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Husband & lapdance

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Thatwagon · 11/01/2024 23:33

Husband on xmass party night ..wouldnt tell be before he left if he would be home ..stayed out all night..home at 7am .i was not happy straight away went to his pockets aside from all the drink receipts i found 2 cards for a private dance .
He says he cant remember being there but knows he did nothing wrong.
How can he not remember being there but know he did nothing wrong.?
I dont think he would have told if i didnt confront him.
I feel so sick angry about it all.
Its more the lies and not remembering and trying to convince me he did nothing wrong thats killing me.
We rowed ...we talked all at mine insistence he hasnt tried at all and im just so sick of him I cant look at him without picturing him with a lapdancer .
Please tell me what you would do in my shoes I have no one to talk to in real life and im really struggling.
Thanks in adavance.

OP posts:
KarenNotAKaren · 12/01/2024 01:08

Gross.

Using human women as his little sex dolls.

Id be rid

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 12/01/2024 00:58

Catza · 11/01/2024 23:52

I will be in a minority but I would do absolutely nothing in your shoes. In the UK, there is no such thing as a lap dance. A private dance is literally a semi-open room, no touching etc. Lasts about 5 minutes. I’d be more upset at the price to be honest.

Edited

You are very naive.

TheaBrandt · 12/01/2024 00:40

I’d be embarrassed I had married such a pathetic cliche. Wouldn’t rant and rave but would put me right off him.

SlippyDip · 12/01/2024 00:36

I wouldnt be bothered. And I wouldnt rummage through his pockets. He can't touch, he will have been totally shafted moneywise for about 8 minutes of seeing someone semi naked.

CeeCeeBloom · 12/01/2024 00:06

In your shoes I'd kick him out. Lapdances are a dealbreaker for me. ATEOTD though, no one can really tell you what to do. If he isn't even apologetic is he even worth sticking around for?

Catza · 11/01/2024 23:52

I will be in a minority but I would do absolutely nothing in your shoes. In the UK, there is no such thing as a lap dance. A private dance is literally a semi-open room, no touching etc. Lasts about 5 minutes. I’d be more upset at the price to be honest.

Original poster
Thatwagon · 11/01/2024 23:39

There were 2 cards each card for a private dance 50£ each

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Ella31 · 11/01/2024 23:35

When you say cards, could these have been promotional cards he might have picked up or were the receipts from the strip club.

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