Together for 9 years. The last 2 years were awful, he was very mentally unwell. One minute he was unhappy and leaving, the next he wanted to come back and regretted it. He was a gambling addict spending £30/£40 a day though he had a good job and it never left us without money but it did cause problems. We were supposed to save for a mortgage but he was so reckless with money so we couldn't which I am now thankful for. He completely blindsided me. Living with him was emotionally draining.
I can't even answer who ended the marriage finally. He left one day and never came back. I never asked him too though he did try but I remained firm. He got angry then nice then angry and nice etc.
The last 8 weeks of our marriage, he was convinced I was cheating. I wasn't. He was also very careful with his phone and spent a lot of time at our local shop buying costa coffees from the machine there. He would be in there for half an hour at a time. Going out of his way to go.
Within 2 weeks after leaving me, he was in a new relationship. He told me this, I asked him not to involve me in his personal life. I think now he was hoping I would be devastated and it would make me want to save my marriage. But it didn't.
Another couple of weeks went by and ex started messaging me again to say he couldn't believe our marriage was over and he was looking at our last holiday pictures. Saying he missed us all. 2 days later it was official on facebook....he was in a new relationship. 4 weeks after he left me. This lead to me receiving a few messages asking what the hell was going on as most people thought we were still together. I've had messages from his friends telling me I was always too good for him and most people have been supportive.
I cannot be sure but I'm sure I've seen her working in our local shop - the one he was always at. I can't bare to go in so I don't know for sure. However I have seen her in there when I've driven past. It would make sense that it's her. I was always suspicious there was someone he liked that worked in there and I would joke to him about his 'other wife from the shop' as he was there so much. If it's not her then they look very similar!
Anyway, this was 2 months ago. They've had Christmas and both their birthdays so lots of celebrations and big events together.
Apparently they seem blissfully happy on Facebook. She has blocked me. I've never even spoken a word to her in my life but I do wonder why she would do that. I don't even speak to my ex husband unless I have too. I've left them both alone and I'm trying to pick up the pieces at home.
She was introduced to my daughter straight away and they have now introduced her children to my daughter too. Though he doesn't see my daughter much at all - only 4 times for a few hours since November. She's 6 years old.
The new girlfriend has also had previous relationships where she introduced her children her new partner so neither of them seem to think about waiting before playing happy families. They both seem to just do it straight away.
She is the opposite to me. Likes to go out, has a big personality, confident. Makes drunk videos dancing around and puts it on social media. They are both out every weekend.
He has been violent to women in the past. Never to me which he was proud of 🙄 but she doesn't look like she would put up with any of his shit. Which could lead to serious arguments in my eyes.
Equally they could be a perfect match. I feel like such a boring person where as she looks like the life and soul of the party.
I am utterly heartbroken. My ex also seems to now absolutely despise me. His attitude towards me is awful.
She is a rebound surely? But he cannot for the life of him be alone. He always goes for one woman to the next to the next. I was the longest relationship he's had and the only one stupid enough to marry him.
He has 3 kids to 3 different women (including me) and blames us all for the failed relationship. He's had each one of us tattooed on him and covered - well I expect my name will be covered up soon. He's had relationships between us 3.
My therapist says he is a narcissist which makes sense - she is the latest supply.
I know it doesn't matter. I know I should focus on me. But honesty do you think this relationship will last? I can't get over it 💔
Please note that I don't stalk them on social media. She has blocked me and I have blocked him. We live in a small village and everyone knows everyone. I just get told this stuff whether I want to know or not.