Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

I would re-do falling out ponytails, plaits and bunches as necessary. Fine , clean hair seems to be particularly good at escaping from bobbles, clips and ribbons. Even thicker hair can end up in a state after outside play, windy weather and the type of hair accessories used. Personally I’d go for whatever was most likely to stay in a containment situation, nothing fancy as I’m useless at anything beyond basic bunches, ponytails and a plait.

She's 5

Ahw this reminds me of my DD's nursery times - at 3 years old she looked very sweet with blond longish hair and every time she went in she would come back with the most intricate hairdos. The nursery teacher just loved sitting with her and doing her hair (and DD obviously loved the attention).

She's 9 now with short pixie hair - often died red - and only ever wears shirts to school: total tomboy. What a difference a few years can make😂

Weird and creepy.

I am a TA and if a girls hair falls out I will tie it back again for them to prevent it falling over their face- usually in a simple ponytail as I can't be arsed with anything else.

Some staff just love doing hair though and will take the opportunity to do fancy plaits etc. if the child wants it.

@TulipTuesday I'm a TA and some of the girls come in with brushes and hair ties ready for me to French braid their hair. I love it ad my DD won't let me near her gorgeous long hair!

My dd’s primary school was hair tied up for boys and girls whose hair was below shoulder length.

however, it also could have fallen or have been falling out.

Im a primary school teacher. I often redo hair if it’s coming out but I wouldn’t touch it otherwise.

I’m a TA in reception and I can guarantee she’s either taken one/both out or they’ve fallen out on their own. A girl came in this morning with 2 plaits and the second she got in the door she took her hair out. No reason just wanted it out. I love playing hairdressers with the girls (I wear the Islamic headscarf so I’m always the stylist!) I get at least 2 a day asking me for plaits or a bun.

I think a five year olds interpretation of bunches falling out would be that one of the bobbles literally fell out of the hair. Whereas, from an adult point of view, if they're so close to falling out they're generally serving no purpose other than to make the wearer look scruffier than if they just didn't have them in at all, we'd say they'd fallen out. I suspect the latter happened so the TA dealt with it. Plaits generally stay neater for longer than bunches.

@DappledThings

I have never heard the like in primary or secondary.

In Kent for me. Seems a very sensible rule I assumed was universal! Stops it getting pulled or caught on things or falling over the faces when trying to work and impedes the spread of nits. I'm genuinely surprised this isn't a standard rule everywhere.

My son goes to school with his hair in a pony tail.
One day last week he came home with his hair in a platt.
One of the teaching assistants decided to platt his hair.
He had swimming that day and his hair also smelled like shampoo that wasn't our usual shampoo.
I didn't care that a TA decided to wash his hair and then platt it afterwards.
The TAs quite often brush / tidy his hair after lunch time.

When my daughter was in Reception at 4, I can remember atleast a few times when my daughter came with a different hairstyle (usually much better than what I did in the morning 🙃) and I noticed for 2 of her friends too. I believe it was because these little girls love to mess each other hair in a playful way 😁 , so one or the other teacher helps them. One time it was so stylish that I was impressed, the teacher did it in a high ponytail and then made the hair into 4 french plaits coming out of one ponytail for my daughter, same with her 2 friends.

This is reminding me of that before and after first day at school pic that did the rounds a while back. Maybe the TA was trying to avoid you receiving something like this at the end of her busy day at school…..

I work in a nursery, we often do hair if it’s in their eyes and they can’t see properly or they ask us to do it.

You're joking with this post I hope.

My girls come home often with a different hairstyle to what they went in with! I think the TA’s like to play hairdressers with them and my girls enjoy it 🤣

So many people saying hair has to be up in primary school. I have worked in many primary schools in Scotland and have never ever heard of this. Where is this being enforced?

Ooh I used to love this style Op.

Generally I had a pony tail.

A half pony tail for special occasions.

2 half pony tails as we called it & I thought all my Christmases had arrived!!!😂

Exactly what I was going to say.

She would say they were still up, even if they were hanging loose and bits of hair flying everywhere. This happens to my niece all the time, hairs an absolute mess halfway through the nursery day so one of the teachers kindly fix her hair for her.

😂😂😂

I've done it because of: sand, grass or paint filled hair; their request; it's irritating them; the bands are pulling; lice; for PE/swimming; it's got really messy and previous parental complaints around messy appearance.

There will be a reason and not one related to personal taste. Kids are not reliable narrators.

Teachers must be so much more maternal nowadays, I can only remember mine shouting all the time 🤣

Going back to the 80's for me - one kid used to get pinned to the floor when he had a meltdown (obvs SEN but in those days they were just "disruptive" kids.) No way would our child hating teachers have been touching our hair!