Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

how many schools have you asked about this to determine ‘most’ do? Because of the 30 or so primaries I have direct contact with for work, I don’t know any that do. But I know indirectly some do. It’s almost like it’s not a universal rule

I think the main question here is ....

Is your dd bothered by someone else redoing her hair for her?

If she isn't bothered, I wouldn't give it a second thought, it could be for any/all of the reasons above.

If she is bothered, then maybe time to have a conversation with someone

I'd be thinking I'd sent them in with a hairstyle that was impractical or didn't last the day, and resolving to do better, long before wondering why someone else had re-done it! It's nice that someone found the time to do it for her.

My daughter goes in every day with beautiful French plait. I am highly skilled at this. At least three times a week she comes home with a different style .
My daughter has very different hair from everyone else and I sometimes think the teachers ( who are all mums) love a play . Sometimes I think she just gets untidy so they put it in a pony.
My daughter just loves it! She has special hair .
We are not in the UK btw, so teachers here feel free to love their kids and that means fixing their hair . It's their job to keep their babies tidy .

My DD1s school has the girls wear the hair tied unless is above the shoulder.

On the other hand DD2s nursery is lovely and usually when I send her in one style she comes out at home time looking better than when she got in. She has long hair and asks for different styles. I compliment nursery staff as it is a lovely gesture and my little one loved it. Also there are several people who do this for hair.

possibly she had her hair loose?

Daft but true…as a little one, when I tipped my head forward to eat, my bunches used to trail in my custard and gravy. Dinner staff would tie them together or plait my hair out of the way!

Crusty bunches are not a good look! 😆

Most schools have a rule with no hair down past shoulders because of nits and at age 5 its all the time that they get then cause they are playing so close. Even if you say its never been a problem...most parents break a rule from the rule book every day just because they've not bothered to read it.
Whats the point in asking us? Ask the teacher and uou would get an actual real answer.

The photo you linked to looks like a birds nest! My guess is she genuinely thought it had got completely wrecked as happens with little kids with long hair and she was just tidying it back up

My 4yo often finishes the day with her hair looking a mess. I wish someone would re-do it. At Nursery she used to come out looking immaculate as they had a lady there who was amazing at hair. all the children loved getting their beautiful plaits done and would sit there totally still for her to do it. I have no idea how she did it!

Everything here makes me so happy

Maybe it looked like some of it had fallen out of the bunches? But if so, surely the TA would try and recreate what they thought was the original hairstyle - bunches - not do a totally new hairstyle.

I'm a TA and a few times I've seen hairbands gradually slide out of pig tails as the day goes on. So sometimes, before we get to the point where the hair band has slid off completely and will never be seen again, I ask the child if they'd like me to re-tie their hair for them. I can't do any fancy styles so pony tails or plaits have to suffice 😂
I always think it's better to save the hairband, cos once they've slid off you'll never see them again and as a parent I know how annoying it is to lose them Plus young kids having long hair down all day is sooo impractical - it gets majorly knotty plus it's a hazard in terms of getting caught on stuff. That's maybe what the TA was thinking.

@Todolististoolong do school have a policy that it has to be tidied up? Usually to stop nots spreading? From what you describe, it wasn't all tied up.. Maybe they changed it for that reason

Never heard about hair needing to be tied up in primary school!! Thanks goodness my kids' primary didn't have that rule. My kids hated having their hair done up or generally done in any way for most of nursery and primary.

My guess is the teacher thought the hair was coming undone with some of it up and some of it down. Or it actually was coming out but your daughter didnt see it yet. Or perhaps the teacher just likes doing the hair in which case its a bit weird.

Could she have thought it had fallen out? I've redone hairstyles plenty of times in Year One when they've fallen out, if it was something fancy and I couldn't manage I'd do a ponytail or braid.
It seems like an odd thing to do if her hair was still in place.

It's really not.

Loads of girls (and some of boys) deliberately pull hair out so teacher or TA can do fancy braids at punch.

I think it's sweet and caring

Your DD probably asked for it to be done and she called her over when she was free. It’s unlikely anyone is casting judgement.

First world problems

DD1 used to come out of school looking as neat and tidy as when she went in, not a hair out of place.

DD2 used to come out with one plait or bunch in and the other out, one sock down, jumper on backwards, someone else’s coat on, unexplained paint across her skirt, mud somewhere.

DD1 is now queen of the messy bun and DD2 always completely polished in her appearance.

How was hair gate today 😁

Always happens to my daughters, they both play hard and often take their jumpers on and off and it makes half the hair come out so the dinner ladies or assistants or whoever else will fix it for them.

At our school loose hair always has to be tied back

One of the staff used to do my DD hair in a french plat. I'm useless at doing them so never bothered me. She was in a SN school and it was part of her personal development sessions working on their appearance and independence etc. She also had her nails painted. She used to love getting home showing off her hair.

Get some boundaries- that's creepy