House Guest

He has only been to the office twice in 2 weeks so they would only pay 2 nights hotel/food. He is probably pocketing the extra pay while scrounging off OP for free

I'd be ordering myself a nice takeaway and eating it in front of him...if he comments just say 'I assumed as you didn't buy for me I was just treating myself' then tell him you're not impressed with his manners and tell him to f off

Yes fuck right off & right out sunshine. Ha ha 😂 🤣 😆

What a pisstaker! Get rid of him!

Hopefully he is not getting any other " benefits " while he is there ?
I would definitely say something before he leaves ask him why he isn't going into work each day, say that you didn't realise he would be wfh while he was there and obviously this has impacted on your fuel and food bills so can he contribute to this, if you are going to cut contact with him it doesn't really matter if you upset him. But I think it will play on your mind if you don't say something.

Who are the 2% who voted this is not outrageous behaviour???

He is what the Americans call a ' free loader'

He is taking the piss, at the very least he should be buying groceries for you both and cooking for you both by way of a thank you for letting him stay. Tell him to jog on and the situation isn't working for you anymore so he will need to stay elsewhere.

Oh yes this!

His parents have gone on holiday for a fortnight haven’t they? And he needs a stand-in mum to sponge off until they’re back to run around after him!

Tell him to go home! (And replace your food on the way…)

I’m a more thoughtful houseguest when I’m asked to housesit!
your friend is a leech with no manners!
when my friend and her family go on holiday I move in to care for their dog (I can’t have him at mine as my cats don’t like him).
it’s nearby so I can come home to eat etc but if I use stuff of theirs (other than stuff they’ve asked me to use up/dispose of) I replace it. I also make sure they have at least fresh milk and bread when they get home.
does your friend normally live with his parents? He’s behaving like a teenage boy.

Potentially he could. OP said he needed to stay for two weeks due to work commitments in her city. Presumably these are work commitments that can't be met from his actual home. Whether it's reasonable to stay for the two weeks depends on the timing of the work commitments and the journey time and cost from his home location.

I was sent to a site overseas for work. I only had to actually visit the site three times in the week, and the rest of the time I "worked from home" in the hotel my employer paid for. I'd have been mighty pissed off if they said I couldn't reclaim the hotel because I wasn't in the company's non-existent office. If I'd had a friend nearby I could perfectly well have stayed with them and claimed a per diem allowance.

He’s either rude or has the sensitivity of a concrete block. If this was a female friend suspect you would have said something way before now. You have a voice. Use it!! Best case he is utterly mortified, turns up with huge bag of groceries and treats and bunch of flowers as an apology. Worst case he gets the huff and goes - either way a result. No way would I be seething quietly about this in my own home!!

It is incredibly cheeky.
I had a friend once say she thought she was clean and tidy until she lived by herself and then she found out her parents were clean and tidy. It might be the same obliviousness. But at 44 there is no good excuse.

I don’t know how you’ve stayed so calm about this. I’d have lost my shit by now if that was one of my friends! Although I don’t have a single friend that would behave this way!

This is high level cheeky fuckery!

This guy is a man child, who is used to his mother running around after him by the sounds of it. I don’t know how at 44 years old you don’t know how to behave respectfully in someone else’s home.

I wouldn’t be letting him stay again until he learns some bloody manners!

Because people can be total CF's. Best to have a breezy conversation in advance for how things will work than having to do all this handwringing now.

Wow okay. I mean I can’t say much my partner is a bit of a manchild with this but my friends?!

unless they were buying food in to replace I wouldn’t expect them to use mine and not make me some (that’s the pivotal part they are my friend I want them to eat but not whilst I go hungry)

He can’t do that through for WFH.

This. Employers will generally pay expenses if someone has to work away from their home office. Some will pay a per diem allowance as an alternative to seeing receipts and reimbursing expenses.

Is it possible he's being cheekier than you realise, and claiming from his employer as well as leeching off you?

Does this guy usually live at home with his Mum?

Same here, if you use a friend's house you take them for dinner on expenses. Win win win! Cheaper for the company, fun for me and friend

Kick out the selfish user and don't ever have him back!

At my work if you use a friend's house to stay in instead of a hotel for a work trip, work will pay the friend £30 a night.

I don’t agree. How could she have k own that a full grown adult who she considered to be a friend, would behave so rudely?

I'd have made it clear when they moved in that they needed to buy their own food, but if it turned out that wasn't clear I'd say it again later. "Could you buy your own food and not eat mine please?" It's odd and rude to think that eating someone else's stuff without checking WOULD be ok.