Do men really do this?

Bet you're glad you didn't have sex with him.
If you do in spite of all this, at least you know the type of person you're getting.

Lots of men will shag just about anything. Beer goggles is part of it.

About 25 years ago, I had a drunken one night stand with a colleague, and we ended up going out on a actual proper date months later. After ending up in bed again, he said to me: "You have amazed me. I never thought I could fancy a fat woman". I was a size 14. Yes, it seems, men will shag absolutely anything.

Why’d he use them? I mean isn’t having a one night stand always “using” someone for sex? The women weren’t expecting marriage?

if you have a one night stand but think about, I dunno, giraffes or mushrooms or what you’re having for dinner, is it the business of the other person? Not really.

this man had sex with women who didn’t ask anything of him, other than sex. He did it. Does it make any difference if he really fancies them or not?

I think the most bizarre thing is he admitted this on a first date -I doubt he has many second dates!

Not surprised at his attitude - when I was a student I used to live in a red light area where some of the women looked like zombies They were unclean, undernourished - clearly very fucking vulnerable; didn't stop the cars pulling up - and probably most of those men had wives/GFs at home!

I worked with a man in a LTR who said when having sex with his partner he regularly thought about other women - maybe they all do? I don't understand it really; my brain isn't that powerful to imagine Tom Hardy to get wet for Andrew Tate 🤢

Saw this and thought of you OP

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Exactly the same with me. I think it’s quite backwards that all these women are saying only men can use women for sex and that they’re gross for sleeping with someone they don’t absolutely fancy the pants off.

Arranged marriages between complete strangers have been common throughout history. Most of them were consummated, whether or not the parties fancied each other. Though apparently Henry VIII couldn't get it up for Anne of Cleves.

So did I actually but I thought this line of convo would be with other men as 'banter' on a lads' night out. Certainly not to other women whilst on a date 😐

Most men do. Any hole is a goal!

Same principle as a prostitute with respect to not fancying them.

Part of me wonders if men like this get off on the power they think they have by conquering a woman knowing that they feel nothing for them. Sort of like how rape is often about power.

Well he's quite the catch.

I'm not really sure why you enabled him to tell you all this though. Didn't you want to just walk away?

It just sounds like he's being honest, I don't know why PP's are assuming the women weren't also OK with the arrangement and were being manipulated?

Some men and some women just enjoy sex or get caught up in the moment, they don't have to always be super attracted to each other or planning to marry 🙄

Obviously if you aren't cool with this element of his past/ present then it gives you your answer about this particular man

Maybe the women felt the same about him and used him for sex?

My ex told me after midnight when clubbing ' any hole is the goal ' delightful

And that didn't put you off?

OP it's interesting what gets said when men are being honest. I don't date btw.

It's no surprise. Some men just use a women's body to masturbate on. They might even find it a weird turn on that they don't fancy them. Honestly, I've heard of men having sex with melons, animals, you name it.

They are if you consider the entire purpose being to derive physical pleasure. You don’t have to fancy someone to get that from sex with them.

See, I do. Someone who I didn't remotely fancy trying to physically arouse me would do nothing for me at all, my body would simply shut down. For me physical attraction and sexual arousal are so intertwined I cannot fathom being aroused by someone who didn't physically appeal to me.

DH had sex with someone we both vaguely knew a couple of months before we got together, despite disliking her. I asked why, and he and his best friend both said "better than wanking".

I think it’s very weird that he discussed this with you on a date!

But I’m not surprised at this at all.

I know many men (and a few women) who will have sex, just to have sex.

I actually ended a new relationship after I found out who he’d had sex with.
It was literally anyone and he’d go to sex clubs and have sex with multiple women, many of which were 30 years older and extremely unattractive.

Someone having sex with just anything really gives me the ick.

It’s one reason why I’d never have sex after the first date or 2, because many men are on the dating sites just for sex and then will ghost you afterwards.

When I was younger and single I sometimes had sex with people I didn’t really fancy. Not sure why? Bit drunk, to make someone else jealous, peer pressure from friends, bit desperate, people constantly telling me I’m too fussy so I would lower my standards. I certainly didn’t find them repulsive, but yeah some might have been a bit fat, dodgy teeth. I also slept with very good looking people. I don’t think that it’s particularly weird, not everyone is marriage material, sometimes you just want a shag.

What is weird is that he told you this.

Like some women (ages 17-40s)according to another thread- enjoy going to hen parties, getting pissed, being blindfolded and feeling up the bodies of hired naked men (who are acting as butlers), looking for a plaster that has been stuck somewhere on their anatomy. Just for a 'bit of comedic fun' apparently. People have very strange sexual mores it seems.

They are if you consider the entire purpose being to derive physical pleasure. You don’t have to fancy someone to get that from sex with them.

Any port in a storm

Your not shagging the face etc.

as pp has stated men view sex differently its animalistic with men

He was drunk. They might have used him.