New Lodger - Need a rant

Have you developed a relationship with him prior? Wondering why you feel some sort of obligation to him

Two pieces of advice. Firstly the police will not come and remove him, but do not let him know this, because you may have to use the threat of them ejecting him to get him out.

Secondly I can help you to draw up a contract for his replacement. You need to have a set of house rules which a potential roommate has to read, agree with, and sign to say they will keep to the rules.

Within these written rules you must put that if you want them to leave you will give them two weeks notice, however if they are being ejected for a serious breach of the rules, then they must leave within three days.

As a house share owner with 25 years experience of lodgers I endorse this reply.

He needs to move out asap. His addiction issues are not your problem, don’t fall into saviour mode.

Last night he was about but drank a huge amount (of my booze - which is fine) and was all over the place.

This is a huge issue. Did he have permission? If not it was theft and indicative of his character.

Get him out, OP!

Get rid of him now. Your oxygen mask on first. You’re potentially jeopardising your future if he tempts you to relapse.

A new place should have been a great chance for fresh start for him, surely. Instead he’s pissed all over your rules immediately. You’re NOT entertaining him staying, are you? Are you just needing a rant in the period before you’re able to remove him and change locks?

He needs out at and immediately. He will not help your own sobriety and has already underpaid you.

He needs to go. He hasn’t even paid so get rid as soon as possible

Get rid. He's a potential squatter

Get rid!! Christ you do not have to live like this, give him notice asap.

Get rid, you don’t need the temptation and he’s wrecking your house and has lied about his history. Not what you need.

What's the timeline on this situation OP? It's quite confusing.

O.U.T. A.S.A.P.

Nooooo. This is never going to work, so get him out ASAP. There wasn't even an initial period of good behaviour!

Stale fags, stale alcohol and a whiff of dirty hair.

If you were an addict then it's very important that you don't mix with other addicts. I would tell him that and say he has to leave.

I am astounded that you were okay with him drinking a lot of your alcohol anyway.

Could you really not tell any of this before you let him live with you?

If easier just tell him to get out first thing and hand him back all monies paid minus the nights spent at yours. You will probably want someone there, maybe the police, in case he doesn't leave quietly. He isn't entitled to be in your house and abuse your trust.

Get him gone immediately. I don’t agree with giving him a week. Although I don’t know what his rights would be in regards to notice, guess it depends what’s on the contract?

Clearly he’s in a bad place but it should not fall on your shoulders to help him through it, especially given your history.

He needs to go, OP. His idea of acceptable behaviour is so completely ruined that he's acting like this the second he's through the door. It will get a lot worse. Better to make a clean break now. Just because you've had your own challenges, you don't owe him endless chances to trample your boundaries. I have a lot of sympathy for addicts but this is your home and safety that's the priority. Not his.

He needs to go immediately.

Where are your boundaries op?

He needs to go, now!

Oh my goodness, if it’s not tonight then tomorrow morning first thing please get someone there with you and ask him to leave immediately.

This will only go download.

Do not let him drag you down with him.

Remember this is also a test for you - what are you boundaries? What’s your self worth? What will you allow to happen in the sanctuary of your own home? This is all the self love and inner work / strength about sobriety!

This is a test but you’ve got this x

Using crack... fucking he'll

OP, I can understand why as a former/recovering addict yourself you might feel obligated to give this man a safe place, but it isn't safe or sensible or you to do that: cigarettes and alcohol in the first 24 hr is bad enough, but if he's brazen enough to do that so soon I can only imagine it will get worse (and simultaneously riskier).
Nor, frankly, should the onus be on a complete stranger to ensure they are securely housed.
For your own safety you need to give him notice. If you still feel like you ought to help him offer to drop him off at the local council's nearest offices so he can declare himself homeless. (When he will subsequently be housed in a hotel and given a support worker as well as put in touch with any other relevant organisations). Do tell friend/s what you're planning on doing though in case he reacts badly and ideally have someone with you (and that's not to throw shade on addicts - I would say the same to anyone telling a stranger something unpleasant).

Why do you say it is fine for him to drink your booze - and within 24 hours of moving in? This can only get worse. You sound as though you are a pushover OP, and he has sensed your people-pleasing unwillingness to set sensible boundaries. He has not kept to whatever agreement you made with him, so therefore you can get him to leave now (tomorrow). I don't agree with those saying give him a week. You have had enough already, he needs to go tomorrow.