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Being called by wrong name…

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IsawwhatIsaw · 04/02/2024 20:30

Now this maybe sounds a bit petty, but still..
I’ve been going to the same exercise class for many years. Its a small group and I enjoy going.
The issue is the instructor persists in calling me by the wrong name, instead calling me the name of someone else in the class. I’ve got a very ordinary name, not difficult to pronounce. And she doesn’t misname anyone else, it’s only ever really me!
I’ve quietly corrected her most times, but it keeps on happening , seems to be even worse lately. She doesn’t really apologise, once telling me I look like the other person!
But it’s getting annoying , especially as when I’m lying down, I’ve no idea if she means to talk to me or not. I’m actually thinking of joining another class now.

OP posts:
readytoweep · 04/02/2024 20:55

Stop being quiet about it.

loudly tell her to call you by the correct name as she’s now being rude.

IsawwhatIsaw · 04/02/2024 20:54

Yes I enjoy the class, but as I said, I can feel my irritation growing.
I’ve tried ignoring her, and also saying “do you mean me?”

But there’s something tiring and undermining about it. She doesn’t do it to anyone else.

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TerriPie · 04/02/2024 20:43

Have you tried totally ignoring then when they call you by the wrong name? Don't turn around or make eye contact?

JohnMytton · 04/02/2024 20:41

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Allthatglittersisntart · 04/02/2024 20:38

YANBU but it sounds like she has some sort of mind block around your name.
Can you talk to her before or after class, explain that you find it confusing, and see if that changes things, since you enjoy it and it would be a shame to stop? She may be too focused while teaching to register your name corrections.