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Does anyone else suffer with auditory processing problems?

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Rosexoxo · 01/02/2024 23:31

I have had my hearing checked on multiple occasions over the years and apparently my ability to hear sounds is perfectly normal for my age.
It is just so strange that if I am in an environment with any background sound (eg in a coffee shop) , I really struggle to hear a conversation. I am often conscious that no one else seems to be having any problems hearing.

When I am eating, I can't hear the TV properly due to the sound of my chomping.
Does anyone else have this? I have been like it from childhood. I find it so tiring to meet up with people in busy places, due to the effort involved trying to follow what they are saying against background noise.

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Shadowsindarkplaces · 02/02/2024 09:10

I do, diagnosed after my boss kept moaning that I was deaf as a post. I wasn't, I hear volume, just not distinguishing the sounds. Phone ringing, music playing, people talking, and general clatter end up an overwhelming mash of noise.
Can't decipher lyrics ( misheard lyrics is a speciality😂)
struggle with accents
Can't use a phone with background noise
Can't take notes
Can't stay on tune singing if there is more than one level..descant/ overlays
Misophonia

I realise I've been like it since a child, didn't realise it was a thing until the last few years. I got into trouble at work for not taking notes in a meeting. I needed slow and dictated.

I suffer from Misphonia too. It makes you wonder if there is a link between auditory processing disorder and Misphonia.

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saturnspinkhoop · 02/02/2024 10:28

Thank you for starting this thread, OP. I’m another one who has long complained of hearing issues, yet hearing tests showed mild hearing loss at most. Certainly didn’t explain my difficulties. I suspect I may be ND too.

Branleuse · 02/02/2024 10:26

I'm terrible for this. I'm autistic and have ADHD.

SpeedyDrama · 02/02/2024 10:25

Yes, don’t enjoy noisy bars etc.

Yes, places like this are the worst. I have a friend’s birthday coming up, huge group, don’t know many of them and I’m honestly feeling sick about it. Everyone talking across, getting louder with alcohol, going to a club after…. it’s so frustrating not being able to follow conversations, knowing there’s a blank look on your face, people thinking you’re rude/weird.

AtomicBlondeRose · 02/02/2024 10:19

Yes, don’t enjoy noisy bars etc. The other day we went bowling in an amusement arcade - the actual bowling was fine but when booking the lane there was loud music and lots of other machine noises and I was staring at the guy and just couldn’t track what he was saying at all. I can physically hear it but I can’t make sense of it!

Another example is that I was trying to pack a parcel to post and the bath was running in the bathroom next door. I just kept getting in a flap and messing up because of the noise of the water. I think a running tap alone or the shower would have been fine but the sound of the bath getting deeper and deeper was just intolerable! I had to go and turn it off until I’d finished my job.

SpeedyDrama · 02/02/2024 10:18

Yes, I do and also perusing an ADHD diagnosis. Cannot hear a thing in busy/loud/stimulating environments. Feel awful for my eldest child, he runs out of school wanting to tell me about something and I cannot hear a word he says until we’re sat back in the car. Think its name is auditory processing disorder isn’t it? Bloody frustrating whatever it is.

Blanca87 · 02/02/2024 10:16

Yes also ND

InattentiveADHD · 02/02/2024 10:15

Yes but I have ADHD. I also had my hearing tested for the same reason (couldn't hear in environments with background noise). They also said my hearing was fine "for my age" and that it was an "attention issue". It's one of (many) things that pushed me to pursue an ADHD assessment.

DRS1970 · 02/02/2024 09:45

I have similar problems to you OP. If I am in a public place I find it very hard to hold a conversation, or pick out individual voices, and if I do hear it I find it hard to take in the information and process it. I have higher functioning autism, which is the likely cause for me.

Blownupblowndown · 02/02/2024 09:11

I have this. Also had numerous hearing checks but all clear. It’s so annoying. I have subtitles on Tv at all times because otherwise I miss so much. And I hate phone calls!
I speak French also but I remember when learning, I found it really hard to understand speech unless I saw their mouths at the same time so I realised that I must lip read a lot- even in English.
Wish there was a fix for it but I’m 40 and I haven’t found one!

Shadowsindarkplaces · 02/02/2024 09:10

oh and dialogue in films..Can't follow.

Shadowsindarkplaces · 02/02/2024 09:10

I do, diagnosed after my boss kept moaning that I was deaf as a post. I wasn't, I hear volume, just not distinguishing the sounds. Phone ringing, music playing, people talking, and general clatter end up an overwhelming mash of noise.
Can't decipher lyrics ( misheard lyrics is a speciality😂)
struggle with accents
Can't use a phone with background noise
Can't take notes
Can't stay on tune singing if there is more than one level..descant/ overlays
Misophonia

I realise I've been like it since a child, didn't realise it was a thing until the last few years. I got into trouble at work for not taking notes in a meeting. I needed slow and dictated.

Saymyname28 · 02/02/2024 09:08

Yep. Autism and ADHD here.

familyissues12345 · 02/02/2024 09:07

Yes, but I do have a feeling I am undiagnosed ND.

Rosexoxo · 02/02/2024 08:56

CupOfCoffeeandaPineappleChunk · 02/02/2024 01:56

Dh has auditory proceeding disorder. It's diagnosed by a battery of complex tests with special equipment and there are some aids that can help. He also struggled with things like foreign accents which is characteristic if the disorder too and his speed of understanding down word is very slow( and frustrating for me) as well as having the issues with background noise you describe. They're is a strong overlap between APD and ASD although they can exist separately.
Have a look at the work out professor Doris bamiou who is considered to be the expert in the condition, she had done interesting research, she prescribes sensory hearung aids if the conditions gets too severe and interferes with daily abilities.

Thank you for this. That is most interesting.

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Nttttt · 02/02/2024 08:56

I do!!!

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Rosexoxo · 02/02/2024 08:52

Jifmicroliquid · 02/02/2024 06:44

Yes. ASD here. You can get loop earplugs that might help.

Thank you for this suggestion. Will look into this!

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Upsidetown · 02/02/2024 06:51

Yes I’m always the one to ask to put the tv volume up if I’m eating in someone else’s house. Also struggle with conversations in noisy environments. I have ADHD so don’t know if it’s to do with that.

I don’t see how the eating thing would be though as I literally can’t hear the words very well when I’m eating.

Jifmicroliquid · 02/02/2024 06:44

Yes. ASD here. You can get loop earplugs that might help.

Octavia64 · 02/02/2024 06:43

I struggle in noisy environments- restaurants and cafes.

I had multiple ear infections when young and was operated on.

My hearing is measurably worse than normal.

I'm fine with foreign languages and accents although I require time to "tune in".

FlickyCrumble · 02/02/2024 06:42

I have it when eating but I know a lot of it is due to the actors trying be more natural in the delivery of their lines. I have less of a problem with period drama (rp) or soaps (shouty).

morningafterglow · 02/02/2024 06:38

I have this and I reckon it's getting worse with age. I really struggle with distinguishing voices in places with a lot of background noise. At home I get really irritated by the fan. And things like my husband running his hand over his stubble when we are sat watching tv drive me crazy but I know that's unreasonable so I have to apologise when asking him to stop. I use subtitles a lot. In recent years ive taken to almost constantly wearing AirPods not turned on, as a subtle type of ear defender.

I am similar with light. Have always worn sunglasses even when it's just a bit bright, not sunny. I only like lamps on, hate the main light. I set all my screens to warm or night mode even in the day, and hate blue-white xmas lights.

It's only as a parent of ND DC (one diagnosed one not) that I now realise I am also ND. It doesn't restrict my life enough to pursue diagnosis but it's so clear to me now. Filling in the diagnosis forms for DC1 was an eye opener as so much applied to me!

cariadlet · 02/02/2024 04:28

Yes, like several pp I'm also autistic.

Telephone calls are worse. I noticed once that someone had left a voice message on my phone. Tried picking it up but I was outside, not a noisy environment but there were people talking.
Absolute silence so thought that someone had called me and decided to hang up when the phone went to voicemail.
Checked voicemail again a few days later. I happened to be at the supermarket but this time I was wearing headphones which blocked off much of the external noise.
Turned out that the original message hadn't been silence after all. I could hear the caller's voice perfectly.

Rosexoxo · 02/02/2024 04:05

slackademic · 02/02/2024 01:31

Yes - the problem is very specifically with the spoken word - my hearing at other ends is the spectrum, both low and high is far better than my wife BUT I also understand that now, later on life, that, according to both my offspring, (both doctors), that I would, definitely have been classed as having several autistic traits - I now accept that part of the problem is the irritation (perhaps more dissatisfaction) I experience when I don't hear every single word it creates an internal torture if I don't hear every single part of the dialogue - I'm the same when reading - I have to understand every single sentence - I simply can't skirt over anything - settling for a general sense of what is going on is just so unacceptable to me - it distresses me.. so I don't think the problem is the one that an audiologist mentioned - that a very small number of people have difficulty distinguishing and decoding voices in a noisy environment - this is exactly what I do have but I think it is now to do with the "autistic traits" - I find sounds that originate quite close to me, even relatively quiet ones compared to other sound sources, sound as loud to me because of the way my attention works - I pay more attention to the sound that is closer to me - I struggle to filter it out, it is highly distracting to me, I can not "overlook" it - a clock ticking will interfere with my ability to hear the TV or radio - it is definitely an inability to filter out audible distractions - it feels like all sounds - loud and quite, close and far away, are shocked so that they are all equal to each other in terms of the demand they make on my attention and that is what makes it difficult for me to decipher voices in an environment with a mix of different sound sources - it's not to do with the physical inability to hear certain frequencies or sounds.

Yes, I know what you mean about fixating on when I can't hear every word clearly. DH is perfectly fine if he hears the gist of what people are saying. Me, not so much. I panic if I can't hear every word fully and then this reduces my ability to listen effectively.

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JustJoinedRightNow · 02/02/2024 03:58

Hi OP
in a rush but I've got a hearing disorder called SSCD (type that plus ear into Google). I can hear myself blinking, cannot focus in conversations if there is background music on. Basically was told I have super sonar hearing so I hear everything at once.
PM me if you've got questions