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Play-date issue!

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Parentslife · 08/02/2024 10:58

So my 8 year old son has just moved schools because we wanted him to have more friends.
He was in a tiny, rural school of 28 kids so outgrew it. For context, he’s already socially well adjusted from extracurricular activities and the move has been successful. He’s made friends quickly but especially with one boy, who appears to be a really nice kid.

They hit it off and after 6 weeks, now refer to each other as best friends.
Then I met the Mum at a school event and there’s no easy way to say it, but although very nice, she’s extremely over the top and intense, aka crazy.

My son came home today and excitedly told me that the boy had invited him over tomorrow.
The Mum messaged me and told me she’d pick both of them straight up from school and I could collect him a few hours later.

Now I don’t even have her address or know her at all, so explained I’d be more than happy to drop him off after school and pick him up later.
I asked for the address and she’s ghosted the message!

Am I being unreasonable to not let another Mum pick my son up and take him to a home I’ve never been to?
Is this weird or would you be OK with it?

Thanks!

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PackingupTime · 08/02/2024 11:00

YANBU surely she can't pick him up (I.e the school won't release him to her) without your permission anyway? Just make sure you're there for pick up and say to her 'sorry you didn't reply and I'm here now, how about I pop over to yours too since we've never been there and we can have a coffee and a chat whilst the boys play?" And be insistent.

NewYearNewCalendar · 08/02/2024 10:59

Nope I would not be ok with it! Would at the very least need to have their address to know where they were.