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Dangerous driver

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bctf123 · 06/01/2024 14:44

I live in a town with a lot of dangerous driving and it riles me
A couple of months ago I saw 2 very dangerous manoeuvres by an Audi drivers and the second was a sort of bullying.
I driver for my job and found out where he lives.
I think it's a man in 20s/30s.

He comes from a community which respects elders but can be stupid. Should I knock on the door to speak to the dad privately or should I leave it

Aibu to go up there and have a discreet word?

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IMustDoMoreExercise · 07/01/2024 17:12

NotTerfNorCis · 07/01/2024 17:09

This is a weird thread.

I'm a very careful driver. Tempted to buy an Audi to see if it turns me into a knob. 😜 Do knobs drive Audis or do Audis turn careful people into aggressive drivers?

Both. Whenever we see a bad driver, it is usually an Audi.

NotTerfNorCis · 07/01/2024 17:09

This is a weird thread.

I'm a very careful driver. Tempted to buy an Audi to see if it turns me into a knob. 😜 Do knobs drive Audis or do Audis turn careful people into aggressive drivers?

lostonmars · 07/01/2024 16:49

bctf123 · 07/01/2024 16:43

Ok yes that is what I mean ...but actually I am a very similar ethnicity. Nothing to do with dog whistle although I have my prejudices against everyone of all colours 😜

The kids of that community-a minority not the majority - respect their elders but the adults stick their head in the sand about what the kids do.

Again, what community are you talking about? And being a "similar" ethnicity means nothing. Yes, you do seem to have a lot of prejudices.

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bctf123 · 07/01/2024 16:43

Ok yes that is what I mean ...but actually I am a very similar ethnicity. Nothing to do with dog whistle although I have my prejudices against everyone of all colours 😜

The kids of that community-a minority not the majority - respect their elders but the adults stick their head in the sand about what the kids do.

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lostonmars · 07/01/2024 16:42

bctf123 · 07/01/2024 16:39

Thank you. I think this will be best for future

Not going to mention what community you think is stupid?

Original poster
bctf123 · 07/01/2024 16:39

Thank you. I think this will be best for future

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CatamaranViper · 06/01/2024 19:57

LakeTiticaca · 06/01/2024 19:38

@ApolloandDaphne no

I think she was asking the OP

LakeTiticaca · 06/01/2024 19:38

@ApolloandDaphne no

ApolloandDaphne · 06/01/2024 18:42

Are you talking about the travelling community?

LakeTiticaca · 06/01/2024 16:44

Sounds you live in my town OP. Does it have a motorway right through middle? There is a huge problem with young males in high performance cars tearing around town at terrifying speeds and their have been numerous fatalies over the years, of both innocent people and of the drivers and/or their passengers. The police know who they are but don't want to " upset the community "

enchantedsquirrelwood · 06/01/2024 16:42

Does Jennifer drive an Audi dangerously?

But anyway OP no, don't do this. Log it with the police.

RobertaFirmino · 06/01/2024 16:26

JenniferJuniper80 · 06/01/2024 14:47

Do you understand what ODFOD means?

Yes, it means 'Oh do fuck off dear'. Coincidentally, that's just the advice I am giving to you.

Falkenburg · 06/01/2024 16:09

Jennifer Juniowr was right though!

The most likely outcome is that the dad will answer the door and say ODFOD!

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/01/2024 16:05

HaddawayAndShite · 06/01/2024 15:31

Why are you always so fucking rude and unpleasant to people? Like seriously what is missing in your life that this is your release?

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Because @JenniferJuniper80 has a sad and lonely life and is bitter and twisted.

CatamaranViper · 06/01/2024 15:36

Saucery · 06/01/2024 14:54

Oh I think it’s quite clear what the OP means. Classic dog whistle Hmm

No, OP, give any evidence of dangerous driving to the police, don’t go wading into any ‘community’ asking the driver’s Dad to have a word, that’s just bloody stupid.

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It really isn't that clear... I have no idea what community she means??

Falkenburg · 06/01/2024 15:35

Most likely outcome -

Dangerous driver
LenaLamont · 06/01/2024 15:31

Respects elders…

Is this a racist dog whistle for “is Sikh or Muslim”?

HaddawayAndShite · 06/01/2024 15:31

JenniferJuniper80 · 06/01/2024 14:47

Do you understand what ODFOD means?

Why are you always so fucking rude and unpleasant to people? Like seriously what is missing in your life that this is your release?

Topseyt123 · 06/01/2024 15:30

lostonmars · 06/01/2024 15:28

"A community which respects elders but can be stupid" what on earth does this mean???

Looks like many of us are also wondering that.

lostonmars · 06/01/2024 15:28

"A community which respects elders but can be stupid" what on earth does this mean???

Topseyt123 · 06/01/2024 15:28

Note his registration and report it to the police using their 101 number. Don't go to the house to report him to his parents, that would be ridiculously stupid and asking for trouble.

RobertaFirmino · 06/01/2024 15:23

Last time someone knocked on my door wrt dangerous driving, it was a policeman telling me Mum was dead. If the driving was really that bad then don't fuck around thinking 'Ooh, I'm older than him, I deserve respect', note the reg and let the cops know.

WRT 'respecting elders', I'd like to point out that other trees are equally important.

MadeOfAllWork · 06/01/2024 15:21

So you saw someone driving like a twat so rather than thinking ‘what a twat’ and getting in with your life you tracked him down?

If you are one of these people who goes around thinking you are the best driver and everyone else is an idiot then get a dash cam.

McMuffins · 06/01/2024 15:19

Don’t go to his house just report him.

He comes from a community which respects elders but can be stupid
What does this part mean though?