I have 3 kids, my middle son is 21, his birthday was in October. He is in his 3rd year of uni but lives at home, had the same part time job since he was 16.
Recently he has told us that he is in a relationship with his school best friends (now moved away for uni) little sister - she’s 17, 18 in the summer in Y13. They work together and have been doing so for about a year and a half. Apparently they’ve been dating for about 8 months (so 16 and 20). His friend who he’s still close to had no idea and has only found out recently, same for us parents.
Well it’s all blown up, his friend is accusing my DS of having slept with the girl before she turned 16 - during the summer before last, weeks before her 16th. He claims this isn’t true and they only slept together after her 16th and starting dating when she was closer to 17. She didn’t start working with him until she was 16 and he said this is how they got closer so I believe that.
He won’t break up with her and she doesn’t want to break up with him but all of his school friends are a bit outraged and he’s now barely going out (he has uni friends but they aren’t the type to really go out), I’ve told him I don’t like the idea of him being in this relationship so she can’t come here and I believe her parents have said the same, but they work together so are still seeing each other plenty, also think he is booking a hotel or similar at times to spend the night with her as I know he’s not out with his school friends and he’s never stayed out with his uni friends before.
I know he’s an adult so his relationship is none of my business but she isn’t.
AIBU to be concerned and wanting to talk to her dad? Or do I just leave it?