DNA test

@Sunshin80

Congrats! Although you already knew the result so it's more congrats on having something to wave in his face! :)

Enjoy the grovelling!

Glad that that is settled @Sunshin80 (for him). Hope he is going for counselling as his reaction is not normal or reasonable (even with his family stirring). If he is not, personally I would be pushing for it big time. And yes, he has a lot of making up to do.

I feel like saying congratulations even though nothing has changed and you have had something confirmed that you knew all along!

It’s definitely not a normal thing for your partner to ask of you and you should be upset. My DS looks nothing like my DH and only like me and my side of the family. Everyone jokes that I’ve somehow made a male clone of myself with none of my husband’s DNA. DH has never questioned if DS is his because he trusts me. If he didn’t I would have to rethink the whole relationship.

Get the DNA test done, and when it's proved he is the father as a minimum I'd be telling him to arrange therapy for himself and for us as a couple to unpick the causes of this situation happening and the fallout for your relationship. For me, I don't know if I could come back from an open declaration of mistrust. Without trust, is there a relationship at all?

His insecurities and the way those insecurities won't end with a dna test.
I'm so sorry that you're being put through this OP. This must be so upsetting for you.

It's not that simple. Multiple genes are thought to play a role in eye colour now. https://www.allaboutvision.com/eye-care/eye-anatomy/eye-color-genetics/

Yes they can.Eye colour is determined by about 6 genes and the parent can pass on a copy of each.

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41433-021-01749-x/figures/2

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This

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He/she is still going on about brown being dominant (which is true), but as if eye colour was a single gene inherited in simple Mendelian fashion. It's like a 1970s biology textbook.

I used to work in a research lab which worked on the genetics of a human disease. One thing I learned was: genetics is way, way more complicated than I learned even at degree level. And that's before you throw mutation into the mix.

I'd struggle to come back from this, it is so offensive. If my DH said this, I'd do the DNA test and then consider leaving him.

I have 3 DC, all have blonde hair and blue eyes. Me and DH? Brown hair, brown eyes. I have brown eyes but my parents have blue and green eyes.

All 3 are left handed too actually, no one in our immediate families is left handed, including us their parents.

My little girl has brown eyes, my husband and I both have blue. Both sets of grandparents are predominantly blue, but my dad's have brown specks in them.
So it does happen, but a lot of people do question it as she looks nothing like her dad except very luckily she has his slim frame.

My daughter is 37. My H said today he wasn't sure he was her father.
His life just imploded.
I have lost all love & respect for him.
How dare he ?
Ive looked up dna testing, roughly 200€
He will be doing it, (& paying) that way he can choke on his venom forever after.

Meanwhile I will be carrying on my life as if he doesn't exist forthwith.
Livid

He's very insecure, isn't he? I'd have the DNA test and then leave, but I understand that's not what you want to do. You need to maybe have therapy then? Because your relationship is doomed if he doesn't trust you.

My DH has 3 dds, 2 with me and 1 with his ex. DSD and dd2 are the spitting image of each other, if it wasn't for the (14 year) age gap you'd think they were twins. They're also like female clones of DH. Brown hair, green eyes, olive skin. DD1 is blonde-haired, blue-eyed and so white-skinned she's translucent. None look like me. DD1 is the image of my sister and my nephews.

If my partner didn't trust me and accused me of cheating then I'd leave. You can't love, respect or even like someone if you don't trust them, so why stay in that kind of relationship? You should go to the relationship board on reddit or just have a look on tiktok, men asking for dna tests randomly is their cowardly way of trying to cause a break up without being the bad guy who broke up their family. Hopefully your partner just thinks you are a cheater and isnt doing the same, but be prepared for him to start picking on something else once you get the dna test done.

@FictionalCharacter the poster defective claims to be a geneticist with an interest in evolutionary genetics.

Make of that what you will.

He does not have grounds for concern. OP says she and her husband have green + brown eyes, which gives a quite substantial chance of having a blue eyed child. https://www.allaboutvision.com/eye-care/eye-anatomy/eye-color-genetics/

Unfortunately the old idea that eyes were either brown or blue, and inherited on a single gene in Mendelian fashion, still persists. It was always silly - it never provided an explanation of green or hazel eyes, or variations like greyish blue, very pale blue or very dark blue.

Do the dna test because otherwise he'll feel vindicated and believe he's right. Then I'd seriously consider leaving him

Get the DNA test, but given that he clearly doesn't trust you, kick him out.

I think you are making the right decision to do the test to put his mind at rest. I hope he is properly contrite and grateful and spends the rest of his life making it up to you x