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Sloppy seconds.................

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Fishbones1 · 09/02/2024 10:58

I can't give too much detail on this as it would be outing. But in a nutshell, would you apply for a job the second time round if you lost out first time round to someone who had no experience in the field? The person they did go with has decided he doesn't want to continue in the role and would like to return to his previous role within the firm. We were both internal candidates. This is just less than 6 months into the job, and he was really happy to move across to us from his previous role, which he found stressful so he must be pretty unhappy.

He's found that he's not getting the support or guidance from his management that he needs in the role; there's also the possibility that the role isn't what he thought it would be - and he's now wanting to go back to what he was doing previously - looks like the vacancy will come round again. But would I be a fool to give it a second attempt? I too, am slightly worried that the support in that job may not be there..........that's a slight aside as they didn't choose me in any case first time round. No-one has mentioned it too me either - but it's only just happened so I'm assuming the news will "break" soon.

Thoughts?

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ComtesseDeSpair · 09/02/2024 11:04

Yes. Ask for feedback on why the other candidate was preferred at interview and what your weaknesses were, and then you’ll know what you need to improve on for this interviewing round.

I think a lot of people take recruitment processes very personally, when the reality is that even in internal recruitment, the interviewers are still required to evidence that the candidate demonstrates the correct capabilities and requirements. If you didn’t then they have to be honest that you didn’t, even if they might feel from day to day working with you that you would have the capability. The successful candidate gave a better interview. Find out how you can give the best one this time.

Fishbones1 · 09/02/2024 11:04

Sorry I've probably used the expression wrong @2Rebecca - I think you get the idea though

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Spirallingdownwards · 09/02/2024 11:02

Why would you put your career on hold this way if you don't go for it?

If you go for it and don't get it again surely its time for a rethink then anyway.

2Rebecca · 09/02/2024 11:00

Erm that's not what is generally known as sloppy seconds. Very strange thread title

AgentProvocateur · 09/02/2024 10:59

I wouldn’t, but I would probably be cutting off my nose to spite my face.