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To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

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Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 15/01/2024 21:52

Mybootsare · 15/01/2024 21:12

I do feel it’s just disingenuous when people single out air travel but try to downplay or ignore the effect of other luxuries or lifestyle choices (although I do appreciate for some in rural areas a car is hardly a luxury).

I genuinely don’t know the statistics of say pet ownership (or car ownership) vs flying (if anyone has any actual STATS feel free to share) but that doesn’t negate pet ownership for instance has a significant impact that’s often ignored.

https://www.independent.co.uk/climate-change/opinion/pets-uk-ownership-cats-dogs-carbon-environmental-impact-b1249610.html

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2022/09/15/us/pets-climate-impact-lbg-wellness/index.html

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It’s like saying ‘I don’t slap my wife on a regular basis like others do, so I am allowed to punch once a year.’ It makes no sense. Flying on holiday is not necessary and a super easy way to cut our carbon footprint by a huge amount. It’s wrong. It’s so unfair on those that will suffer the most.

You either care or you don’t. There is no justification for knowingly spewing tonnes of carbon into the atmosphere, putting our children’s future in jeopardy and committing millions of people to death and suffering, because you fancy a holiday. If you don’t care then that’s up to you, but it’s morally wrong.

Just look up the carbon footprint of your flights each year.

I agree that pet ownership is a massive problem too. Fashion industry. Our general overconsumption and waste is dreadful. We are a greedy and selfish nation.

AnotherStripyZebra · 15/01/2024 21:22

Mybootsare You might not want to bring children into the world if everyone keeps going on "a few flights a year".

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 15/01/2024 21:16

What on earth is the matter with you?? That sounds brilliant. I used to got to Dubai for the weekend! Grand Canaria isn’t that far at all!

Mumaway · 15/01/2024 21:15

I would totally love that.

Mybootsare · 15/01/2024 21:12

Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 15/01/2024 21:03

If you look at the amount of carbon emitted by air travel it’s incomparable to those things you mention.

If you compare your carbon footprint to the vast majority of the world, and in particular those that are being and will be hit first and worst by the climate emergency, yours will be massive in comparison.

There are no excuses I’m afraid. You either give a fuck about others or you don’t.

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I do feel it’s just disingenuous when people single out air travel but try to downplay or ignore the effect of other luxuries or lifestyle choices (although I do appreciate for some in rural areas a car is hardly a luxury).

I genuinely don’t know the statistics of say pet ownership (or car ownership) vs flying (if anyone has any actual STATS feel free to share) but that doesn’t negate pet ownership for instance has a significant impact that’s often ignored.

https://www.independent.co.uk/climate-change/opinion/pets-uk-ownership-cats-dogs-carbon-environmental-impact-b1249610.html

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2022/09/15/us/pets-climate-impact-lbg-wellness/index.html

Owning a pet does more damage to the planet than you might realise | Donnachadh McCarthy

Truth-telling about pets can be a painful process but cats and dogs, particularly, are having a devastating impact on the planet

https://www.independent.co.uk/climate-change/opinion/pets-uk-ownership-cats-dogs-carbon-environmental-impact-b1249610.html

Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 15/01/2024 21:03

Mybootsare · 15/01/2024 20:58

Re. PP about climate change, I appreciate that this is a concern but each persons situation is different.

I’m about balance - I don’t have dogs/pets, currently don’t have kids (although may well have in the future), and don’t own a car and don’t even take public transport much as I WFH. This all keeps my carbon footprint fairly low compared to many others who have all these things (Pets, kids, car) So I don’t feel bad catching a few flights each year.

So perhaps it’s more about each person considering their overall lifestyle and carbon footprint.

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If you look at the amount of carbon emitted by air travel it’s incomparable to those things you mention.

If you compare your carbon footprint to the vast majority of the world, and in particular those that are being and will be hit first and worst by the climate emergency, yours will be massive in comparison.

There are no excuses I’m afraid. You either give a fuck about others or you don’t.

Mybootsare · 15/01/2024 20:58

Re. PP about climate change, I appreciate that this is a concern but each persons situation is different.

I’m about balance - I don’t have dogs/pets, currently don’t have kids (although may well have in the future), and don’t own a car and don’t even take public transport much as I WFH. This all keeps my carbon footprint fairly low compared to many others who have all these things (Pets, kids, car) So I don’t feel bad catching a few flights each year.

So perhaps it’s more about each person considering their overall lifestyle and carbon footprint.

Peopleareconfusing · 15/01/2024 20:39

We are literally changing the climate so that it will no longer function as our life support system.

Clearinguptheclutter · 15/01/2024 20:21

saffy2 · 15/01/2024 19:37

I would love my partner to do something so kind and spontaneous as this!!! Every single thing that we do with or without children is facilitated by me. He wouldn’t even think of booking a babysitter for a dinner out 😂

Same here . I bring it up all the time that he never ever suggests anything “fun”, even a takeaway. At least he admits it nowadays. It genuinely would never occur to him to book a cheeky weekend away.

AllAboardTootToot · 15/01/2024 20:20

With all the threads on here bashing husbands, you ought to be thankful! I’d be thrilled to bits!

CountessWindyBottom · 15/01/2024 20:19

Oh for goodness sake, talk about sucking the joy out of something! Your husband has done something delightful and spontaneous which will allow for a few days away in the sun and a restorative change of scene and you’d rather spend it in grim Leeds.

Clearinguptheclutter · 15/01/2024 20:19

Livelovebehappy · 15/01/2024 20:16

Three nights in NY!?didn’t you spend day one getting over the jet lag? That’s a long long way to go for three nights…

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I’ve been to ny for two nights several times. Back when flights where cheaper
wouldn’t do it these days

Clearinguptheclutter · 15/01/2024 20:18

sounds fun to me.
I can’t be dealing with other people doing my travel arrangements though or indeed booking stuff without consulting me first. I’d need to get the time off work approved in advance. So I’d be cross about that, but not actually the actual trip

SadSack10 · 15/01/2024 20:17

If I lived 100s of miles from the airport then I wouldn’t think it was worth the effort.
Of the airport is close by then go and enjoy ☺️

Livelovebehappy · 15/01/2024 20:16

Beezknees · 14/01/2024 12:53

I am a massive control freak and don't like people booking things for me without checking first so I'd be annoyed at that. But the actual distance wouldn't bother me, I went to Thailand for just a week before and to New York for 3 nights.

Three nights in NY!?didn’t you spend day one getting over the jet lag? That’s a long long way to go for three nights…

candlelog · 15/01/2024 20:09

Id love it but then I like spontaneous things. I often books things for dh and I as a surprise.He does the same. It's not controlling- it's a thoughtful thing to do.

Ilovecleaning · 15/01/2024 20:03

Go on the holiday and enjoy it. My DH has no money and couldn’t organise a piss-up in a brewery.

munner · 15/01/2024 19:53

You're ungrateful.

CatsTheWayToDoIt · 15/01/2024 19:52

I’m jealous

restingbitchface30 · 15/01/2024 19:49

I must be missing something. Your partner booked a trip for you both and you’re mad? Am I in the twilight zone?

saffy2 · 15/01/2024 19:37

I would love my partner to do something so kind and spontaneous as this!!! Every single thing that we do with or without children is facilitated by me. He wouldn’t even think of booking a babysitter for a dinner out 😂

Carlosi456 · 15/01/2024 19:32

It's a bit heavy on the carbon footprint. Isn't there a climate emergency?
Perhaps we should normalise more staycations to protect the environment for the future?

Showmethemoneyyy · 15/01/2024 19:30

Having not had a holiday since 2018, I’d be absolutely delighted with this..

brainworms · 15/01/2024 19:27

So you're having three holidays this year, and you're complaining?

Wow.

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