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To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

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BoredAuditor · 14/01/2024 13:31

I'd happily do this - even with 2 preteens let alone just me and dh.

GrazingSheep · 14/01/2024 13:31

Is it an environmental concern you have?

Probably not given they are going to Greece in September and skiing in December.

campingmama · 14/01/2024 13:30

@mouseychick

Wow, You sound fun! We look at it as exciting, you think it's gonna be a regular weekend but end up somewhere else in the world without a care in the world! Life is very much for living and taking opportunities when they come up.. that weekend was Pisa for £150. I'm clearly a terrible wife!!

HarrietStyles · 14/01/2024 13:29

mouseychick · 14/01/2024 13:23

That's incredibly controlling

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WTF what a weird conclusion to come to. Pre children my husband I used to do this every now and then - book a last min city break or spa weekend etc on a Friday whilst at work. I bet 99% of people would see this as spontaneous fun.

highlo · 14/01/2024 13:29

closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:19

Airport is a 25 min taxi ride away but flight is 6 am so will need to book hotel
On way back the flight is to a airport 2 hours away from home
So he's booked a hotel for that night in that city then come home via train next day
It's a lot

Why do you need to book a hotel to save a 25 min taxi ride? I'm not saying you shouldn't stay in a hotel btw, I think it would be a nice bonus but wouldn't say you NEED to.

It sounds a bit like a mindset thing here in terms of not wanting to go.
If he's booked a hotel the night before then I'd see it as a 4 night holiday and make even more of it!
Nice meal, back to the hotel for a relaxing, early night (stress free as packing all done and no housework as in hotel room etc). Cooked breakfast once in the airport.....

It actually sounds like bliss to me.
It's the type of thing I'd love me DP to do for me....main reason he can't is that I have dc (he doesn't) and I'd feel guilty leaving them and/or would need to sort childcare

arethereanyleftatall · 14/01/2024 13:29

closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:28

We have the week off that week as we originally were going to go to Leeds for two nights
He's changed it to this

Without asking you, that's just not fair.

What were you going to do in Leeds? Or for the other 5 days?

ronoi · 14/01/2024 13:29

closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:28

We have the week off that week as we originally were going to go to Leeds for two nights
He's changed it to this

Did that's even worse. You had plans and he just decided to change them, with no discussion.

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:28

@WonderfulCheese it's Ryanair

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Hmindr68 · 14/01/2024 13:28

YABU

you don’t sound particularly compatible

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:28

We have the week off that week as we originally were going to go to Leeds for two nights
He's changed it to this

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ronoi · 14/01/2024 13:27

I would completely fucked off if DH booked a holiday without discussing it with me first. I have a strong need to be in control of my life and very firm boundaries about other people deciding what I am doing though. If you want me to book me a holiday, have basic respect for me and ask.

WonderfulCheese · 14/01/2024 13:24

Off topic but who are you flying with, I would love to book this!

Heather37231 · 14/01/2024 13:24

Is it an environmental concern you have?

I’m guessing you don’t work or are self-employed? Otherwise how would he know you could take the time off?

mouseychick · 14/01/2024 13:23

campingmama · 14/01/2024 13:19

I been known to text my husband and say finish early and meet me at the airport because I've found a deal to fly off somewhere for the weekend

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That's incredibly controlling

SecondHandFurniture · 14/01/2024 13:22

I've flown to LA for 4 nights, so no, it's not too far. 2 films and you've landed.

Allfur · 14/01/2024 13:19

I'd be happy my partner was so proactive!

campingmama · 14/01/2024 13:19

MorrisZapp · 14/01/2024 12:55

Can't believe so many people think it's normal for one half of a couple to book international travel for them both with no consultation whatsoever. This just wouldn't happen in my world.

I been known to text my husband and say finish early and meet me at the airport because I've found a deal to fly off somewhere for the weekend

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 13:19

Airport is a 25 min taxi ride away but flight is 6 am so will need to book hotel
On way back the flight is to a airport 2 hours away from home
So he's booked a hotel for that night in that city then come home via train next day
It's a lot

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DappledThings · 14/01/2024 13:19

I'd be annoyed at being told something was booked for me with no consideration for annual leave or if there was anything else on those days that I was expecting to do. I do find it quite odd anyone would book a while trip without consulting the other person at all.

Mumofteenandtween · 14/01/2024 13:18

It partly depends on where you live compared to the airport.

My parents live 15 minutes from a major airport. When they go on holiday they get a taxi and so are nicely dropped off at the airport departures. The route they take to the airport is highly unlikely to have bad traffic. They book the taxi for 2 hours 40 minutes before their take off time. Time between touching down at the U.K. airport and walking in their front door is rarely over an hour. (And on one occasion - which has been repeated to everyone they have ever met - it was 33 minutes.)

We live over 90 minutes from a major airport and the route involves a motorway that gets very busy. We also have to park in a car park and then get a bus to the airport. “Buses every ten minutes” is something that needs examining under the trades description act in my view!

So we have to leave the house at least 6 hours before the flight.

Big difference between these.

FarleyHatcherEsq · 14/01/2024 13:14

I would hate it as I find the airport bit so stressful, it wouldn't feel worth it

Eleganz · 14/01/2024 13:11

mouseychick · 14/01/2024 13:07

Yes, it's not normal!

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I think it is not that normal for men to do it to women, but I know loads of women (not me personally) who will book a holiday with no prior discussion with their husbands/partners beyond general discussions about budget for the year.

I'll be honest, if this is all OP has to worry about she is pretty lucky.

pizzaHeart · 14/01/2024 13:11

MorrisZapp · 14/01/2024 12:55

Can't believe so many people think it's normal for one half of a couple to book international travel for them both with no consultation whatsoever. This just wouldn't happen in my world.

This^
everything is jointly checked beforehand here.
However saying this, this trip wouldn’t bother me length wise if it’s a really good bargain and wouldn’t affect other plans.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/01/2024 13:10

I don't get how your life works that one person could book and decide something for 3 nights for another adult without consultation. What about all your normal commitments you would ordinarily have over those 3 days?

CherryBlossomPants · 14/01/2024 13:09

You’re acting as if you’re flying to the other side of the world. It’s a 4 hour plane ride with is actually a short flight. I’d enjoy the surprise and the time together personally.