My poor dog

You asked if you are being too sensitive and alas, yes I think you are. You said you left the room and stayed upstairs till they'd gone because they'd not acknowledged the passing of your dog?

Our pets mean the world to us but it's not reasonable to expect others to understand how much they mean to us. We were very upset when we had to put our much loved cat to sleep but I wouldn't have expected people to pass on condolences in the way they did when my mum died.

Sorry for your loss.

Aww I’m sorry for your loss 💐they take up so much of our lives, they mean alot and I don’t think people always grasp that.

Perhaps they want to upset you further, is there any chance they were told not to mention it?

I’m sorry for your loss, pets are a big part of our lives as your lovely dog was to you and the pain is unbearable.

As someone who has been recently bereaved, I have found that some people even those close to me have trouble in talking to me about it.

Hope your pain subsides soon, take care

This.

It’s not that they don’t care, it’s that they don’t know what to say. My nieces and nephews on dh’s side didn’t say anything directly to me when I lost my dm, but they did pass on condolences via in-laws and that was enough. It’s not ideal but some people feel uncomfortable talking about death.

Nah I totally buy the “I didn’t want to upset her” argument.

I’m a bit socially awkward and I really struggle with knowing what to say or whether to say anything etc. and I’m not 17.

also…I mean I’m sorry about your dog, that’s really sad
for you. But expecting your partners ex to text you about it is a bit…much.

I think that part of the problem is that we seem to find discussing death more difficult now. We tend to avoid the words dead, death and died at all costs, preferring to use euphemisms such as passed, passed away/over. I would believe that they were uncomfortable with saying something to you in case they upset you and I think this shows that they do care about you more than you may think.

If you're not a dog person, it's just a dog. Adolescents aren't that great at expressing themselves. There is nothing sinister and YABU to expect teenagers to open up what for them may be an awkward subject if they can ignore it.

Sorry for your loss but you are being too sensitive.

I've had beloved pets die. One of my pets, Troy, had a Facebook page and I documented his day in a humorous way but when he passed away from hypertrophic cardiomyopathy I posted on my Facebook page and Mumsnet on The Litter Tray as I'd had good support.

He was my pet and no matter how much we love and miss him we wouldn't expect the usual condolences you get when a human family member dies.

It's not being unreasonable to expect people to acknowledge you might be sad about your dog. Who doesn't try and offer some words of comfort to people who are grieving? Sorry for your loss OP.

YABU. I have a dog and as much as I’ll miss her when she’s gone, she’s not a relative to my family or important to anyone other than the people in my house. I’d just mention that she’d gone and then probably (but most definitely not expected) people might say “ahh bless” and then life would continue. This is also how it happened when we lost our older dog 4 years ago. I think you’re expecting too much off people.

Sorry for your loss.
That said, I don't think we can control how much grief a person has or shows. Maybe they weren't as upset or maybe they felt talking about it would make you all upset.
They did give their condolences to OH so it's not as if they didn't acknowledge it at all.

This is so tough OP, I’m really sorry for your loss.

we are particularly bad at expressing feelings in this country and taking about death. Is it possible that they just didn’t know what to say, or didn’t want to upset you further?