£108 on his soft drinks every month

Even if the person dictating to you was the person paying for it?

if its seperate finances in seperate accounts dont give him you card job solved also some corner shops you to spend a minimum on card so that 1.00 drink could end up a 5.00. He needs a lesson in budget management or get him to pay for a months or weeks drink when you do youre grocery shopping. Amazon is even cheaper

He obviously does not think so, so why should she? She is not his parent to bail him out when he overspends.

You have an extra child in the house. What a catch

I don’t think it is about being self righteous! There is a lot of ignorance about how harmful UPF and drinks are and more and more evidence is coming to light. Any steps people take to reduce intake of these is great, but unless people are fully aware of the risks and the cost to society/ our children and the environment they are unable to make an informed choice

@ftp isn't it family money?

I think i would have the right to tell him what to spend MY money on

What drinks apart from full fat coke contain sugar nowadays. Most drinks contain the poison called sweetener. I find it really hard to find full sugar drinks. People need to educate themselves. I’d much prefer sugar over sweeteners.

Are you fucking serious?

Shit like this? Seriously???

everything is bad for you without moderation. I suggested ways to reduce consumption and explained how my dad reduced his consumption. This is why people get upset. Others try to take steps to eat and drink in a healthier way and people like you come along and tell them how they aren't good enough. We all know that daily consumption is bad for you. we also know that people do better reducing intake until it is a treat and not a daily thing and going cold turkey rarely works. And no one needs self-righteousness from strangers, who know nothing about them, on their journey.

Obviously it’s pretty clear that you and the OP’s partner aren’t the only customers of fizzy drinks manufacturers. But you seem very very blasé about them. Even if 70% of the human race buys and drinks them; they’ll still be very very bad for peoples’ health. It’s irrelevant how many other people are buying them; it’s still horrendously bad for you. It’s so dangerous to normalise these types of drinks/food.. I think it’s been mentioned up thread but the best seller Ultra Processed People is a really good informative read.

someone that drinks a ton of soda is not going to go cold turkey. How is my telling them to drink less and explaining how my dad used to drink a lot but now drinks less incorrect or terrible advice? Your own doctor will tell you to drink less if you aren't going to stop completely.

Get SodaStream & he can mix the fizzy water with squash or with the things like Papsi Max or 7Up syrups they do to go with the machines. Much cheaper.

Literally everything you've said is either incorrect, or terrible advice.

Yes, because I and this person's family are the only ones buying it. We are all personally keeping Pepsi and Coke afloat.

I don't think you can reasonably tell him what he can and cannot drink because you earn more than him.

Yes just read all her updates. Getting through £800 of his own money in 2 weeks is excessive.
anyone should be able to survive on £200 a week.
Maybe he should take packed lunches to work if he can’t manage on his money.

He runs out of money after 1.5 weeks and then has to rely on the op for money.

But he's using OPs money to fund this. At least he is once his money runs out each month. So it is affecting others.

It's ok to say "this is my one vice" but only if you're funding it yourself, surely?

I'm sure OP wouldn't want him to be telling her what to spend, but then she'd be using her own money so of course can control how it's spent. Her partner is using his own money on these unnecessary expenditures (even buying bulk lemonade from Tesco would save him a lot of money) and then scrounging off her the rest of the month.

Yes, sorry, I meant he's in debt.

I easily spend £100 on diet decaf coke… but I don’t smoke, vape or drink alcohol, don’t get nails or hair done etc… so to me if I want to drink fizzy as my pleasure then that’s my business…. As long as no one else in the house is going without necessities then it’s fine!…
I find it irritating that he’s criticised for this… if he turned round and said you spent £X on hair, nails makeup etc he’d be shot down in flames as a controlling prick

I'd get your card back off him. If he's so irresponsible with money that he lives off you for the majority of the month I'd teach him a lesson. Have a joint account for the household that you both put an equal amount of money into. Pay as many bills as possible by DD from the account. You need to have complete control of the account. Any money you have left in either of your personal accounts is yours but once he's spent his you don't give him any money. Make him realise that he needs to budget. You bailing him out every month is letting him buy what he likes. He's an adult so he should be able to do it. If he's old enough to have a family he's old enough to sort his finances. He sounds more like a teenager relying on his mum when he runs out of pop money. You sound as if you already resent this about him so try and nip it in the bud. If you don't your resentment will only get worse and destroy your relationship. Good luck.

Tell him to suck it up and go to poundland, they do bottles of drink way cheaper. Buy them in bulk. My partner is the same