I’m drowning

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bazzibizz · 07/01/2024 13:51

I’m sorry to post here but need the trailffic
im a single mum to 3 dc. They’re due home today from their dads. I’ve only just got up. My house is a mess, I’ve got no money. I’m in rent arrears. My anxiety is awful and I’m quite sure I’m depressed. I already take 40mg citalopram.
I just want to get back into bed and stay there. I haven’t seen anyone except my dc for about 2 weeks. It even my mum. I just don’t want to go out or see anyone.
I love my dc with every part of me, but I’m just not up to the job at the moment.
what do I do? How do I get out of this vicious circle?

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Delatron · 07/01/2024 14:03

I’d ring Citizen’s Advcie first thing in the morning to deal with rent arrears. They can be very helpful.

Did you not spend time with a one over Christmas? Were the kids with you? That sounds tough.

Then yes also get a GP appointment. You may need your meds tweaked with or could be referred for counselling.

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bazzibizz · 07/01/2024 14:01

No I don’t work at the moment. My youngest is nearly 2.
my mum is supportive. I was supposed to go and see her today, but I just slept. Has messages off her when I woke up asking if I was ok. She’ll know that I’m not

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bazzibizz · 07/01/2024 13:59

The man in the corner shop is the only person I have seen!
I have zero motivation to do anything. Every small task feels like a massive effort and my stomach turns at the thought of anything

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PonyPatter44 · 07/01/2024 13:59

Oh love, I absolutely understand the drowning feeling. It's awful. You say you're on citalopram, are you taking it regularly? Maybe get yourself back to the doctor and see if they can up your dose a bit, or try a different AD if you've been taking it for a while and it hasn't helped your mood.

How old are the kids? Can they start doing a bit more around the house to help out?

Don't try to do everything all at once. Do the washing-up, dry it and put it all away. Then, wipe over the hob / cooker. Now you have a clean sink and a clean cooker. That's it for today. Go in the living room and pick up three things and put them away. Just three. Now stop.

Do you work?

DancingDolly · 07/01/2024 13:59

Also prioritise the rent arrears. Your local council may have support/advice or Google Citizens advice or Shelter in your area

WhatWouldHopperDo · 07/01/2024 13:58

You say you haven’t seen your Mum. Is that because she isn’t supportive or just because you haven’t felt up to it? Can you tell her you’re struggling and, if so, will she help?

Its so hard to get out of a spiral when there’s so much on your shoulders. Be kind to yourself x

DancingDolly · 07/01/2024 13:56

One thing at a time. Concentrate on today for now, force yourself to jump in the shower and get dressed. Have a cup of tea and wash the dishes. Have you got any food in for today? Tomorrow make a GP appointment and go back to talk about your low mood, maybe ask about counselling or other mental health support? In my area Mind do free counselling although there is a waiting list. Try to force yourself out of the house every day and speak to someone even if its just the person in the corner shop

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