Ungrateful breakfast

Looks tasty enough to me.

I think that, like Penis Beaker and Crying at the Sistine Chapel, Poached Eggs on Weetabix may become one of those shibboleths that future Mumsnetters use to prove how long they've been around...

Are you this timid in other areas of your life or just in your own home?

If you really wanted to please someone, why wouldn't you make them the food they wanted?

Why make them something they haven't said they wanted, twice?

This kind of thing is never good and I don’t see why you should pander to it just because someone is older. Having to do something for someone whether they want you to or not, ignoring what they said and wasting their food is rude and needy. If she’d brought you a present you don’t like much, of course yes you’d be polite then, but not deciding to cook weird food, against your wishes, using your stuff. Why did she ask if she was going to ignore you? If she’s trying to show she’s grateful, she’s being extremely clueless and/or overbearing.

if she has dementia then I’d be forgiving of course, but otherwise I’d have to say quite firmly “Please don’t make me any food, I don’t want you to.”

I do have a very overbearing and needy mother though so I may be extra sensitive, but I’d hate this so much.

That’s what I’d do.

vile hardly, get a grip OP 🙄

Eggs on weetabix sounds very strange! Is there cultural food differences involved? We used to have visitors to our workplace canteen that loved a bit of custard on their mince 🤮

When she brought you breakfast and you sent your dp downstairs, why did he not just bring the weetabix back up (or you go down?) rather than wait for her to serve you breakfast in your room again? That sounds a bit weird... what's going on with the dynamics here?

Rather patronising. And one makes one's guests breakfast, or at least points them in the direction of what's available. Were I DP's mother I would worry about my DS's choice.

Exactly, she's a guest. OP should get up and make her breakfast.

I can't stand weetabix and would never heat them up in the microwave with milk but people have different ideas and that's yours. Fruit and creme fraiche is a much healthier option than the eggs and you could have found it nice. Get DP to explain. Personally, I'd thank her for doing breakfast and eat it - if I were your DP's mother I would not even offer to make breakfast, I would expect you, my host, to make mine. I might make dinner, but probably not, as it is not my kitchen.

you are being unreasonable wanting your husband to nip this in the bud.
Do it your self and make it clear that she is not to make your breakfast.

The only people who I really want to make themselves at home in my home (other than me and DP) are my mum and brother, who are welcome whenever, whatever.

Everyone else needs to behave like a guest when they're here.

She's overstepped the mark, and you need to make that clear to her.

My goodness, all this fuss (plus the f word) over a couple of eggs. Just eat them and be quiet.

I'm sitting here actually laughing out just thinking about that!!!

What on earth!! Surely you'd know not to put poached eggs on top of Weetabix?!

😱😂🤪

She’s trying god love her
Don’t rock the boat by saying something this early on,
What nationality is she that she Dosen’t know that milk goes on weetabix not eggs😂…..I thought everyone knew this

This far I can see why you're annoyed but it seems she's trying to be helpful.

But yes, you do need to put a stop to it, because it's also irritating and she needs to respect what you've asked. He needs to stop laughing at it.

Unless she's trying to split you up

This is over stepping all boundaries. It sounds like her first time in your home, yet she’s rifling through your cupboards and not listening to you when you replied that you didn’t want her to make your breakfast. Tell her straight. In way it could be a blessing if DP is not “the one” as she’ll be a nightmare MIL

Probably because she is busy getting ready for work and has already been kind enough to offer her place and is cooking tonight. Don’t try and make the op out to be a bad host when she is being very generous letting her stay.

😂

Where I'm from, respect is earned, not automatically given.

If someone is happy to cook for people, it should be that they are happy to cook what people want for them. There is something wrong with someone who justifies cooking something that the person they cook it for doesn't like. That means the "cook" is only considering themself, not the person they're cooking for. Excusing it as "they meant well" puts the excuser on the side of the person who has not actually considered the needs or wants of the person they have decided to do a favour for.

Given the OP had stated she didn't want anything, it was completely overstepping boundaries for the DPs mum to decide to cook something anyway. She'd already been told this was unnecessary and then decided in any case she would make herself completely at home in OPs kitchen, disregarding the fact that ingredients she used may have been required for something later.

OP I would be very careful here. Your DP is likely to have been brought up with a lack of boundaries too, especially given he is excusing his mother. You will need firm boundaries around him as well as her.

It’s an oblique hint for a grandchild, ASAP. She’s saying “Hurry up while your eggs are still fresh, or you’ll dry up like this Weetabix and it’ll be too late”.

Not just eggs on weetabix, but eggs on weetabix presented to you at your bedroom door while you're trying to get ready to go to work. Were you supposed to eat them there and then, perched on the edge of the bed?

If she knocks on the bedroom door tomorrow, don't answer!

whilst it makes her happy it is overstepping as she is trying to get someone to eat food in a location they don’t necessarily want to eat in, eat food they don’t want and at a time that is not necessarily when she wants to eat.
offering is a nice thing to do but then forcing it on someone once they’ve declined your offer is inconsiderate and makes the other person uncomfortable.

I hope you were dipping cereal in a nice runny egg when you typed that!