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Won a prize (maybe)

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Gilead · 04/02/2024 17:33

Recently won a significant gift card. Refused to get excited about it but ordered some stuff that I felt I needed bit randomly because unsure if it’s real or not.
Anyway, one item arrived and I told dd is hacked off with me for not considering anyone else. I really didn’t think because I was (and still am) unsure of it being genuine.
I honestly don’t get why dd is upset. She wasn’t angry just pointing out that I should have thought about her and her siblings. We are both autistic so perhaps we are not clear enough with one another. It’s taken the shine off it a bit.

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 12/02/2024 11:11

Well that's wonderful !

You didn't at any time give you bank card details or paypal details to receive the gift card did you ?

You haven't had to pay for delivery or p=p separately have you ?

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Gilead · 12/02/2024 09:32

Well, I have to say, I’m in shock, it all turned up this morning!
I’m chuffed to pieces!

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Gilead · 08/02/2024 22:43

A brief update: I have a delivery date! Still not getting excited until it’s here!

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Luckydog7 · 05/02/2024 10:52

If you were well off then it would be a kind thing to do to buy your children something special from the prize but a) you are struggling to afford important things for the house, that comes before fun things. b) it's bad manners to ask especially as you haven't even spent it all, how does she know she wasn't getting any! C) she's an adult and shouldn't expect her parent to gift something that she's won regardless of any wealth disparity. The prize is yours!

andymary · 05/02/2024 09:57

Why not just tell DD that you're saving it, and only going to be using it to buy birthday/Christmas presents?

pootlin · 05/02/2024 09:21

Your dd is a right entitled madam.

This should ge a sign that you need to stop buying ANYthing for them.

Scottishshortbread11877 · 05/02/2024 08:07

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/02/2024 05:50

Hmm, being a suspicious soul I would hold off ordering bigger things until you get confirmation. And I thought you were going to say that your dd was a teen, no, autistic or not she needs to realise you aren’t a cash cow.

The test run was the smaller item. I assumed that was the proof it is genuine

boopboopbidoop · 05/02/2024 07:12

So it's for 1000. You can purchase items up to that value and you did a test purchase of a small thing? Is that right?

If it's genuine then why is your dd angry? Why wouldn't she at least be nice and ask if you would buy her and her siblings something rather than go all caustic?

In any case if it's genuine and you have things you need, 100% get those. Needs come before wants.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/02/2024 05:50

Hmm, being a suspicious soul I would hold off ordering bigger things until you get confirmation. And I thought you were going to say that your dd was a teen, no, autistic or not she needs to realise you aren’t a cash cow.

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Gilead · 05/02/2024 03:52

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon
yes, that was my thinking.
I should also say that having emailed the company I have no definitive answer, first they asked for a copy of the email and then apparently their computers were down.

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 05/02/2024 00:48

Do you think it is a scam ?
Is that why the larger value items have not arrived ?
or have you not purchased the larger items yet with this gift card ?

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Gilead · 05/02/2024 00:44

The youngest is 28, I regularly pay for her shopping. I did think about it and then I was a wee bit heck no, this is never me, I’m going to try for a couple of big items that need replacing and that I can’t afford.

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TheSlantedOwl · 05/02/2024 00:10

I would probably treat my DC if I won a grand as well as myself tbh.

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Gilead · 04/02/2024 23:59

It was for a grand!

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determinedtomakethiswork · 04/02/2024 23:37

I think it sounds genuine. Congratulations! How much was it for?

I think your daughter should mind her own business! Why should she benefit you winning a prize?

candyfloss100 · 04/02/2024 23:20

You feed your DC, you house your DC and you do everything else for your DC so you definitely deserve this for yourself and your DD is cheeky to suggest otherwise!

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Gilead · 04/02/2024 23:03

@KnowledgeableMomma
thank you! I’ve had a really rubbish weekend and you’ve cheered me up a bit.

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KnowledgeableMomma · 04/02/2024 21:44

Gilead · 04/02/2024 20:38

  1. it was a lucky dip thing on instagram, from what I can gather. I actually can’t remember. It is from a firm I have purchased from before.
  2. Dd had nothing to do with it.
  3. it just feels unreal, I’m not a person who wins things, especially not big things.

Well, in that case, congrats! Go enjoy your winnings! You are not required to purchase anything for DD/DC. She can be upset if she'd like but there is no reason behind it. Get yourself something nice!

Waitingfordoggo · 04/02/2024 20:52

Depending on her age, I would probably tell your DD that she’s welcome to enter competitions too.

Congratulations on your win!

pootlin · 04/02/2024 20:51

Your dd is very entitled.

LittleGreenDragons · 04/02/2024 20:50

Why is your daughter telling you off instead of being excited for you. Mothers are allowed to have something just for themselves. How old is she?

Garlickit · 04/02/2024 20:49

Dartmoorcheffy · 04/02/2024 20:47

Sounds dodgy if only the cheap item jas arrived.

She only ordered a cheap item, to test it out.

Garlickit · 04/02/2024 20:48

Sparklesocks · 04/02/2024 20:46

So they sent you the gift card/a code for the gift card to be used on their website, and you’ve used it, but not everything has arrived?

As I understood it, OP won a high-value gift card. So she can order up to that value of items from participating retailer(s). Free money, like 🙂

Dartmoorcheffy · 04/02/2024 20:47

Sounds dodgy if only the cheap item jas arrived.

Sparklesocks · 04/02/2024 20:46

So they sent you the gift card/a code for the gift card to be used on their website, and you’ve used it, but not everything has arrived?