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What irritates you about other people?

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CruCru · 15/02/2024 17:35

I get really irritated when someone won’t accept “I don’t know” as my answer. Something along the lines of:

”Sarah is having a baby! Do you know when it’s due?”
”No, I didn’t know she was pregnant”
”Her oldest is four and she didn’t want a big age gap so it’s probably soon” <Looks at me expectantly>
”I didn’t know she was pregnant so no idea I’m afraid”
”But when do you think it would be?” <Looks at me expectantly>
”Still no idea. Between now and six months?!?”

Or

”I need to hire a nanny. How do you recruit a nanny?”
”I don’t have a nanny so couldn’t say. Have you talked to Sarah, she will probably know?”
”I should probably talk to a nanny agency, which one should I call?”
”I’ve never hired a nanny through an agency so no idea I’m afraid”
”But you must have some idea!”

It has to be okay to sometimes just say “I dunno”.

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lieselotte · 29/02/2024 18:03

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 28/02/2024 20:43

People on Teams meetings being interrupted by their kids or pets. That sort of thing was cute and funny for about a fortnight during the first lockdown, but most of us have moved on and just find it unprofessional and irritating.

Yes, totally agree!

lieselotte · 29/02/2024 18:03

TigerRag · 28/02/2024 09:10

When you're walking towards a large gr spread out over the pavement and no one moves for you but expects you to move either into a wall or oncoming traffic.

Just stop and force them to go round you. They will mutter "so rude" but clearly, you are not the rude one!

lieselotte · 29/02/2024 18:01

CruCru · 26/02/2024 22:50

In that case, do you make a point of sitting in the aisle seat next to someone already in the window seat? Or do you block off the window seat, making someone who wants it ask to sit there?

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It depends if the train is likely to get busy. Usually I sit near the back of the train (going into a terminus, so people like to be closer to the front) on a three-seater, so someone takes the other end seat and the middle one stays empty because the back of the train doesn't get busy enough.

If I am getting on an already busy train I try to sit next to a slim lady!

Morecurlywurly · 29/02/2024 17:54

People who talk at you about themselves and assume you’re really interested.

Rudeness is the only way to deal with this as in quick change of subject.

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CruCru · 29/02/2024 17:06

I know quite a few people who all seem to think that someone (not them) should pay more tax to fix the troubles of the world. I have pointed out to a couple of them that they are high earners so, if more tax is to be paid, it will probably be paid by them.

Nope. They don’t mean them (ordinary high earners). They mean ultra wealthy people. Who are quite rare and have a lot of income not in the UK so not taxable.

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CruCru · 29/02/2024 13:10

An old friend (who I was once close with but who has moved abroad) has ghosted me. I am sad about this but there really is no way to make her reply to my messages and it’s getting rude to keep messaging her.

A lot of friends who met her through me keep asking about her. I know she was fun but it’s getting really awkward. Telling me that I should really make the effort to get back in touch makes me feel worse.

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WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 29/02/2024 01:58

Selfish and inconsiderate people
people who interrupt others when they’re talking
people who are unnecessarily rude
people who can talk incessantly behind your back but not to your face
dishonest people
people who drive 10-15 mph an hour slower than the speed limit and don’t understand why everyone else is getting irritated
people who don’t clean up after themselves
jobsworths
double standards
Cyclists
motorbikes
lorries
cars
people in general

EasterEggsComeAtMe · 28/02/2024 23:37

People suggesting therapy to those they don't know when they express strong emotions about something. It's an absolute disgrace and a huge overstep.

Pickled21 · 28/02/2024 22:33

People that are always woe is me but competitive with it. So you've got a cold but they've got pneumonia. Those that want details about your life such as how kids are getting on at school, how much you earn but will evade answering if you ask them the same questions.

purplehotdogs · 28/02/2024 21:14

The very existence of other people frustrates me some days!

But:
Dog owners who allow their muddy dogs to jump up on other people and make no effort to apologise for the muddy pawprints
Tailgaters
Middle lane sitters
People who allow their kids to climb on seats and make no effort to clean up after them
Shop assistants who don't acknowledge you when you come to pay but merrily carry on chatting to their colleagues about banal shit
People who pull out in front of you when there is nothing behind you and then proceed to dribble along 10mph under the speed limit
Neighbours who play loud music in their gardens every sunny day
Neighbours who have stinky bonfires in their gardens every sunny day

And probably a ton more. Obviously I have zero annoying habits and am a perfect neighbour 😁

the80sweregreat · 28/02/2024 20:52

Not people per sa, but that new song ' sweatpants ' by Paloma Faith makes me want to tear my ears off .
Sorry to derail

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 28/02/2024 20:43

People on Teams meetings being interrupted by their kids or pets. That sort of thing was cute and funny for about a fortnight during the first lockdown, but most of us have moved on and just find it unprofessional and irritating.

MissingMoominMamma · 28/02/2024 20:38

*me

MissingMoominMamma · 28/02/2024 20:37

Whistlers.

The noise makes so uncomfortable, I want to cry.

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 28/02/2024 20:27

SinnerBoy · 26/02/2024 17:22

IKEA customers. The family groups who fill the aisle and dawdle, or stop and then look all hurt when you want to get past.

Can you tell I went to bloody IKEA yesterday?

And parents who take their kids to IKEA just to bounce on the sofas. All IKEA stores have a creche. Does anyone ever use it?

Cathbrownlow · 28/02/2024 09:14

People with halitosis

TigerRag · 28/02/2024 09:10

When you're walking towards a large gr spread out over the pavement and no one moves for you but expects you to move either into a wall or oncoming traffic.

Meowandthen · 27/02/2024 21:05

GinAndJuice99 · 27/02/2024 20:40

People who complain about cyclists. Well, I consider them very low intelligence, basic people, so I get to feel superior to them I guess.

Well that’s the stupidest and most humourless comment on the thread.

How very basic to write that.

GinAndJuice99 · 27/02/2024 20:40

People who complain about cyclists. Well, I consider them very low intelligence, basic people, so I get to feel superior to them I guess.

Meowandthen · 27/02/2024 20:35

Believing in utter woo like homeopathy.

Deluded people who are convinced they know the thoughts, motivations and private lives of someone they have never met, such a celebrities or royals. It’s beyond ridiculous.

the80sweregreat · 27/02/2024 19:30

I sneeze loudly and I really can't help it ! Drives my family mad , but is what it is
Not sure why I can't do nice quiet sneezes like other people seem to!

Maverickess · 27/02/2024 19:02

KAT0779 · 27/02/2024 16:08

Awww no I feel bad for saying that now 😂but tbh I know not ALL people who yawn or sneeze loudly do it for attention, but you know the type, a proper "ATCHOOOO" like actually shouting the word, and the yawn thing especially when they don't cover their mouth and do a big loud noise which is totally unnecessary.

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Ha ha don't feel bad, I'm not a performance sneezer but I'm not a quiet one either and it's really annoying for me as well 🤣

And yes I know the type they don't usually cover their mouth either 😤

MoonWoman69 · 27/02/2024 18:56

Fannyfiggs · 27/02/2024 12:49

Cheeky bastard children who give you a mouth full of expletives and then go crying to their parents when you give them a backhander.

Truthfully, no backhanders were given or children harmed in the making of this post but one can dream.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Bang on! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hoxite274764 · 27/02/2024 17:21

Ridiculously tight people
Queue jumpers
Freeloaders

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CruCru · 27/02/2024 17:10

People who suggest that you arrange things that they want to do but do it in such a way that implies that this is a favour they are doing you. Something along the lines of:

”I know! For your birthday, why don’t you just have a few really good friends over for drinks? People like Caroline!” < Caroline is someone I know casually but the suggester really likes her >

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