To be so upset about this?

He's playing a good game of cat and mouse with you OP.

Just don't respond, OP.

And don't ask him to block you; that gives him the power and shows him that you want him more than he wants you.

Instead, just ignore him. It's very very hard, but it'll be worth it in the long run not to give in.

OP your post of whatus · Today 19:43

He is literally saying to you "I consider you as worthy of nothing more than a non human body I can get my sexual needs from"

He is probably seeing another woman/women who he is interested in getting to know as a person/potential relationship and he has relegated you to this sub-human category.

I am saying this not to hurt you but because I want you to feel angry with him. He is gross, see him for who he really is and tell him in no uncertain terms never to contact you ever again.

If you can do this, with the passage of a little time you will realise what a lucky escape you have had.

No thanks cunty.

Block and delete.

Look at yourself in the mirror and KNOW you are worth more.

Where is your daughter during all this drama?
Have some respect for yourself OP.

Why on earth would you choose to demean yourself like this? One day, quite soon actually!, you will look back on this episode in your life and slap yourself (metaphorically) around the head and cringe.

You are choosing to allow yourself to hurt yourself like this. You do have agency. Not responding and blocking him is the way to go, and you know this. So do it!

NB: reading The Six Pillars of Self Esteem or similar would probably benefit you.

OP, this utter scumbag is completely feeding off you. Why on earth are you letting someone treat you with such disgusting disrespect? Please dig deep, find your self worth and tell this fuck boy to fuck the fuck off.

I’m really sorry this has happened to you especially over Christmas you deserve better.

Your post makes me really cross though. You have a little daughter, yet you’re crying in front of her and obsessing over this cretin who has treated you like shit. What sort of example is this setting to her? Won’t this be ruining her Christmas?

Why are you putting this guy above your daughter after four months or any period in time? Grow up and block him.

Then, stay away from relationships until you get some self esteem back….don’t bring creeps like this into your family life. I get it must be lonely, but join a club or a meet up….don’t waste another minute on people like this.

So you’re good enough to have sex with but not good enough to have a relationship with? What an asshole. Don’t take his bread crumbs. Why be someone’s option when you can be someone else’s priority. Just because he can’t see your worth doesn’t mean someone else won’t. Have some pride. Tell him you’re worth more than a fuck, block and move on.

It's hard, OP, but please try to do what you would tell your DD to do if the time comes.

Honestly… this guy sounds like a narcissist. He’s totally feeding off you right now… it’s horrible and that’s why it hurts so much! If you don’t get out now you could be in this for the wee a! He’s not a good person, he’s loving this and getting total supply from you. You’ll end up a shadow of your former self, he’s a bad person.

As long as you’re with the wrong one, you won’t meet the right one. He’s not caring about your well being and how you are, he’s seeing how far he can push using you. And he’s telling you it straight up. Lose his number, block him and delete it.

If you say yes to this, all you're doing is delaying the pain and you'll feel used/a fool on top. Ask him to block you, it's ok to wallow/grieve for a while, completely get over him then move on. Block on your end too so he's not in control

ffs get some self respect and dignity

You are just blocking yourself from meeting sometime who could actually value you and make you feel great

Ugh. I know you’re going to take the pitiful scraps he’s offering you OP, but fucking hell, I wish you wouldn’t.

With this^

and this:

He then said he would be up for a friends with benefits situation as he enjoyed my chat and the sex. When I agreed to that (which I didn't even want but went into panic mode and wanted to keep him in my life)

He sounds a total cunt. 🫢

He may have been great but he's not for you. Delete all details and find someone else, but don't jump in with both feet. Take things slowly and get to know any new partner first. You need to protect yourself.

Anyone who tells you they don't want to be with you anymore, but are happy to carry on shagging you is not "great". He's an arsehole. See him for what he is and go and fine someone worthy of YOU.

@whatus

No but I keep thinking maybe I'm just not worthy of him. He was great. He really was.

He really wasn't great. He treated you like shit. You need to keep repeating that until it sticks. No one worthy of you would have treated you like that.

He's obviously not that great. As others have said block and delete him.
Move on and think about how great YOU are and that you deserve better.

And look after your daughter. This is your priority and remind yourself every day of that. It's not fair to put some pie in the sky love relationship above the relationship you have with your daughter.

He's playing with you and he's recognised you're vulnerable. Try to be strong. This man is not all he seems to you. He's a manipulator. Don't be surprised when he reappears on the scene. You are vulnerable.

Is that all it takes? A good shag and a laugh?

You are a mother. You need and deserve respect, kindness, loyalty, consideration and decency.

You DO NOT need the faux compassion of a man enjoying an ego boost at your expense.

Deep breath, chin up, stop crying and delete all his contact details.

You will meet a man that earns your respect and love and values you and your dd.