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BIL gave dog same same as DS

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bippitybippity · 29/12/2023 14:23

Not sure if AIBU or precious so am prepared to be told I am!

BIL (DH brother) recently got a dog and has given it the same name as our DS. Aibu to be irked by this? Name is common boys name (think Jack) and not a name you'd associate with a pet. Surely out of the millions of names out there you would choose one that isn't the same as your nephews?

I can't imagine naming a pet the same name as a close child relative?

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rainbowstardrops · 29/12/2023 14:52

What's your relationship with BIL usually like? It's a bit odd but maybe he has a valid reason?

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bippitybippity · 29/12/2023 14:52

pigsDOfly · 29/12/2023 14:51

A lot of people give their dogs human names nowadays so BIL giving his dog a human name is nothing unusual.

It does seem a bit odd tbh to give the dog your DS's name but given the way a good owner will view his dog, caring for it and loving it and seeing it as a member of the family, could mean this is almost a sign of affection towards his nephew.

I think it's best to let this go.

Your DS might be thrilled his uncle named his dog after him, especially if they're close.

This is a nice way to think of it, and a viewpoint I hadn't considered. Thank you

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randomstress · 29/12/2023 14:51

My sis had a dog who had the same name as my son, it is a good name. She didn't choose it it was a rescue dog.
The dog died a while ago but it was never an issue.

pigsDOfly · 29/12/2023 14:51

A lot of people give their dogs human names nowadays so BIL giving his dog a human name is nothing unusual.

It does seem a bit odd tbh to give the dog your DS's name but given the way a good owner will view his dog, caring for it and loving it and seeing it as a member of the family, could mean this is almost a sign of affection towards his nephew.

I think it's best to let this go.

Your DS might be thrilled his uncle named his dog after him, especially if they're close.

FastingBitchFace · 29/12/2023 14:51

MeMySonAnd1 · 29/12/2023 14:45

Are you still in speaking terms?

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All three of them have been dead a while now. Sadly the dog wasn't the first to go, I hated that thing. Grin

SutWytTi · 29/12/2023 14:50

That is really weird. Is he usually weird?

WetBandits · 29/12/2023 14:50

Mumoftwo1312 · 29/12/2023 14:48

Yanbu, I hate this modern trend of giving dogs human names like Max or Bella.

In my opinion dogs should have dog names like Rover or Butterscotch or Fluffy.

Nooooo!

My cats have human names. We considered calling our dog a human name but nothing suited him, so he’s named after a character from one of our favourite films.

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bippitybippity · 29/12/2023 14:50

Fannyannie · 29/12/2023 14:40

I see your point - it’s a bit of a weird thing to do -

My husband & I have had the honour of our names being used on the next door neighbours Guinea pigs- by their kids. A long time ago. I still laugh about it now, your post reminded me.

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Kids are funny! If it'd been the kids who had named the dog don't think I'd have given it much thought... but it was definitely DBil

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Arrestedforit · 29/12/2023 14:48

Arrestedforit · 29/12/2023 14:46

Well, I used the same name for my DD that my parents had used for one of their dogs.
Dog now long dead, DD suits her name.
All well

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To be fair, I think the dog had died before my daughter was born.

Mumoftwo1312 · 29/12/2023 14:48

Yanbu, I hate this modern trend of giving dogs human names like Max or Bella.

In my opinion dogs should have dog names like Rover or Butterscotch or Fluffy.

ItsMyPartyParty · 29/12/2023 14:48

It’s really weird. Not something to get worked up over, but definitely weird.

Createausername1970 · 29/12/2023 14:47

I would find it odd. My dog has the same name as a friend's daughter. In my defence the dog was a rescue and already called that name, but I wouldn't have deliberately named her the same as a friend's daughter, so definitely would not have chosen the same name as a close relative.

AmazingDayz · 29/12/2023 14:47

NewNameNigel · 29/12/2023 14:44

For some reason people tend to go out of their way to make out the op is someone how odd to be bothered on name threads but in the real world of course this is a really odd thing to do!

Yep!

WetBandits · 29/12/2023 14:47

Doggymummar · 29/12/2023 14:35

My neighbour has cats called mark and Lola and a dog called Toby my dog is Millie. My sister's is Evie. My cat is Oscar. Lots of pets have people names. My name is often used for a dogs name too

Mark the cat Grin

Arrestedforit · 29/12/2023 14:46

FastingBitchFace · 29/12/2023 14:42

My parents did this, but they used MY name for their dog.

Well, I used the same name for my DD that my parents had used for one of their dogs.
Dog now long dead, DD suits her name.
All well

MeMySonAnd1 · 29/12/2023 14:45

FastingBitchFace · 29/12/2023 14:42

My parents did this, but they used MY name for their dog.

Are you still in speaking terms?

NewNameNigel · 29/12/2023 14:44

For some reason people tend to go out of their way to make out the op is someone how odd to be bothered on name threads but in the real world of course this is a really odd thing to do!

Fannyannie · 29/12/2023 14:43

That is truly weird

FastingBitchFace · 29/12/2023 14:42

My parents did this, but they used MY name for their dog.

Fannyannie · 29/12/2023 14:40

I see your point - it’s a bit of a weird thing to do -

My husband & I have had the honour of our names being used on the next door neighbours Guinea pigs- by their kids. A long time ago. I still laugh about it now, your post reminded me.

AmazingDayz · 29/12/2023 14:39

MN is weird about names irl most people would find this very odd!

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bippitybippity · 29/12/2023 14:38

Doggymummar · 29/12/2023 14:35

My neighbour has cats called mark and Lola and a dog called Toby my dog is Millie. My sister's is Evie. My cat is Oscar. Lots of pets have people names. My name is often used for a dogs name too

Yes I realise this it's more the fact it was chosen despite already being in use by his nephew.

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GalileoHumpkins · 29/12/2023 14:37

Think Jack

Is it Jack?
Honestly, I think it's weird that he's chosen the same name, do you see him much?

MrsKwazi · 29/12/2023 14:37

As per previous poster, it is very odd, but he is the one that looks like a twat, not you. Did he expect an argument/attention do you think?