Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

This has happened to my kids a bunch of times. I take it as a mark of affection from the assistants to my kids and I like it.

No, that's really not a reasonable conclusion here.
You say it happened after lunch....you said assistant? Did DD name the person?
Was it a lunch time assistant rather than a TA.
My girls used to love getting their hair done by the girls and mums that covered lunchtimes. It was a regular activity.
But I still believe it just would have been lose, not that the assistant didn't "like" it

@Conqueeftador that was the image that came to me too

@LovePoppy I have dyslexia and certain words jump at me and on first glance I saw wedding & cotton eyed joe and my wee brain thought it was your wedding song for about 5 seconds.
I was absolutely delighted until the rest of the words caught up with me! 😁😂

Might be a sign I should have it as mine. 😂

Perhaps the assistant could see more than your daughter as to what was happening to the hair. It could have fallen more loose, some could have been over her eyes, who knows but something must have alerted the neat hairdresser inside.

Jesus Christ! Why not just ask the teacher instead of making a post? If this is your only troubles bothering you at school then think your self lucky! Her hair was probably blown in her face with the wind, maybe it come loose, maybe the teacher thought she could catch nits! Maybe it looked a mess by the end of the day.

Totally unrelated, I banned cotton eyed joe from my wedding.

We are a Hockey town, and I’ve heard it for too many times in my life lol.

@Doireallyhavetopeopletoday It sounds like they had to cut a bit of blu tac out of her hair. Would you have preferred if they just ;left in?

I used to teach nursery/reception and we would re-do hairstyles if they had gotten significantly messed up (to keep our charges looking somewhat tidy), if the hair was in the child's face in a problematic way (likely to get in food or craft projects or being chewed on for example), if they had a bow or hair tye that was in danger of falling out, or if the child was complaining/trying to fix it. At that age children are pretty tough on hairdos, especially in hat & coat weather or on active days in PE, and they aren't ready to re-do/tidy their own hair the way an older one would. Sometimes we'd recreate the original style but not always if we didn't know how or expected it was just going to come undone again in an hour.

If the hairstyle itself was unsuitable or not ideal for some reason (nothing you described sounds like it, but who knows) I would politely mention it to the parent at pickup or drop off or gently tell the student. If nothing was said I would assume it was one of the situations above and the teacher was being helpful.

As a teacher the only time I’d undo a hair style is if a child was complaining of a sore head and the bobbles looked too tight.

I'm upper school and still get requests a few times a week to help tie up/plait hair. Sometimes they’ve fiddled with it and it come undone, sometimes they’ve taken it out then changed their mind and other times it’s messy/loose after being outside. I don’t mind helping them and they’re always really pleased I’ve helped them, although they probably could have done a better job themselves as I’m rubbish at it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Girls especially like adults in school doing their hair and you can guarantee if one person has it done someone else will deliberately take their hair bobbles out so they can have a teacher/TA do it for them too.

Maybe it looked like some of it had fallen out of the bunches? But if so, surely the TA would try and recreate what they thought was the original hairstyle - bunches - not do a totally new hairstyle

Some people (like me) are absolutely crap at doing anything beyond a very basic plait, ponytail and bunches. Also as a TA you are usually listening to readers/supervising a maths worksheet/mounting paintings/dealing with a squabble/minor accident/finding lost shoes/items of uniform/making sure everyone has been to the loo and washed their hands before lunch etc - sometimes lots of these things simultaneously. There’s often not enough time to recreate anything that takes more than a minute to sort out.

Mine came out of school yesterday and said “the teacher cut my hair today “
normally I would go crazy but, I’m digesting the info and she said it was just a trim as she had blue tack .
Thing is they have no right to do this
Who does that?

As a Y2 teacher, I actually did this myself last week and not for the first time! A girl in my class came in with plaits (dutch ones I think?) At break time one had lost the tie holding it at the end and half her hair was flying wild and loose. I called her over after break and asked if she wanted me to fix it, she said yes (was oblivious previously as busy playing) I plaited it as best I could but as a mum of 3 boys I'm really rubbish with girl hair so did a basic low plait and the poor love went home with completely unmatched hair 🤣

May be she did not know how to do the original hairstyle so went for easy plaits.

Probably it was falling out or came undone so they did it and plaits were easier for the assistant or maybe it was a little bonding thing and both enjoyed it?

I would ask just out of curiosity. Can you not just ask if there was a problem with DDs hair the other day as you don’t want to do it like that again if there is.

Try doing some different styles at the weekend and see how long they last.

Their bunches always fall out and look scruffy after a couple of hours running around. DS has long hair and loves hair clips etc - he would often come home with different ones to the ones he went in wearing XD

I meant the phrasing of the post rather than the idea itself.

I've been in 3 primary schools just today and all of them had girls with long hair down. It's really not a universal rule.

Have you asked the TA?

I'm curious now as I had totally assumed this rule was standard everywhere. I can't imagine sending DD in with her hair down for school. It just seems wrong!

Looked at the websites of 6 primaries nearest to me that I could think of then 4 more from across the country I've been involved with. 4 of those 10 stated explicitly hair must be tied back. I'm really surprised it wasn't all of them.