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Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

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Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:12

Not angry or upset 😂just curious.
Today I sent my 5 year old into school with her hair in two high bunches, with the rest of her hair down. She’s not had it like this before and saw a girl on the tv at the weekend with similar hair to hers put in this style and asked for it. It actually looked v cute. DD’s fair is getting longer now, past her shoulders and thick and wavy/curly.
When I picked her up from school, she had two low plaits in, I didn’t notice for ages and until she was in the car and only then as it was different to how I do it and then I remembered her hair in the morning.
I asked Dd why her hair had changed and she said the assistant called her over after lunch when she was playing with her friend and took her hair out and put two plaits in 🤷🏻‍♀️
My first thought was nits maybe, but we always get informed by the teacher that day, plus an email goes out.
Did she just not like the style 😅

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Nevermind31 · 24/01/2024 02:51

I’d be assuming that after half a day of running and playing, touching hair, etc, it may have just looked a lot less styled like a tic toc girl, and more like… oh dear, a lot of hair has come loose from your bunches/ plait/ braid/ whatever you had this morning, let me tidy this up for you so you can see.

PyongyangKipperbang · 24/01/2024 02:45

HAppy to admit that I may well be, but for some reason it really has pissed me off!

DeathbyJedi · 24/01/2024 02:44

Are we overthinking this

PyongyangKipperbang · 24/01/2024 02:42

If the bunch had come loose, ok. But if it hadnt I would be really pissed off about this!

I should add that youngest DD is in Y8 now so no horse in this race.

If the TA took it onherself to do it, then thats not ok. She shouldnt just decide, she doesnt have the right to make decisions like that. If there is a rule about hair being up then at the very least, you should be spoken to about it rather than them just changing the style. If nothing else, your DD chose it, its her hair and her choice.

I dont know why this would really wind me up but it does. I guess for me its along the lines of someone other than a parent deciding a kid needs a hair cut!

Its overstepping and where do we draw the line with that? Do kids have bodily autonomy or not?

nohopehere · 24/01/2024 02:00

Just say to the TA that you noticed her hair was different when she came home from school and you therefore wondered if there's a new rule you weren't aware of.

MissersMercer · 23/01/2024 23:57

Sounds odd.

Kittylala · 23/01/2024 23:40

Don't worry about it

Extratoebeans · 23/01/2024 23:33

I used to work in a nursery and often re did hair when it became loose. Most of the time, they probably hadn't noticed it was hanging out of the hair tie. I was conscious of them losing hair accessories and also headlice, so I would just re do it so it wasn't in their way.

Ghentsummer · 23/01/2024 23:30

Maybe the ta thought the hair had come loose and didn't realise it was intentionally that way. Because to me two bunches but some hair left down just doesn't sound right. I've only seen half up/half down hair where there is a plait above the loose hair.

Bananaspinkyglitter · 23/01/2024 23:23

Take it is a compliment because you wouldn’t touch hair you perceived to be dirty! Just gorgeous hair!!!

Bananaspinkyglitter · 23/01/2024 23:23

Teacher here . Younger children with beautiful long hair- abhhhh! The temptation to plat it . We would love to braid it .

If it was free play / role play or the child’s hair hard come undone - we would brush the child’s hair and braid it! This sounds bonkers but it’s true ! It’s so tempting to just ‘do’ beautiful hair !

Mumof2teens79 · 23/01/2024 23:09

I imagine it had come loose and dropped

AliceMcK · 23/01/2024 22:59

It’s happened to all 3 of my girls at one point or another. I’ve always liked it as none of them ever let me do their hair. I’ve never thought much about it, when I have asked them they usually comment about hair coming out or in their faces.

i know one TA in reception who has terrible RA loves good days and likes to play hairdresser with the kids when she can.

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Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:40

It was a bit like this amazing actress girl, but two bunches/ponies, one on each side, I don’t think it’s especially out there or in the way 🤷🏻‍♀️
I wondered if the assistant thought her hair was scruffy and needed doing 😂

Assistant changed Dds hairstyle
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DanielRicciardosSmile · 23/01/2024 22:36

Maybe the TA just really, really hates Baby Spice.

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Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:36

She didn’t ask her to do it, but didn’t mind, I don’t, I was just curious. No rules about hair being down

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TulipTuesday · 23/01/2024 22:33

I have happy memories of one of my primary school playground assistants doing our hair in fancy plaits and twists for us. She always had lovely hair and we’d persuade her to do ours the same.
She would do maybe 2 girls per playtime and we had to take it in turns 😄
This was the 80s though when these things weren’t frowned upon.

Could it be that she asked her to do it? A favourite assistant doing your hair is a cool thing at that age.

Londonrach1 · 23/01/2024 22:31

Long hair has to be up in school. Suspect hair came down and it was put up again. Dd had hers redone lots of time in the first year or so..

Jellycats4life · 23/01/2024 22:27

I agree that 5yos aren’t reliable narrators and one side most likely fell out or was pulled out.

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Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:27

😂*Nits, not nuts

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pizzaHeart · 23/01/2024 22:25

trippily · 23/01/2024 22:15

Probably one bunch came out. 5 year olds are not reliable narrators.
At our primary everyone should have their hair up.

I also suspect this^

DidntReallyMeanIt · 23/01/2024 22:25

Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:21

@Multipleexclamationmarks Thank you 🙂She said it was none of the above, my only thought was emergency influx of nuts in the school, but seems not

An influx of nuts in the school?

Doesn't that normally happen on parents evening? 😁

Multipleexclamationmarks · 23/01/2024 22:24

I wouldn't be touching any child's hair if I thought nits were going round.
On the other hand I'm quite good at Elsa plaits and will do them if asked and I've a spare minute , I'm also sometimes seen with random clips and bobbles poking out of my hair at strange angles if they're playing hairdressers.

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Todolististoolong · 23/01/2024 22:23

@Smartiepants79 It was two sections of bunches and the rest loose, so maybe 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Smartiepants79 · 23/01/2024 22:21

Was some of it hanging loose? Lots of schools don’t like long hair hanging down, it’s can get stuck in stuff and yes, nits!

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