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Holiday

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adonk · 24/01/2024 18:46

So my boyfriend has asked me how I would feel, if he went on holiday with his ex and their child… so they could both be there for the child’s first holiday. Am I wrong to think absolutely not! Or am I overreacting? Anyone been in this situation?

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Dartmoorcheffy · 24/01/2024 19:41

It would be a no from me

AllAboardTootToot · 24/01/2024 19:40

Don’t see why you can’t go along and you both have your room and dad gets to experience little ones first time abroad? If not untoward she should be fine with that?

Jessforless · 24/01/2024 19:40

Given your update you could all go.

Midnlghtrain · 24/01/2024 19:39

I can 100% understand why that's something they'd want to share - it's a huge deal! Unfortunately if they're separated and seeing other people, that's the sort of thing they can't really do, they've made decisions to separate and that means they probably won't get to share a lot of their child's firsts anymore.

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adonk · 24/01/2024 19:38

His child is 6, we’ve been together for 2 years, we’ve taken little one on holidays in the UK but his mum wants to take him abroad with my partner. No his mum doesn’t have a partner

I can’t tell you where anyone’s sleeping as nothing has been arranged as far as i’m aware but my partner has asked how I feel about it

OP posts:
Dartmoorcheffy · 24/01/2024 19:38

The child could be 6 months or 16 years , it just says their first holiday

60PercentClub · 24/01/2024 19:37

Yea, Im pretty relaxed about maintaining strong relationships with ex's and male/female friendhips etc etc but this would be a firm 'No' from me.

SadlyACupOfTeaDoesNotSolveEverything · 24/01/2024 19:37

I wouldn’t be keen. Could you all go?

EffortlesslyInelegant · 24/01/2024 19:37

ilovesooty · 24/01/2024 19:35

Why are people asking how old the child is when it's in the OP?

You sure hun?

Jessforless · 24/01/2024 19:36

Personally I would really struggle with this and would have to ask that either I went too and parents took turns spending the day with the child / met up occasionally during the day… or please don’t go.

Depends on so many things though. How long have they been together? Do you get on with the ex or even know her?

hotduzz · 24/01/2024 19:36

ilovesooty · 24/01/2024 19:35

Why are people asking how old the child is when it's in the OP?

Where?

ilovesooty · 24/01/2024 19:35

Why are people asking how old the child is when it's in the OP?

MadamVastra · 24/01/2024 19:34

Drinks, sun, sea....sex

call me old fashioned but it's a no from me

DTNY · 24/01/2024 19:32

This is about their child though, so it needs more thought than that.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 24/01/2024 18:56

Think it depends on a lot of things.

Where is everyone sleeping? Does the mum have a partner?

If I knew there was no chance of anything happening surely it would be nice for the kid.

Aptique · 24/01/2024 18:54

How old is the child? Does the mum have a partner too.

ZekeZeke · 24/01/2024 18:54

How old is the child?
How long are they broke up?
What are the sleeping arrangements?

gluggle · 24/01/2024 18:51

It may not be the norm but why shouldn't parents still be able to do things together as a family, even if they're separated?