Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

I can't quite imagine a half down style with 2 bunches - not that looks like it's on purpose, anyway - and I wonder if she thought it had half fallen out so re did it?

I imagine she had stopped looking like a child model by that point and instead looked like she’d been dragged through a hedge backwards.

My dd has waist length hair and her teacher was always restyling her hair. Complex French braids etc. The teacher said she liked doing it and missed doing her teen dd hair.

My dd was also, and still is a bit of a scruff. Sensory issues means she hate haircuts and brushing.

I’d have to ask the next morning when dropping off, just out of curiosity! Also just In case something had happened or like you said nits, or uniform policy that had slipped me by.

Weird though! As an ex-TA I’d never have restyled a child’s hair unless their ponytail had fallen out, or they’d asked me to help them.

I guarantee you that nobody who works in a school would have the time or energy to re-style a child's hair just because they weren't keen on it. There would have been a reason.

Also, while every parent will earnestly say 'I know my DC, they wouldn't lie about something like this', I can absolutely 100% guarantee you that five-year-olds will often tell you any old bollocks, whether deliberately, or because they've wildly misunderstood what happened, or because they don't have the right vocabulary to explain something clearly.

Our house overlooks the primary school field and playground. When my DS was in about Y1, he came home and told me he had done 'nothing' at school when I had literally watched him and the rest of his class taking turns to sit in an actual fire engine and look at the hoses all afternoon 🙄

The only thing I can think of is that it was in her face while eating or drawing etc...

Omg this is so true and made me lol

There's a couple of ta at my kids primary who are amazing at doing braids. Kids are constantly asking them to braid their hair at break and lunch.

I'd suspect there are nits going round and the TA was trying to prevent your daughter catching them. Most schools do have a rule about hair longer than shoulder length being tied back for safety reasons in PE and science but also because hair left loose is more of a risk factor for catching nits than plaited or tied back hair.

"How was your day, dc?"

"Fine".

2 hours later after a snack...

"And Adam sent me flying during a game of rounders, miss green suffered a pulmonary embolism, naomi threw Boris the hamster out of the window and Andrew's dad came in to show us a some of his dangerous lizards and samurai sword collection".

A bit different, but my 4 year olds are at preschool and come home most days with their hair different to how it started. They often pull bobbles out, or ask for something different, or are playing hairdressers.

I agree, not good narrators at such a young age, they tell me every day they have forgotten what happened 😅

Plaits seems a bit OTT though. To genuinely just keep hair out of the way a quick pony tail would have done.

I think brushing hair and playing with it is quite intimate and so I can understand being a bit at it. I’m not suggesting the TA had inappropriate reasons for doing so but the whole point of safeguarding is about modelling appropriate behaviour.

I remember being about 6 or 7 and having bunches, I discovered I could stick my finger through the hairband in the middle of the "bunch" (if that makes sense) and I quite liked it so I was doing that all day. I came out of school and my mum started laughing and my sister started taking the piss horribly- I looked in a mirror and my hair was such a mess, big loops of hair on my head where i'd half pushed it out of the hair band. I still remember how embarrassed I was that I'd looked like that all day and no one told me.

I wish someone had taken my bunches out and put plaits in!!

Maybe her bunches just got a bit messy, OP?

I've never come across a primary or first school with this rule.
Certainly not at DSs school

I'm amazed there isn't a rule about hair up. It is at ours and I thought that was a standard, sensible one.

As someone just recovering from the horror of nits in the household, I would firmly recommend no loose hair in the future. It’s been horrendous!

Perhaps her hood wouldn't stay up on coat and was cold out, so plaits done so hood would stay up, if it's a coat with a zipper that goes right up

I'd assume that the hair was still up but one bunch had gone all wonky or something so she fixed it.

If it keeps happening and it's bothering your daughter you could mention it to the teacher.

I think it came loose and she fixed it. My 5yo DS with short hair came home with paint in his hair yesterday so maybe they were doing some art in the afternoon and wanted it out of the way!

I don't think it's that uncommon. lots of 5 year olds don't notice when their hair become loose/messy. I would just assume it was a nice gesture.

I'm a teacher and I'd bet she thought her hair was in but it was a state haha.

Either this or a new member of staff who didn't think you could have half down hair, ive never worked in a school that would allow it so easy just to think it needs doing.

At our primary all the girls had low pony tails, not a creative mother between us and I remember clearly the teacher doing last lesson geography because she asked, "any questions?" And every girl put their hand up, clear as day I remember her saying, "any questions unrelated to getting your hair braided before the disco?" And every hand went down. Miss Evans did about 15 girls hair for us before that disco and it was the most exciting time ever, then some legend of a TA from next doors class brought us in her wee bag of goodies including the orangey scented spicegirl body spray, roll on glitter in different colours, groovy chick lip glosses and for those truly wild ones, electric blue or lilac eyeshadow. What a time to have been alive 🥳

Sorry but this thread just unlocked this banger of a memory and dp would definitely not want me to wake him up to discuss the disco which 5,6,7,8 and cotton eyed Joe were the most highly requested tunes 😁