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Mum thinks Dds Christmas present isn’t appropriate

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Timeafterthymes · 28/12/2023 22:53

Or too grown up for her at least

Shes 5 and a half and has loved music and dancing since she was teeny, she loves listening to the radio in the car and we often have music on YouTube on etc
We got her a kids MP3 player and headphones and went through a list with her of the songs she wants and Dh downloaded them. My Dm asked which music she had etc, when I told her, she exclaimed’Gosh how old is she?! Isn’t she too young for all that and this kind of present?’
I explained that Dd has been asking for a phone (no chance until high school) and an iPad (don’t want to get this yet either) She watches some tv and very occasionally can do a game on my iPhone
With this MP3 player, she gets to charge it herself, learn how to operate it etc and she loves it!
Was it an inappropriate gift for her age?
Songs on it she asked for, include: Ed sheeran, Imagine dragons, Harry styles, Beyoncé, Michael Jackson, Vanilla ice 😂Bob Marley..just a mix of random songs she likes

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pictoosh · 29/12/2023 09:32

Think your mum's just being a misery-guts because you've done something she regards as 'off the wall'. You don't need her permission or approval to have your own ideas so bash on. I think it's a brilliant gift.

failingupwards · 29/12/2023 09:27

So many of the songs I loved when I was younger were very obviously about sex. I didn’t realise until I was much older. Children don’t generally connect the dots until they’re emotionally mature enough to do so.

Beargrumps22 · 29/12/2023 09:20

most music things like Spotify will say if it is explicit lyrics but she probably won't understand what they are singing anyway but best she does not say it in front of the oldies!
gone are the days when young kids like dolls etc life moves on

CheesyChipsOnWembleyWay · 29/12/2023 09:12

Brilliant gift.

One of my most beloved gifts as a child was a Walkman with the tape of Like A Virgin when I was about 6 so 🤷‍♀️

Music is a great gift for kids - mine listen to all sorts and know that if there's a swear word we only sing along if it's at a concert. Accidentally played Don't Marry Her in the car once and now that's a firm favourite.

johnd2 · 29/12/2023 09:03

Timeafterthymes · 28/12/2023 22:57

It’s the song choices that she’s making me feel worried about now-some dance and rave type ones (a silly crab rave thing 🤷🏻‍♀️) and Who let the dogs out…it’s ok, isn’t it? 😬 She has some Beatles in there so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hah that made me laugh, when my son was two he loved scandalous by Misteeq
When he was 3 and learnt to read I gave him my old CD collection and a cd player and he was very pleased when he found the lily Allen song "fuck you"!
He seems ok so far.
So I wouldn't worry about who let the dogs out damaging your child!

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Timeafterthymes · 29/12/2023 02:08

@Bournetilly Its a little bunny shaped one, very cute

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Whichwhatnow · 29/12/2023 02:01

I will admit I was slightly shocked when my friend's little boy (at 6) was rocking out to RATM (yes, Killing in the Name - he seemed to particularly love shouting fuck you I won't do what you tell me) and Debaser by the Pixies (again, loved to shout "want to grow up to be a debaser!"), amongst others 😅 but he's now 12 and pretty much the coolest kid with the best musical taste ever.

Your DD's taste seems tame in comparison! And a love of music can't ever be a bad thing IMO (maybe tactfully discourage the Ed Sheeran though ha)

Ponderingwindow · 29/12/2023 01:41

It is a perfect gift for your child.

MrsRuldolph · 29/12/2023 01:33

RedToothBrush · 29/12/2023 00:16

Inappropriate in what way?

Cos its not got Andy and the Odd Socks on it?

Don't knock Andy and the odd socks! We saw them twice a few years ago at the CBBC summer specials and they were fab! DD1 is now a teenager, and her friends have recently "discovered" indie and grunge music i.e 90s era stuff....she commented that she never realised I had such good taste in music 😆

Bournetilly · 29/12/2023 01:31

Sounds perfect to me! Can I ask which mp3 player you got please? My 4 year old got some headphones for Christmas (got them for the plane when we go on holiday) but she loves them and hasn’t stopped listening to music from my phone.

HolidaysPleaseNow · 29/12/2023 01:08

I have a 4 year old and she has her own playlist on alexa. Whenever we are out and a song she likes comes on the radio, she asks for it to be added to her playlist. I love that she loves music! She enjoys the most random stuff as well, she's not into Disney songs etc.

Devilsmommy · 29/12/2023 00:56

SisterMichaelsHabit · 28/12/2023 23:03

I mean it's not like you've put Little John or System of a Down on there. 🤣

My 15mo loves a bit of system of a down🤣

Poorlycatadvicewanted · 29/12/2023 00:56

Mine sing those. Don't give it another thought

SantaBakula · 29/12/2023 00:53

GrandTheftWalrus · 28/12/2023 23:44

I wish I'd thought of something like that for my 7yo. She likes watching music videos on YouTube. Disturbed sound of silence seems to be her favourite right now.

When she was about 2/3 she loved dancing to Metallica.

Your little one has great taste in music , Disturb's version of Sound Of Silence is a excellent song.

@Timeafterthymes, as many pp have said its a great gift , I think music has a way of connecting us like nothing else has.
Also the fact that she is dancing and jumping around is much better for her health than sitting watching TV.

Could you carefully bring up the conversation with your mum about the music she ( and you ) listened to when growing up .
If you can get her reminiscing about music she liked at about the same age as your dc she will hopefully realise its just the 'new' way to enjoy music now .

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Timeafterthymes · 29/12/2023 00:34

*Too high

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Benibidibici · 29/12/2023 00:20

Oh and my DC has yoto headphones too.... is this not quite common? I know loads of kids with these. My dc have spent December listening to christmas pop songs, 6 year old bloody loves wham

Benibidibici · 29/12/2023 00:18

My 4 year old has a kids music/audiobook player (yoto). We made music cards, she also likes imagine dragons, plus there's stuff like George ezra she loves

Wokkadema · 29/12/2023 00:17

Sounds like a perfect gift! And look - you know your kiddo. You know what she likes but also what she's exposed to in everyday life and how she handles it. You don't need us or your mum to approve!! Of course as mums we always want to think things through and make sure we make the best choices we can - but we also have to back ourselves and not get thrown by everyone else's opinions.
Only thing I would be careful of is the volume, need to protect her hearing so she can still enjoy music when she's a granny herself 😊

PastorCarrBonarra · 29/12/2023 00:16

I got a record player and the Grease soundtrack album when I was 6. Kids these days don’t know they’re born 😀👍

RedToothBrush · 29/12/2023 00:16

Inappropriate in what way?

Cos its not got Andy and the Odd Socks on it?

HoppingPavlova · 29/12/2023 00:14

I was going to respond YANBU, until you threw in Michael Jackson ………

Thementalloadisreal · 29/12/2023 00:14

It’s a great present. I’d pop a few kidz bop albums on there, that way she can listen to lots of pop songs without worrying about bad words.

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Timeafterthymes · 29/12/2023 00:12

@Redpaisley They’re special childrens ones where the volume can’t go to high etc

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user1492757084 · 29/12/2023 00:12

Sounds good.

Screen songs for lyric and language suitablility and regularly check that she is not setting the head phones too loud and damaging her hearing.
Can she set it up for Karaoke?

Redpaisley · 29/12/2023 00:08

Timeafterthymes · 28/12/2023 22:53

Or too grown up for her at least

Music is fine. Could she be worried that using headphones at such young age may impact her hearing?

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