To not work

Honestly you will struggle to find work to suit those hours. Enjoy your life and don't heed the judgement.

I don't need to work, although the extra money helps with more disposable income.

Our youngest are in nursery 4 days a week, but I didn't work until about 4mths ago. Prior to that, I listed a lot on eBay, all DC clothes, just years of accumulated stuff, and make a good deal each month.

I started a part time job at a charity, as I felt I was becoming something of a hermit. It's the best thing for me. I have something to focus on, I get tremendous job satisfaction, I have new friends and another purpose... Which I would have sworn blind I didn't need, but turns out I really did.

This year, I bought all DC and family Christmas presents out of "my pot" so to speak. And it felt great. Like a physical representation of happiness to others that I'd provided all by myself.

I can always quit if I want too. I have the rest of my life to stay home, should I choose. It makes a huge difference to my mental health, being there because I want to be, not because I have to be.

@Whattodo112222 cleaning? of all things to suggest to someone who has stated they cherish their quiet mornings and also that money isn't an issue! Absurd suggestion!

It is a great position to be and you should enjoy it.

But with all the usual ‘what if….’ caveats. What about a pension in your name? What happens if your husband gets long term sick or is permanently unable to work? What happens if your marriage breaks down? Insurances can cover many possible scenarios but not the marriage breakdown one. Having a part time foot in the work place is a sensible place to be.

I know that many schools are struggling to fill TA positions. You may find some flexibility there for mornings only and with your autism experience, I am sure you would be very valuable.

You don't win any medals for working for the sake of it... I would love to be able to do what you do, probably only part time, but I really would love it. My kids aren't school age yet but I can already sense the number of school things I'd love to get involved in that I just wont have time for. And not getting home until 5.30pm before the inevitable rushed evening where we're all stressed and tired from our long days... Followed by the mad rush to get us all out of the door in the morning. Why would anyone choose this if they didn't have to!

You are at risk if you and your husband ever split. But other than that I don't see any issues.

I do wonder if there's anything you could do to ease your husband's workload though? As in, is there any scenario where you work for some of the time and he drops a day or something. It seems a shame that you can't all spend more time together as a family 🤔

If your happy and you can afford it then enjoy it. I’d only be a wee bit worried about what you’ll do in a few years when they need you a bit less. It’s good to plan. Could you volunteer /train /do transient work to prepare yourself for going back to work in the future

I don't blame you for not working if you don't have to. The only thing I would be considering is that you could be in a tricky situation if you ever split from your high earning dh. Make sure you pay into a pension for you etc. And claim child benefit for the NI contributions even if your dh then has to pay it back.

If this set up works for your family that's what matters not what others think. Is your DH happy with the current arrangement? I would be looking to make sure you get CB even if your DH has to pay it back for the pension credits thing, sorry can't remember correct name.

Even if you could logistically go back to work, I don't think you should. You sound like you enjoy not working!

I don't have kids. I work in a stressful job that I hate. I'd love to give up work and spend my time as a home maker even though having children hasn't been possible. I have often wondered what makes me stay working - It is in reality only society's judgement that keeps me in my job. I'd hate to think that you were going back to work just because you felt you should. It's such a modern idea that both in a couple have to have an income. Give your children all the love and time you want to give them. And F**ck those who judge :-)

I’m incredibly jealous but not judging- enjoy!

If you are happy with your life, then ignore the judgemental people. In many cases, they are jealous.

Could you do something self employed like cleaning or something alike? Gives you flexibility to work the hours you want to and a little bit of pocket money to save up?

I wouldn't judge a SAHP who had school age kids, I'd just be incredibly envious!

If you don't necessarily need to work, then perhaps some volunteering?

Who do you feel judged by? Honestly what you do in your own time isn't thought about by other people, they've all got too much going on in their own lives, family, work, friends you not working unless you go on about it all the time won't really register!

Enjoy your chilled mornings and quality afternoon's with your children.

I work full time as a doctor (with 2 kids) and I don’t blame you at all for not working!

even when kids are at school they are time consuming. Yes I work but my husband is part time and does a lot of the school runs/child related admin. We would really struggle without him having this flexibility. Neither of us work late or work away. It sounds like it wouldn’t really be feasible for you to work at the moment. If you have an interest/ could set up a business and work flexibly then maybe that could be an option? Or consider studying part time? But I wouldn’t feel guilty