Hey
So i started dating a guy in late November, he's nice, we go out for 2 dates. One for coffee, second for drinks locally. But I have kids and it's the run up to Christmas and there's a cost of living crisis and quite frankly I'm skint. So I started to invite him to mine for meals and Netflix instead.
I went to his place once, it's barren compared to mine so every time I ask, my place or yours, he always says mine.
So since about the first week in December he has come to mine and I've cooked and meal and supplied the alcohol.
He hasn't cooked for me once or brought alcohol once.
He also hasn't invited me out anywhere or paid for a meal or takeaway.
So after 2 months, I don't have particularly strong feelings growing and he's not making much effort so I've decided it needs to end. Otherwise I'll be seriously out of pocket and growing in resentment.
Part of me thinks I should have started saying after the second or third meal that he should bring some drink or cook sometime. But I'm a people pleaser so I keep my mouth shut and hope he'll figure it out.
If my feelings were growing and it was worth pursuing then I would have had a chat with him. But as it stands, I just want out before it feels toxic.
I was going to invite him over tomorrow night and tell him to his face. But that means spending more money on food and drink and it would be awkward getting him here, me saying my peice and him then having to leave early.
So I just sent a text. I've said if he happy to stay friends but the one sided nature of give and take feels too toxic.
He hasn't texted back, it's been 2 hours now.
Am I being unreasonable?
I don't think it's the best way of ending it, but I didn't