery and associated dispensary. They are so useless.

However I bet you do get some really ditzy people.

FrangipaniBlue · 17/02/2024 13:07

and today specifically, car drivers who don't know their Highway Code and that when turning into or out of a junction cars are supposed to GIVE WAY TO PEDESTRIANS!!

One today was a learner with a driving instructor FFS!!

FrangipaniBlue · 17/02/2024 13:04

Miserable whiny never have a nice thing to say people.

The Victor Meldrew types who literally just moan and everything is everybody else's fault (usually the government).

phoenixrosehere · 17/02/2024 13:01

Music snobs and those who don’t even listen to certain genres but want to say they’re xyz because they heard a handful of musicians from one genre.

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 17/02/2024 12:55

Liars who think you’re stupid

K0OLA1D · 17/02/2024 12:53

People who can't accept that people like other things to them. Who gives a shit what clothes or things people like? Get a grip. I find it really sad

43ontherocksporfavor · 17/02/2024 12:50

@jeaux90 its a regional thing I think. My family is from London and we never said this or heard it. When we moved further north I started to hear chn say it.

siressmins · 17/02/2024 12:39

Competitiveness. It only gets more boring as I get older.

jeaux90 · 17/02/2024 12:28

People that say poorly when they are ill. Winds me up, it's cringe.

friendlyflicka · 17/02/2024 12:18

People that can't summarise
People that defend a position by ending 'it just is' - usually in the case of an emotional stance
When someone says 'I am a parent so I understand...'
An anecdote to back up a point of view
When debating a general issue, bringing up their own past experience of trauma or illness, as though that trumps any other attitude on the subject
Runners on fast roads full of traffic
Motorists who don't acknowledge that another motorist has given way

HRTQueen · 17/02/2024 12:09

AgnesX · 15/02/2024 18:18

On a training course today ( the usual corporate nonsense). Some people are far too fond of their own voices especially at finishing time 😬

This ^

and in meetings there is always one who has another point to make while everyone else looks throughly pissed off as they have work to get on with

every team has that person

Galeforcewindatmywindow · 17/02/2024 11:48

Adults who wear clothes with infantile motifs... Browsing Tesco for pj's for a poorly friend. Ironed on plastic motifs. Made me cringe. And they were £22.50!! Whole sections of Disney adult clothes in Primark!!