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gratitudegirl · 2024-01-30T19:48:11+00:00

If you were sobbing in the sofa next to your partner and he just ignored you and continued to play on his Xbox without a simple 'are you okay' how would you feel? 😭😭 Yes he saw me crying. He just looked away. We've been together for 2 years. I've always supported him when he cried. I feel very lonely

PutMyFootIn · 30/01/2024 19:56

Is he quite young? Maybe he's just never come across this before and doesn't know what to do.

Go and speak to him. Tell him you're upset, tell him why you're upset and tell him what he can do to comfort you and make you feel a bit better. He's not a mind reader, probably just a bit immature and insensitive.

Holly60 · 30/01/2024 19:56

I think just sitting there and starting crying is somehow a bit pass agg and attention seeking.

It's quite different from starting to cry mid-conversation to be honest. Or taking yourself to the loo to have a little cry.

Either start a conversation and actually communicate with your partner or take yourself away and cry in private.

If he is bad at communicating or validating your feelings etc that is another thing, but just not responding well to someone sitting next to him crying is not necessarily unusual, I don't think.

LifeofBrienne · 30/01/2024 19:54

gratitudegirl · 30/01/2024 19:51

You're really sweet asking. I'm just really struggling with life. Really really struggling 😭 I try and hold it together all the time but tonight I feel really sad and alone and he's just confirmed it by ignoring me. I wish I could escape him 😭

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Well you can escape him you know. There’s no law that says you have to stay together if he’s a bit crap.

Krayola · 30/01/2024 19:54

gratitudegirl · 30/01/2024 19:52

There's nowhere else to go. It's a studio. Surely if I'm crying in the toilet that's more attention seeking? If not ill give that a go

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So tell him what’s wrong. Dont just sit waiting for him to ask. Do you cry often? Because I’d personally ignore a regular cryer.

Im sorry you’re struggling at the minute but I do think you need to speak up if you’re upset, don’t sit waiting for someone to notice or react

GettingStuffed · 30/01/2024 19:53

You say partner, do you have children together. If not just walk away. Considered it self care. As previous poster said we can support you here

PonyPatter44 · 30/01/2024 19:53

He isn't very nice, is he? My DP would no more ignore me crying than he would fly to the moon, becausehe loves me and hates to see me sad.

Is your partner always so uncaring? You say that you wish you could escape him - why can't you leave if you're not happy?

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gratitudegirl · 30/01/2024 19:53

Hatty65 · 30/01/2024 19:52

He sounds insensitive, but what's wrong? (And do you do this a lot?)

My DH would be really concerned if I was sobbing, but then I don't think I've ever sat their sobbing next to him without telling him why I was crying. If you are just sitting there crying your eyes out without him being aware of why it sounds a little attention seeking.

I've literally never cried in front of him. This is the first time in two years I'm actually really upset. I normally hide things and he's just vaping and gaming. It's so lonely!

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gratitudegirl · 30/01/2024 19:52

Krayola · 30/01/2024 19:51

I’d get a bit irritated with someone just randomly crying to be honest. Either say what’s up or go and cry in private. Sitting there crying waiting for attention is silly

There's nowhere else to go. It's a studio. Surely if I'm crying in the toilet that's more attention seeking? If not ill give that a go

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Hatty65 · 30/01/2024 19:52

He sounds insensitive, but what's wrong? (And do you do this a lot?)

My DH would be really concerned if I was sobbing, but then I don't think I've ever sat their sobbing next to him without telling him why I was crying. If you are just sitting there crying your eyes out without him being aware of why it sounds a little attention seeking.

Krayola · 30/01/2024 19:51

I’d get a bit irritated with someone just randomly crying to be honest. Either say what’s up or go and cry in private. Sitting there crying waiting for attention is silly

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gratitudegirl · 30/01/2024 19:51

PutMyFootIn · 30/01/2024 19:49

It does sound a bit insensitive.

Are you OK? You can talk to us on here if you need to.

You're really sweet asking. I'm just really struggling with life. Really really struggling 😭 I try and hold it together all the time but tonight I feel really sad and alone and he's just confirmed it by ignoring me. I wish I could escape him 😭

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PutMyFootIn · 30/01/2024 19:49

It does sound a bit insensitive.

Are you OK? You can talk to us on here if you need to.