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Who is right?

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SoFedUp71 · 14/02/2024 19:49

If a person has a disability - bad knee- is it the person with the knee responsible for asking for help/concideration or is it everybody else who need to remember and concider this?
On holiday and everything blew up, om Way to restaurant, as the person with bad knee Said i need to sit here for a few minuts and another person Said ok and Walked on. Because bad hips did not say hey wait for me.
The other person would absolutely have waited, if asked. Bad knee was furious and shouted when arriwing to restaurant.

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KreedKafer · 14/02/2024 19:57

I think if someone says “I need to stop and sit for a minute” when you are both on your way to a restaurant together, then most people would automatically sit down with them.

However, when it became clear to you Bad Knee that her companion didn’t sit down with her, Bad Knee could very easily have said “Can you wait with me please so we can arrive together?” rather than sitting there angrily on her own and then making a big embarrassing shouting scene at the restaurant.

KnowledgeableMomma · 14/02/2024 19:56

Person with disability should advocate for what they need (like the need to sit down and have a rest). However, if you are familiar with the person with the disability....if they are your family member or friend...then you should be able to anticipate their need. In this example you've given, if it's my friend who has the bad knee, I already KNOW they will need rest stops and to walk slower; of course I would wait for them.

HelloMiss · 14/02/2024 19:53

Is a 'bad knee' a disability?

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SoFedUp71 · 14/02/2024 19:52

English is not my language

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SoFedUp71 · 14/02/2024 19:51

I dont understand ?

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Vitriolinsanity · 14/02/2024 19:50

Surely if you all know your issues the only thing both of you need to do is communicate verbally as opposed to telepathically.

MissPeachyKeen · 14/02/2024 19:50

I think maybe their friend Bad Feet should have mediated

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