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To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

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Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 14/01/2024 16:16

I am annoyed that you are spewing all that unnecessary carbon into the atmosphere when we are in the midst of a climate emergency.

honeylulu · 14/01/2024 16:09

I've just booked for us (me husband and daughter) to go to Santorini for 3 nights for my big birthday. We are all excited and am sure we can make 3 day stay worthwhile. I did check with H that he could get AL and was happy with Santorini but I'm paying so it was my decision.

I would have loved it if he had surprised me but it wouldn't have occurred to him sadly. He's great in other ways but not with holiday planning or surprises. I also earn quite a bit more (we have joint household finances but separate disposable income - I know that is a mumsnet horror!) hence me paying. Husband was delighted and said thank you.

Buck up OP - think positively and you'll enjoy it. You've made clear it's not the gesture or the place that bothers you so crack on!

FlyingWithoutAPlane · 14/01/2024 16:09

BIWI · 14/01/2024 12:51

It's not that far! I'm with him - sounds like a bargain. You get there at a decent time on Wednesday so you'll have three whole days there.

Seriously. What's not to like?

I think YABVVU reasonable to be annoyed with him.

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How does landing at midnight practically midnight Sunday by the time you land annd get to the hotel and having to leave like 7am Wednesday morning give you three full days? You only get Monday and Tuesday there and then off at the crack of dawn Wednesday?

Aroundthewaygirl · 14/01/2024 16:06

Actually I prefer shorter holidays and wouldn’t mind a few hour plane ride to get there. Right when I’m starting to long to be home it would be time to leave. It’s perfect.

Ramalangadingdong · 14/01/2024 16:00

The flight is part of the holiday as far as I am concerned.

ginasevern · 14/01/2024 15:57

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 14/01/2024 15:13

Could he find a friend to go with if you don't fancy it?

Yes, me!

Advent0range · 14/01/2024 15:57

I'd be delighted!

GinAndJuice99 · 14/01/2024 15:56

I’d be bothered about the environmental impact of flying that distance for such a short trip

Kangaboo · 14/01/2024 15:48

Going to sound a miserable bugger (& probably hypocritical as I do fly) but it’s not good environmentally to fly so would say it’s better not to unless it’s a purposeful /meaningful trip which it sounds like this isn’t (not to see anyone or for your main holiday.) I haven’t read the full thread but it’s interesting that environmental concerns aren’t cited in the first responses.

cakewench · 14/01/2024 15:33

YABU, unless there's some further information such as the trip is out of your budget or you've got twin toddlers or something (in which case I'd want to maximise my holiday time for every hour spent entertaining them on a flight!)

When I was young and single and living in the US, I flew to London for a long weekend to see some shows. It's possible to do it and enjoy it, but I feel as if there's something else to the story if you're this irritated by it?

pizzaHeart · 14/01/2024 15:32

feelingalittlehorse · 14/01/2024 14:03

I literally would love to live a life where a surprise trip to a nice, warm, sunny place is the source of so much navel gazing and hand wringing 🤣🤣

You go to Leeds OP, and I’ll go to Gran Canaria in your place. Problem solved 😊😊

And what do you mean by that????
Leeds beats GC anytime!

Filterphobia · 14/01/2024 15:29

I went to Gran Canaria for a hen party for 3 nights many years ago. I remember someone round the pool asking us how long we were there for and when we told them 3 nights their face was a picture! 🤣
TBF I couldn’t have handled more than 3 nights with all the partying we did!
Enjoy your trip OP, I wish my partner would book me a mini break away.

Emmacb82 · 14/01/2024 15:26

I hate flying so for me it would be my worst nightmare but honestly sometimes blokes can’t do right for doing wrong! I would be over the moon if my husband arranged something like this and surprised me! I suggest to just go with the flow and be excited about a last minute trip away. You could plan to go to a uk city for 3 nights and get caught on the motorway for hours and the weather is likely to be crap here so go for it! And be happy!

Pookerrod · 14/01/2024 15:22

I went to Seville last February for 3 nights, it was bliss to feel the sun on my face and stroll around without a coat in the middle of our hideous winter.

RampantIvy · 14/01/2024 15:20

The flight to Gran Canaria is takes about the same amount of time it takes me to drive to visit family so, yes, I would do it.

EndOfTheLine2023 · 14/01/2024 15:19

You sound so ungrateful and entitled, just be grateful.

ExtremelyJoyous · 14/01/2024 15:19

The flight is what, 4 or 5 hours?

I sometimes have to drive 4 hours to Edinburgh and 4 hours back in the same day!

So no I don’t think it’s too far for a blast of sun.

housethatbuiltme · 14/01/2024 15:16

I WISH someone did stuff like that for me. Its a literal dream.

How ungrateful can you be.

SaltySeaAir · 14/01/2024 15:13

I'd love the fact my partner had booked a trip for us without me doing all the Leg work!

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 14/01/2024 15:13

Could he find a friend to go with if you don't fancy it?

Twiglets1 · 14/01/2024 15:13

Yes I would be annoyed. We went to GC in the summer and the flight is 4.5 hours so with getting to the airport in plenty of time, flight delays and journey the other end, it felt like we spent all day travelling just to get there. I wouldn't want to go for less than 5 nights personally, or even 7.

WtP · 14/01/2024 15:05

I think its a lovely gesture by him, though perhaps if he knows you really well he should have thought "perhaps I'll check first"

What is obvious once again is that so many posters don't read a thread properly! So many asking questions that the OP originally said or addressed in a later reply!!

girlfriend44 · 14/01/2024 15:03

DillDanding · 14/01/2024 14:09

It’s only a short flight, it’s fine.

We often do 3 night breaks - and have done both New York and Boston which is a longer flight, and it still seems like a decent break.

Canaries are not a short flight?
France, Spain would be, but not Canaries.

Mookie81 · 14/01/2024 15:02

mouseychick · 14/01/2024 13:23

That's incredibly controlling

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