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To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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closemydoormow · 14/01/2024 12:50

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

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Variedviews · 03/04/2024 18:23

Did you go in the end?

Harls1969 · 27/03/2024 21:37

Assuming his mates don't have sex with him on holiday, he needs to be reminded that he's the lucky one

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Amenhotep · 17/01/2024 12:00

You are so lucky! I would be over the moon I

bemusedmoose · 16/01/2024 19:17

With kids I would say not worth the hassle but I would be dead chuffed if I didn't have kids!

Longer would be nice but hey - it's cheap! I haven't been abroad for over 18 years - I would jump at the chance

Tildycatpuss1968 · 16/01/2024 12:37

I think I’d far rather go to Gran Canaria. Just enjoy the warm sunshine and try not to stress about it.

Blueink · 16/01/2024 12:36

No I wouldn’t; it’s not far and importantly on the same time zone.

Mybootsare · 16/01/2024 12:06

AnotherStripyZebra · 15/01/2024 21:22

Mybootsare You might not want to bring children into the world if everyone keeps going on "a few flights a year".

If you’re going down that line of reasoning I could just as easily say some would be discouraged to bring kids into the world if everyone decides to own a couple of large dogs and big (non electric car, and eat meat every day)

My point from my pp still stands - there is double standards with people not wanting to compromise on owning pets & consuming a high meat diet but single out someone going on a couple of holidays a year. Some people are consistent but there’s a massive amount of double standards.

I don’t go on holiday 3 times every single year, there have been times when I may have flown 3 times a year but it’s not necessarily every year and some years I don’t fly at all. I did an average of how much I fly per year over the past decade and it comes out at around 1.2.

I don’t want to derail the thread further so this will probably be my last post on this thread, but this quiz below is so interesting if anyone wants to genuinely on their own carbon footprint as opposed to just pointing the finger at others

carbon-calculator.climatehero.org/?source=GoogleKeywords&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAzJOtBhALEiwAtwj8tjKSY_MlvTEFvAQyDt0HuGFwAXffsyqmpjLfG_IsNxZCAN7IYsszwBoCuBIQAvD_BwE

I did it a few times to compare the carbon footprint of various lifestyles using fictional personas. My fictional pet owning, high meat diet, car owning non-flying semi detached house living friends didn’t fare much better than I did. In some cases worse - their carbon footprint was higher.

Mybootsare · 16/01/2024 12:03

Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 15/01/2024 21:52

It’s like saying ‘I don’t slap my wife on a regular basis like others do, so I am allowed to punch once a year.’ It makes no sense. Flying on holiday is not necessary and a super easy way to cut our carbon footprint by a huge amount. It’s wrong. It’s so unfair on those that will suffer the most.

You either care or you don’t. There is no justification for knowingly spewing tonnes of carbon into the atmosphere, putting our children’s future in jeopardy and committing millions of people to death and suffering, because you fancy a holiday. If you don’t care then that’s up to you, but it’s morally wrong.

Just look up the carbon footprint of your flights each year.

I agree that pet ownership is a massive problem too. Fashion industry. Our general overconsumption and waste is dreadful. We are a greedy and selfish nation.

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No I think that’s a flawed and illogical comparison so I won’t engage further on that with you using the DV analogy and it’s just verging on absurd.

however I will say kudos to you for not being in denial about pet ownership (or the fashion industry) and not just singling out flying. At least you’re consistent.

BIWI · 16/01/2024 11:49

Do you what, @WeeMary?!!!

WeeMary · 16/01/2024 11:05

Do you?

Pogue4Life · 16/01/2024 10:13

YBVU I would LOVE to be going on one holiday let alone 3.
also you’ve got a good partner if he’s planning ahead and booking things he thinks you’d like.

Rewis · 16/01/2024 07:48

I'm not sure annoyed would be the right word for me. I wouldn't like him booking something for me without asking and i wouldn't be too excited to travel all that way for 2.5 days. But of course I'd go!

PickledPurplePickle · 16/01/2024 07:22

Sounds great

MumTeacherofMany · 16/01/2024 07:20

I'd love it! Can I have your DH?

Ace56 · 16/01/2024 07:15

I’m also with you OP, but then I don’t really like the Canary Islands. I would also find it weird that DP didn’t even mention it to me before booking - surely it wouldn’t hurt to say ‘I found this really good deal, what do you think?’. That’s how normal relationships work…

Also it depends why you were going to Leeds - was it to visit friends or family who he’s now just decided he doesn’t care about seeing? Or were you just going there for the hell of it?

T1Dmama · 16/01/2024 06:57

I would find it too much of a faff packing, having to get up stupid early to get to the airport, I never sleep the first night on holiday, then having literally 1 full night, then on the 3rd night you’re up early again to get to the airport to come home… personally I’d rather have a weekend somewhere local… so I’m with you OP…

Angrywife · 16/01/2024 01:01

Poor you, how ever will you cope

Pinkfluff76 · 15/01/2024 23:44

How fucking ungrateful are you?! Three holidays this year (so far). What a tough life….

ftp · 15/01/2024 22:57

Yes

MaryShelley1818 · 15/01/2024 22:36

I'd be absolutely over the moon! Sounds fantastic.

OldPerson · 15/01/2024 22:35

Who are you to have 3 trips abroad this year? You can obviously afford to be as snipperty and whiney and complaining as you want to be. I'd give him hell for making you enjoy another break, for which he thinks he might derive pleasure or purpose. Just don't endure. Serve him divorce papers. If it's inconvenient to go, don't go. If you don't divorce, promptly inform him he has no right to decide where you go as a couple. You must take control here.

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 15/01/2024 22:24

I know where I'd rather go and it wouldn't be bloody Leeds!! Christ if my Partner told me he'd booked us a few nights away, somewhere warm I'd be over the flipping moon. Not calling him controlling because he's done something nice for me.

LalaPaloosa · 15/01/2024 22:23

Not at all. It’s really not that far. I would happily do it.

Mookie81 · 15/01/2024 22:16

Mirrorinthebathroom123 · 15/01/2024 21:03

If you look at the amount of carbon emitted by air travel it’s incomparable to those things you mention.

If you compare your carbon footprint to the vast majority of the world, and in particular those that are being and will be hit first and worst by the climate emergency, yours will be massive in comparison.

There are no excuses I’m afraid. You either give a fuck about others or you don’t.

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