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Cheeky this and lil that?

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TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 12:42

This grinds my gears unfortunately. Someone I know is always bobbying off on holiday and is forever in bars when at home (no I'm not jealous, I get to do just what I want in that respect). Good for them.

But it's always accompanied by pictures with comments about a lil brekky, a cheeky jaunt, little drink with Fred cheeky bit of something. Grrr!

A lil brekky turned out to be a plate of full English!

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TrolleyCase · 30/12/2023 16:00

Italianasoitis · 30/12/2023 14:10

Try being from Northern Ireland, where 'wee' is put in front of everything!

-Put your wee pin code in the machine
-Can I take your wee name?
-Do you have a wee Advantage card?
-Can you put your wee signature here?

  • (my favourite, by the hairsdresser to my dad) Do you want me to take a bit of your wee eyebrows?

Then 'cheeky' sometimes gets added in, and you've got a cheeky wee cocktail.

I love all Irish accents (and from both sides of the border) so everything sounds better in those accents. I could even forgive ‘cheeky’!

Rockrobon · 30/12/2023 14:28

I agree OP. It sounds very irritating.

LuluBlakey1 · 30/12/2023 14:26

ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 30/12/2023 14:18

'Wee' (in the sense of small) is regional, though - it isn't seen as a cutesy word in all parts of the UK.

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I disagree- the people who use it, use it all the time- in ridiculous ways.
'wee drink', 'wee buns', 'wee walk', 'wee nap', 'wee bit cross', 'wee smile', 'wee coffee', 'wee dress', 'wee gin', 'wee dote', 'wee holiday', 'wee weekend away'.

The word means nothing- it's used to signal they are from Northern Ireland and to appear 'cute'. It's awful. In every one of the instances above it is just unnecessary. The two I am thinking of barely used the word 10 years ago- they use it constantly now as their only adjective.

WhateverMate · 30/12/2023 14:22

ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 30/12/2023 14:18

'Wee' (in the sense of small) is regional, though - it isn't seen as a cutesy word in all parts of the UK.

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I'm pretty sure 'cheeky' is regional too, in that it's mostly said in and around East London?

Fannyfiggs · 30/12/2023 14:21

Italianasoitis · 30/12/2023 14:10

Try being from Northern Ireland, where 'wee' is put in front of everything!

-Put your wee pin code in the machine
-Can I take your wee name?
-Do you have a wee Advantage card?
-Can you put your wee signature here?

  • (my favourite, by the hairsdresser to my dad) Do you want me to take a bit of your wee eyebrows?

Then 'cheeky' sometimes gets added in, and you've got a cheeky wee cocktail.

We also use wee in Scotland. I'm forever saying it and actually do my own head in with it 😂

Speedygonzales78 · 30/12/2023 14:21

I work with a couple who do exactly the same, except they were behind with their rent and were almost evicted, still owe hundreds of pounds to a couple of co-workers, always skint but yet manage "a cheeky weekend away" "Sunday lunch out" and numerous posts as such. If you can't afford to repay people or your rent I fail to see how they can afford it all. Oh wait they're living off other people's money effectively 🤣.

ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 30/12/2023 14:18

LuluBlakey1 · 30/12/2023 14:16

and ' a wee' this and that- it all drives me mad. 'Cutesy' words.

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'Wee' (in the sense of small) is regional, though - it isn't seen as a cutesy word in all parts of the UK.

Ffsmakeitstop · 30/12/2023 14:18

I agree completely op. It makes me cringe especially as my FB friends are real life friends too. Luckily they don't actually speak that way.

LuluBlakey1 · 30/12/2023 14:16

TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 12:42

This grinds my gears unfortunately. Someone I know is always bobbying off on holiday and is forever in bars when at home (no I'm not jealous, I get to do just what I want in that respect). Good for them.

But it's always accompanied by pictures with comments about a lil brekky, a cheeky jaunt, little drink with Fred cheeky bit of something. Grrr!

A lil brekky turned out to be a plate of full English!

and ' a wee' this and that- it all drives me mad. 'Cutesy' words.

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 30/12/2023 14:14

TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 14:04

@YabbaDabbaDooooo Maybe it's because I'm not neurotypical that it irritates me. It's possible to be ND and intelligent at the same time.

I also think it's copycatting to use this way of writing. Like they've seen it and think it's cute or funny so they'll do it too.

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It's possible to be ND and intelligent at the same time.

Did you need to be so patronising?

I'm pretty sure most people know this? What we didn't know (because you drip fed it) was that you're ND.

LifeonMarsnotVenus · 30/12/2023 14:10

I think YABU because you believe you’re a superior being and expect everyone to conform to your approved way of posting, but SM by its very nature, is geared towards the vacuous and pointless.

If someone frequently posts in a style I find annoying, then I mute them. Their posts won’t interest me, but presumably others enjoy them? One of my pet peeves are the endless posts of said person holding a glass of wine in various outlets. To me, it makes them look like a raging alcoholic but it’s not my place to police how others use SM. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Italianasoitis · 30/12/2023 14:10

Try being from Northern Ireland, where 'wee' is put in front of everything!

-Put your wee pin code in the machine
-Can I take your wee name?
-Do you have a wee Advantage card?
-Can you put your wee signature here?

  • (my favourite, by the hairsdresser to my dad) Do you want me to take a bit of your wee eyebrows?

Then 'cheeky' sometimes gets added in, and you've got a cheeky wee cocktail.

givemethetea · 30/12/2023 14:08

I'm surprised more people haven't agreed with you OP! Do they also say "me thinks"?

LittleGreenDragons · 30/12/2023 14:08

You aren't wrong OP. It is annoying, which is why I no longer go on FB, and have never had Instagram or Twitter. Adult DD shows me just enough kitty tiktoks to stop me making my own account. It's weird out there in the abyss 😉😂

minipie · 30/12/2023 14:07

FreeezePeach · 30/12/2023 13:58

The irony.

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Fair enough. I meant the type of social media where people feel the need to share that they are going on holiday, having breakfast or off for a drink with Fred. MN is rather different.

CityCommuter · 30/12/2023 14:06

Social media isn't meant to be taken seriously, it's just a bit of fun when you have a spare 10 minutes to have a look! There's no obligation to look, post, comment or even like anything! People can word things anyway they want to on their page no matter how annoying it might be to others, it's not a school exam!

Maybe mute some of your friends posts so you don't see their annoying phrases Grin

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TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 14:04

@YabbaDabbaDooooo Maybe it's because I'm not neurotypical that it irritates me. It's possible to be ND and intelligent at the same time.

I also think it's copycatting to use this way of writing. Like they've seen it and think it's cute or funny so they'll do it too.

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ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 30/12/2023 14:02

I suppose it's a sort of faux breeziness designed to create the impression the person is fun and easy-going.

Bambooshoot · 30/12/2023 14:00

You are right of course, it is nauseating, but the current fashion on AIBU is to attack the poster for anything lighthearted (heaven forbid we have any funny posts anymore!), hence the rather self righteous responses.

BrendaMcPherson · 30/12/2023 14:00

YANBU and I imagine many of the previous posters agree with you, but pretend not to.

FreeezePeach · 30/12/2023 13:58

minipie · 30/12/2023 13:55

Yet another reason not to be on social media. I highly recommend it OP.

The irony.

TrolleyCase · 30/12/2023 13:57

I agree. ‘Cheeky’ used this way is very irritating. My husband is one such offender.

minipie · 30/12/2023 13:55

Yet another reason not to be on social media. I highly recommend it OP.

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 30/12/2023 13:54

TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 12:56

I don't write like that on social media. I've been deliberately facetious in this post with language. It's not my usual sentence construction. In fact you'll find me on Pedants' Corner.

I don't understand why everything is cheeky.

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I don't understand why everything is cheeky.

This makes you sound quite unintelligent.

Do you really need someone to point out it's because that's the way this person enjoys speaking?

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TheAverageJoanne · 30/12/2023 13:52

ElFupacabra · 30/12/2023 13:00

Do you want everyone to write how YOU would like on their own social media to appease you? Yeah, your friend is the problem. Perhaps spend some time in the real world and not stalking them on social media every second and this wouldn’t be a problem.

Ridiculous comment. Stalking indeed! Ever heard of a news feed? Silly Billy!

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