Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

100% hair was falling out of bunches & TA helped so she didn't lose the hair bobbles. I was always amazed when girls came out looking pristine at the end of the day, as my DD used to come out, after a hard day of play, looking like Worzel Gummidge!

I would imagine the TA noticed that one of the bunches was coming loose or that your DD's hair was bothering her. Sometimes children are engrossed in play and don't notice, but the TA could have seen the ponytail coming loose or notice the fact that your DD was pushing her hair away from her face a lot, for example.

I wouldn't be bothered by this at all. What does it matter?

Both of my girls (age 5 and 7) have very long and thick hair and I always put it in a plait, pony tail or bun every day to keep it out of their faces and out of the way for PE. It will inevitably fall out occasionally though, especially with them pulling snoods on and off when it's cold and more so the 5 year old as they do a lot of outdoor play in reception.

The teachers and TAs often stick it back up for them. Most of them are mums, grans or aunties themselves (we have no male staff), it's just a caring thing for them to do. Practically speaking it must also be very annoying trying to teach a child to write or something when their hair is everywhere on the desk or in their face.

The older one this doesn't happen so much as the little girls all now tend to do it for each other at lunchtimes as play. The younger one has come home with different hair on a number of occasions though and an adult must've done it for her as there's no way she'd get it that neat!

I think it's really lovely of the staff bother, especially given how much else they do for the children. It's no different really to staff helping them on with their shoes, or helping them learn to tuck their tops in when they're little, is it? It's non-intimate personal care.

Even my youngest son (with longish hair that tends to get in his face) has come home from nursery with clips and hair ties in that he didn’t go in with, or different clips and hair ties to the ones he went in with. And my niece has gorgeous long blonde hair and almost always goes home with a different hairstyle.

I think it was likely falling out a bit, or the teacher noticed it was getting in her way while she was playing.

Simple answer is your not allowed to have your hair down, your DD hair was over half down by your description.

I don't know any school that doesn't require all long hair tied up, its in the uniform code alongside things like no earrings etc...

In my many years in schools, the only times I've done this is when the hair has fallen out of the style or the children have removed hairbands or if it's down as nits it's too common. Then it's been a low pony or plait just to keep out of their face and up.

My daughter stays on extra time, for about 40 minutes until I pick her up and she usually comes back with gorgeous plaits. The T.A. is really good at this and while they are waiting to be picked up some of the girls love to try new hairstyles. It never occured to me that it could be weird.

Honestly, who cares?

A 5yo is not a reliable narrator. And again, this is a non-issue.

Ypu really don’t see an issue with someone thinking they have a right to cut the hair of someone else child ?
id personally never do that

We used to do this in golden time, one child would ask you to play hairdressers and before you know it you would have a line of children waiting to have their hair done.

I used to do this if a child's hair had come loose, I'd say its more likely that this happened than the assistant just decided to plait your dds hair 😂 x

I would guess it was falling out and the TA was just sorting it out and did whatever came naturally to her!
My child’s hair looks like they have been dragged through a hedge backwards by the end of school so I’m just impressed they fixed it!

Maybe I’m the only one who’d be annoyed by this, especially calling her over and instigating changing her hair. If a hunch had come loose it’s far quicker to redo what’s come loose, than plait it and presumably take it all down and then do it. Why was this the TA’s priority? I would find this odd. If there’s no dress code for hair, leave it alone!

Have they suddenly changed the hair rules and not told anyone yet or you have missed a letter?

My nieces school change the rules about something at least twice a term- bobble colour, birthday cake, coat colour, pe kit all changed between September and Christmas. Rules about where to pick them up changed 3 or 4 times!

As pp said: she either thought it had come out. Or it actually did.

But as long as your DD isn’t bothered it’s all good imo :)

If I was you, I would put her hair in plaits or similar. Nits are just too horrible, especially with the kind of hair she has. (Speaking from experience here…)

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I think there are several reasons why they could have done this for reasonable reasons, but if they just didn't like the style it's kind of outrageous!

Ask your dd what game her and her friend were playing, I wonder if it was something that meant her hair was falling in her face. Alternatively, I know that the TA's who ever plait or style a girls hair at my work are then bombarded with requests for the rest of their working days from eager girls who want their hair done by them. There is a chance your DD had been asking on previous days, and the TA had remembered it was her turn or something.

But to interrupt a child from play to do it is off.

I have had many times where my dd has come home with braids or some other nice hairstyle...normally both my girls would not let me style there hair at a young age....but for some reason would let the nursery or childcare worker do it.

Send her with the new style everyday for a week and see what happens 😉

My guess would be that one if two things

one or both had started to come loose and DD hasn’t noticed so the TA fixed it.
or
the TA saw the half-up do and misinterpreted it as half had come loose so fixed it on the misunderstanding.

This is a classic mountain out of a molehill story.

Why didn’t you just phone the school or speak to the teacher/TA the next day? Or is the word of a 5 year old now gospel?

Our school policy is no hair down past shoulders, so it could be that. Or the bunches came loose/she got something in her hair and they helped her out. I’d be grateful if someone did that rather than letting a child look dishevelled.

I work in a Preschool, the only time I would touch a child's hair is if it had fallen out of its style and was in a child's face.
In fact just yesterday a preschooler had bunches in her hair and it had come loose around her face and she kept swiping it out the way. I said "is it OK that I re-do the plait on this side because the wind has blown your hair and now it's all in your face" she said yes and let me do it.
A teacher would always ask first and then explain the reason why they were doing something.

It's not a big deal, is it 🤷‍♀️

Yep