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To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

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sandrapinchedmysandwich · 14/01/2024 14:32

YourSpleenIsDamp · 14/01/2024 14:01

Awww - are your diamond shoes a bit too tight as well?

Your jealously is palpable

PurpleChrayne · 14/01/2024 14:29

I would love that!

Unclench a bit.

It's a nice thing he's done.

Anna8089 · 14/01/2024 14:29

Let's swap lives and see how you feel. Good grief .

PrincessCharlette · 14/01/2024 14:28

You sound hard work OP.

CactusPeach · 14/01/2024 14:28

@highlo She said herself the trip feels like too much hassle so was just suggesting if those two hotel stays could be why 🤷🏻‍♀️
Personally I'd be happy with that trip, but I love travelling and I don't find airports stressful.

IncompleteSenten · 14/01/2024 14:26

MorrisZapp · 14/01/2024 12:55

Can't believe so many people think it's normal for one half of a couple to book international travel for them both with no consultation whatsoever. This just wouldn't happen in my world.

The op's question was not is it normal, it was would we be annoyed.

If she'd asked if it was normal, I'd have said no. Most people don't work like that so it is not normal/commonplace.

That's totally different to being annoyed or not annoyed.

Chipotellyandlime · 14/01/2024 14:25

Wow I'd love it if my partner did this.
I wouldn't be so ungrateful.

Jessforless · 14/01/2024 14:24

Where are you flying from? I want cheap flights to the sun in 4 weeks 😂

Alohapotato · 14/01/2024 14:24

closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

I'd be over the moon! He booked it himself without me telling him and is to a warm place. I don't understand why are you so upset? You sound ungrateful and spoiled.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 14/01/2024 14:22

5 days min for me.

therealcookiemonster · 14/01/2024 14:22

ltb

Longma · 14/01/2024 14:22

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IncompleteSenten · 14/01/2024 14:21

"Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?"

No. Providing it was affordable and I had the time and there was nothing that would cause problems eh kids, pets etc then I'd be chuffed.

But you're not so it doesn't really matter if the rest of the world would be overjoyed

Talk to him. Tell him you don't like it and in future should make that sort of decision together.

tachetastic · 14/01/2024 14:20

closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:28

We have the week off that week as we originally were going to go to Leeds for two nights
He's changed it to this

I'd be happy to go to GC in your place, if your DH doesn't mind bunking up with a hairy bloke.

That way you could still go to Leeds and everybody's happy.

No need to thank me. 🙃

Jessforless · 14/01/2024 14:20

mouseychick · 14/01/2024 13:23

That's incredibly controlling

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I think it’s lovely. If I didn’t have animals and DC I’d love to do this.

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OnlyOpenMouthToChangeFeet · 14/01/2024 14:19

dawngreen · 14/01/2024 13:40

Jet lag?? but then I don't fly often.

Would be difficult as there's no time difference between UK and Canaries.

Elphamouche · 14/01/2024 14:18

I went to Dubai for 3 nights, my friend went to Australia for 6 nights. We are going to Vegas for 4 nights.

You’re being unreasonable.

HarrietStyles · 14/01/2024 14:18

@arethereanyleftatall I think you are reading a different thread to me 😂 The thread I’m reading shows more people would like a surprise trip and don’t see this as controlling. A minority are saying it’s controlling and they wouldn’t like it.

dawngreen · 14/01/2024 14:17

It would depend on my work and routine. I like to have a day to recover from travelling so I tend to prefer a week break if flying or travelling far.

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AnotherSuperHeroe · 14/01/2024 14:14

So would I!

And yes I'm very jealous!

girlfriend44 · 14/01/2024 14:14

Yes 5 nights minimum.

DarkAcademia · 14/01/2024 14:13

I’d love that!

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 14/01/2024 14:13

I would delighted at this prospect! The best time of year to leave all this cold weather behind. I don't have the money to do this kind of thing (or a DH/ partner to book it either) but if I did I would really be looking forward to it. My parents both used to work for BA and regularly did this kind of thing, A few times they went to Barbados for a weekend.

Not related but..

I used to have a client in London who's husband had children from his first marriage in Sydney. They used to fly to Australia every other weekend for a long weekend. That's extreme and not something I would ever do - but a flight to the canaries for 3 nights sounds totally doable and you'll have fun when you get there.